CIO and only wanting dad

ok so for the past 2 weeks we have been doing CIO because we cant have BRyan in our bed anymore he moves so much that we werent get any sleep all 3 of us. Anyhow, its going really well. The longest we had to let him cry is like 20 minutes and he sleeps the whole night thru only from about 7 to 6.30.

THe problem is that my Dh doesnt put him to bed at night, he cannot toplerate any crying whatsoever ( which is why Bryan has been in our bed since day 1) so he leaves the house while I put the baby to bed. I do his bedtime routein and then I out him down drowsy yet awake and he cries but its been getting better and better.

OK the real problem ( sorry if rambling) is that in the mornig when DH gets up the baby gets up too, Im not sure if DH, the dog or the baby himself wakes up but its always 6 30 and I always want to sleep a little more so DH goes into gets the baby out because he is crying and tries to bring him to me in bed and the baby will not have it. He screams and cries in my arms and reaches for my Daddy. Of course my husband loves this and plays into it a little staying xtra time holding him gioving him to me back and forth and all the time he screams for dh until 20 min or so after he has left. What gives? Does he negative associate me with putting him in the dreaded vrib and daddy rescuing him in the morning- Im a little bummed out because Im home withthe guy all day, bending over backwards for him and DAddys home for 2 hours a night and he is GOd. Dont get me wrong I want him to have awonderful relationship with his dad I just dont like feeling completly rejected by my son!

Message edited 7/27/2006 9:22:44 AM.

Re: CIO and only wanting dad

I really think that babies just go through stages where they prefer one parent over the other. Emily went through her Mommy only stage and her Daddy only stage as well. I don't think your baby associates you with bad things because you put him to bed, although it would be nice for your DH to eventually start being part of that night time routine!