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Janice
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Christmas shopping spinoff
okay, so I do not have any kids. BIL has 3 kids. I spend 50 a piece on them. I only buy for the kids, not BIL and his wife.
My SIL has 1 son. I buy for him, but not SIL.
Now, here is my question. I think if I had children and a childless couple was coming over with gifts for my kids, then it is only right to give them something in return. Do you agree?
BIL once made a comment how he is glad that we don't exchange. I had to bite my tongue. I feel like I walk into his home with 150.00 worth of gifts, and they don't even hand me homemade cookies or anything.
I know it sounds petty, but I can't help but to think that if I were the parent, I would get the other couple something
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Posted 8/19/05 3:30 PM  |
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
In that case, I would give you cookies or a bottle of wine (you and your DH). I dont think thats petty - you spend you hard earned $ on his kids!
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:31 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Yes, definatly.
We do the same thing. We only buy for DH's sisters' kids... not them.
So...... for his sister without kids we buy gifts for their dogs and/or something for them.
And since WE dont have kids his sisters buy us little gifts. One of his sisters buys teh dogs gifts instead.
But, yeah, i totally agree wiht you. They should def buy you something. Its only fair.
Message edited 8/19/2005 3:34:22 PM.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:33 PM |
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by missus-hbradio
In that case, I would give you cookies or a bottle of wine (you and your DH). I dont think thats petty - you spend you hard earned $ on his kids!
I agree. We have single people who buy for our kids and I would feel bad going to their home or them coming to us and we have nothing to give them.
Usuaully we will buy a nice bottle or wine or bring a cake , pastries, or something small.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:33 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
one time I hinted to give us a christmas picture of the kids, we normally only get the card in the mail. but they did not listen.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:33 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by Janice
okay, so I do not have any kids. BIL has 3 kids. I spend 50 a piece on them. I only buy for the kids, not BIL and his wife.
My SIL has 1 son. I buy for him, but not SIL.
Now, here is my question. I think if I had children and a childless couple was coming over with gifts for my kids, then it is only right to give them something in return. Do you agree?
BIL once made a comment how he is glad that we don't exchange. I had to bite my tongue. I feel like I walk into his home with 150.00 worth of gifts, and they don't even hand me homemade cookies or anything.
I know it sounds petty, but I can't help but to think that if I were the parent, I would get the other couple something
i have to say i agree....yes i think that something would be given to the couple....In fact i think it is RUDE not to!
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:35 PM |
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karacg
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
I agree with you 100%. We get gifts from Dh's siblings but not from mine, and we get $50 gifts for all nieces and nephews. My family is so cheap...
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:35 PM |
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
I just wanted to add .. the whole point on my thread was that I am sick of spending ALOT of money on DH's brother and sister... I know they are spending the same or more between buying for our son and for us, but I think thats crazy. They should save their money and only buy for the baby and we would just give them a little something.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:37 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Well, I think that as a courtesy they should at least get you maybe a combined gift maybe a gift card or something, but reality is that they're not obligated to get to you anything(IMO). 
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:38 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by AJsMommy122
I just wanted to add .. the whole point on my thread was that I am sick of spending ALOT of money on DH's brother and sister... I know they are spending the same or more between buying for our son and for us, but I think thats crazy. They should save their money and only buy for the baby and we would just give them a little something.
oh no I totally agree. Once a family member of mine has kids, then the presents end for them.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:39 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
I don't think they should have to get you anything. When you have kids, they will buy presents for your children, and at some point their children will probably be at an age where you stop buying gifts for them. Then they will be the ones spending money on your kids while you aren't spending on them.
We give presents to brad's cousin's kids when we see them for their birthdays or chanukah, but we don't get gifts from them in exchange, nor do I expect to. It's not a matter of the money spent, it's a matter of giving the kids gifts because we want to. One day they will be giving gifts to our children. JMO.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:46 PM |
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by Jax430
I don't think they should have to get you anything. When you have kids, they will buy presents for your children, and at some point their children will probably be at an age where you stop buying gifts for them. Then they will be the ones spending money on your kids while you aren't spending on them.
We give presents to brad's cousin's kids when we see them for their birthdays or chanukah, but we don't get gifts from them in exchange, nor do I expect to. It's not a matter of the money spent, it's a matter of giving the kids gifts because we want to. One day they will be giving gifts to our children. JMO.
I agree with this to a point but what about couples who can not have children or don't plan to ever have children???
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:51 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by AJsMommy122
Posted by Jax430
I don't think they should have to get you anything. When you have kids, they will buy presents for your children, and at some point their children will probably be at an age where you stop buying gifts for them. Then they will be the ones spending money on your kids while you aren't spending on them.
We give presents to brad's cousin's kids when we see them for their birthdays or chanukah, but we don't get gifts from them in exchange, nor do I expect to. It's not a matter of the money spent, it's a matter of giving the kids gifts because we want to. One day they will be giving gifts to our children. JMO.
I agree with this to a point but what about couples who can not have children or don't plan to ever have children???
okay, good point. It would be nice to be give the couple cookies or a bottle of wine or something, but I still don't feel like it's necessary.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:53 PM |
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nylisa
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
We don't have children but buy all our friends children and in return they each give us a gift from the kids.
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
okay, good point. It would be nice to be give the couple cookies or a bottle of wine or something, but I still don't feel like it's necessary.
I agree. I don't think returning a gift is an obligation, but a courtesy or just out of love for another person.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:55 PM |
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CowgirlChick97
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
I agree...even if the present is "from the kids", still should get something..its rude NOT to.
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
I agree 100% with you, Janice...
its not that you want them to reciprocate, money wise.. its just the GESTURE (in the spirit of giving for the holiday season) that it would be NICE to be acknowledged with a little sometehing in return.. homemade treats, candles, really there are SO many sales around the holidays you could get a person ANYTHING and it would be sufficient
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:57 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by Syliblond81106
I agree...even if the present is "from the kids", still should get something..its rude NOT to.
But I don't think the perosn giving & not receiving should be upset over it. I understand it's annoying but you can't expect to get something.
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| Posted 8/19/05 3:57 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Christmas shopping spinoff
Posted by FeliciaDP
I agree 100% with you, Janice...
its not that you want them to reciprocate, money wise.. its just the GESTURE (in the spirit of giving for the holiday season) that it would be NICE to be acknowledged with a little sometehing in return.. homemade treats, candles, really there are SO many sales around the holidays you could get a person ANYTHING and it would be sufficient
I agree. I wouldn't expect them to spend the same amount on me, but the gesture would be nice.
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