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monkeybride
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Can I punch DH? UPDATED....
OK I don't know why but I am seriously aggrevated this morning. Its 9am here and he's off today and he's still sleeping. When do I get a "day off"? When do I get to sleep in? NEVER!!! 
Then I come downstairs and the kitchen is still a mess from dinner last night so I had to clean that up.
I am just so aggrevated. Is he freaking blind to everything. My house is a mess and I can't keep up with things and I am tired of asking him to help why can't he just do it.
OK rant over.
UPDATE:
OK so he made me even more mad. I get the baby down for her nap, we fall back to sleep then all wake up together. I get up with Miranda, change her and nurse her and what does DH do. Makes himself a bowl of cereal. UMMMMMM do you think you might as if I would like something for breakfast. He goes "Oh I figured you ate already since you cleaned up the kitchen." Oh yeah in my spare time.
He did redeem himself slightly by getting my Christmas tree down and putting some of Miranda's new toys together.
But as I sit and type this she is upstairs crying and I am waiting for him to go and get her. Let's see how long this takes. Oh wait he just said he was waiting for me to get her. 
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BrunetteMom
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Why don't you wake him up? That's what I do or I have the kids run in and bumrush him. He's a parent too and I never have a day off so if I'm up, he should be too.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:09 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Posted by BrunetteMom
Why don't you wake him up? That's what I do or I have the kids run in and bumrush him. He's a parent too and I never have a day off so if I'm up, he should be too.
I am just trying to get to the point that I don't start screaming at him before I wake him up. I dont like to fight now that we have a baby so I am sitting here trying to calm myself first.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:12 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Ohhhhh we have that problem too. I guess because while I was on maternity leave I took care of all the night and early AM feedings so DH just got used to not participating. But once I started working, and once the weekends started rolling around, I stopped feeling so guilty for waking him up and started to do just that. We had so many arguments at first because I would let the anger build and build so that when I finally woke him up I would do it with such an attitude. Now, instead of letting it get to that point, the minute I feel like he's not contributing enough, or I need a sanity break, I walk into the room, wake him up and tell him it's his turn. It's been working quite nicely 
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:16 AM |
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-Laurie-
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Take your little wee one and give her to daddy. That's what we do. Jack wakes Daddy up on the weekends and Mommy quickly escapes and cleans up the mess of the house and showers.
Normally this works for about an hour until it's naptime for Jack and Dh is still in bed and I crawl back in..lol
My husband needs his sleep for his job but sometimes fair is fair.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:16 AM |
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monkeybride
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Its not even that he's still sleeping that gets me the most. Its that the house has been a wreck for days and he knows that naptime with Miranda is difficult so its not like I can get all this stuff done while she sleeps because A lot of times I spend half her nap laying there with her to keep her asleep or I am afraid to make a peep of noise in fear of waking her up (even if she's all the way upstairs).
Our tree needs to come down, he's been saying it for days because its all dried out. He was up until 2am do you think he would have cleaned the kitchen since I cooked or taken down the tree or at least started? NOOOO.
Now if I said I need you to do this, this and this he would do it but why do I have to be his mother too. Its never that he won't help its that I always have to ask and I am just so damn sick of it.
Ugggh thanks for listening to me whine this morning.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:20 AM |
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by BrunetteMom
Why don't you wake him up? That's what I do or I have the kids run in and bumrush him. He's a parent too and I never have a day off so if I'm up, he should be too.
I am just trying to get to the point that I don't start screaming at him before I wake him up. I dont like to fight now that we have a baby so I am sitting here trying to calm myself first.
I totally understand what you mean.. but I know how bad my blood would be boiling the longer he sleeps lol I like the suggestion of bringing the baby in too. I used to do that too.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:24 AM |
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Posted by monkeybride
Its not even that he's still sleeping that gets me the most. Its that the house has been a wreck for days and he knows that naptime with Miranda is difficult so its not like I can get all this stuff done while she sleeps because A lot of times I spend half her nap laying there with her to keep her asleep or I am afraid to make a peep of noise in fear of waking her up (even if she's all the way upstairs).
Our tree needs to come down, he's been saying it for days because its all dried out. He was up until 2am do you think he would have cleaned the kitchen since I cooked or taken down the tree or at least started? NOOOO.
Now if I said I need you to do this, this and this he would do it but why do I have to be his mother too. Its never that he won't help its that I always have to ask and I am just so damn sick of it.
Ugggh thanks for listening to me whine this morning.
you could try just going on strike
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:25 AM |
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Re: Can I punch DH?
Posted by monkeybride
OK I don't know why but I am seriously aggrevated this morning. Its 9am here and he's off today and he's still sleeping. When do I get a "day off"? When do I get to sleep in? NEVER!!!
Then I come downstairs and the kitchen is still a mess from dinner last night so I had to clean that up.
I am just so aggrevated. Is he freaking blind to everything. My house is a mess and I can't keep up with things and I am tired of asking him to help why can't he just do it.
OK rant over.
Are we married to the same man???? Are they related? to you!
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:32 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Can I punch DH?
I think they're all related...
My DH thinks he should get an award when he's home with the kids all day...MAYBE if he actually fed them lunch instead of telling me they said they weren't hungry, I would consider crowning him.
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:38 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Posted by nrthshgrl
I think they're all related...
My DH thinks he should get an award when he's home with the kids all day...MAYBE if he actually fed them lunch instead of telling me they said they weren't hungry, I would consider crowning him.
Oh you're husband does this too??? I thought I was the only one who had that issue. Funny how when I offer her something at lunch, she always eats it
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:44 AM |
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BrunetteMom
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LOL these replies are all making my chuckle. It's comforting to know that other people's husbands are like mine lol
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:46 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Posted by ambersmom
at lunch, she always eats it
I have this strange theory that you're not supposed to let the 2 year old & 4 year old make decisions about IF they need lunch or WHEN they go to bed. I've also come home to Maddie peeing through her diaper - do you know how much pee a diaper can actually hold??
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| Posted 12/30/05 11:56 AM |
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CaidensMommy
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I have that problem too!
My DH sleeps the day away on his days off. It takes me hours sometimes to wake him up. He's a VERY heavy sleeper. Not once since my son was born have I been able to sleep in. Definitely not fair!
I work FT also and he NEVER gets up in the morning to help either. It's always been me who gets my son ready to go to daycare. I get mad over it all the time. It's been like this since the beginning. Even before my son came. There doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it? 
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| Posted 12/30/05 3:22 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: Can I punch DH?
hey are you married to my DH seriously
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| Posted 12/30/05 4:49 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Can I punch DH? UPDATED....
I think he's going to need more direction that waiting things out. Especially since it's only adding to your aggravation.
Maybe you can talk to him about not waiting for you, taking a more active role with the baby & being polite like asking if you would like something to eat if he's getting something for himself.
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| Posted 12/31/05 1:57 PM |
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Re: Can I punch DH? UPDATED....
I wish i could come help you out. My DH tells me he is going to clean the house ( I am due Feb 16) and it doesnt get done EWVER. I finally start doing it and then he says I told you I was going to clean. Yeah only after I amd doing it already almost 8 months preg.
They are all the same
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pharmcat2000
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Re: Can I punch DH? UPDATED....
I have not had my baby yet (I'm due in April) and I have already resigned myself to knowing that DH's laziness will bug me even more as I start needing more help. I have recently decided that most of them really don't think they are doing as bad as we think they are. For most of them, the mess, dishes, garbage etc. just isn't as pressing an issue as it is to us. I have decided that most of the DO have to be asked, told or reminded of what to do, and when. I try not to let it bother me anymore, but I will just delegate duties to him, and have found that he usually does them {almost} as well as I can.
As far as helping with the baby, I have already fixed that problem -- I will be working nights on the weekends (and sleeping during the day). So, when DH is off, Sat & Sun, he will have no choice but to get up at night, and take care of the baby during the day. I will leave him very explicit lists and schedules to follow until he gets it himself. I'm convinced that if I train him right, he can become a competent adult.
I hope all this is not wishful thinking.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Can I punch DH? UPDATED....
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I will leave him very explicit lists and schedules to follow until he gets it himself. I'm convinced that if I train him right, he can become a competent adult.
I hope all this is not wishful thinking.
I had to laugh when I read this. I went away for less than 24 hours & actually wrote out a schedule with "Change diaper" in every 2 hour time slot.
I do agree that we definitely need to give more instructions to them and eventually they will feed/diaper the kids - just not on our timetable.
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