constantly whining, demanding, and tantruming toddler

I swear for as easy of a baby as DD was she's such a hard toddler...she's 19 mos and is constantly whining, demanding or throwing a tantrum about something....There are some days that I just throw my hands up in the air and just let her do what she wants..I can't fight it sometimes....

How do you guys do it..plus with it being this hot out I feel like we're both going stir crazy so that's adding to it...

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Does she get to play with other toddlers, like a playdate or something?

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by brownie

Does she get to play with other toddlers, like a playdate or something?

sometimes...we have a class on Monday and sometimes we have playdates..and she's fine then it's just with me or DH that she feels the needs to go nuts

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Aw Jen I know how you're feeling, Shane has days just like that occasionally. It is *tough* to remain calm cool and colllected. But I read something recently that TOTALLY made sense to me... I can't quote it but it was basically:
You didn't get "mad" when your newborn cried, right?? It's a baby, that's what they do ! Well the tantrum stage is the SAME for toddlers!!! It's just "what they do"!!! They are learning SO MUCH every single day, and while their minds and mouths and physical abilities are all mismatched, they are frustrated!!!! It will get better over time but we can't lose our marbles *every* day, there's nothing "wrong" with our DC it's just a very awkward age!!!

Don't try to "fix" the tantrum, but help her to express what she wants/wants to do (assuming it's not dangerous/breakable). If it goes on and on, use the old distraction technique!!! I've been known to walk away and launch into random show tunes which just elicits a from DS, but hey that's better than the screaming/grunting/stomping thing.

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I sometimes feel like my DS got switched with another child 4 days ago it was like a light switch and now he is "THAT" kid that I always wished he wouldn't be. Anyway with him I try and wait it out let him get out of his system for a minute or two before I try and reason with him. He started kicking and hitting and screaming " NO NO NO" anytime I need to get him dressed or I want to go out and for that I usually just stop and put him in time our for a minute. I make him say sorry and convince him that it is something he wants to do. I am trying everything but this age is hard. Maybe she is teething I think DS is getting his 2 yr molars and that's why he is behaving this way but IDK

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Posted by colette

Aw Jen I know how you're feeling, Shane has days just like that occasionally. It is *tough* to remain calm cool and colllected. But I read something recently that TOTALLY made sense to me... I can't quote it but it was basically:
You didn't get "mad" when your newborn cried, right?? It's a baby, that's what they do ! Well the tantrum stage is the SAME for toddlers!!! It's just "what they do"!!! They are learning SO MUCH every single day, and while their minds and mouths and physical abilities are all mismatched, they are frustrated!!!! It will get better over time but we can't lose our marbles *every* day, there's nothing "wrong" with our DC it's just a very awkward age!!!

Don't try to "fix" the tantrum, but help her to express what she wants/wants to do (assuming it's not dangerous/breakable). If it goes on and on, use the old distraction technique!!! I've been known to walk away and launch into random show tunes which just elicits a from DS, but hey that's better than the screaming/grunting/stomping thing.

Message edited 8/5/2010 8:56:03 PM.

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We're in the same situation here and it's been very concerning to me especially since we will be bringing a sibling to the mix within the next 3 weeks!

We had her 18 month check up yesterday and talked to the ped about the tantrums and the ridiculousness of some of them.

My peds answer...

"this is the behavior you want at this age".... She's right on target and the only thing to do is ignore, ignore, ignore.....

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my girls have been alot like that lately - i think that they just get stir crazy in the house and with this heat. They love to be outdoors - they actually are very well behaved outdoors - its indoors that they get bored and whiny.

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I wish there was a "like" button
I have to bookmark this so I can print it out and read it every day! DD isn't quite there yet but I can see it starting slowly and Im terrified of what the next six months will bring...she can have quite the temper at 12 months!

Posted by colette

Aw Jen I know how you're feeling, Shane has days just like that occasionally. It is *tough* to remain calm cool and colllected. But I read something recently that TOTALLY made sense to me... I can't quote it but it was basically:
You didn't get "mad" when your newborn cried, right?? It's a baby, that's what they do ! Well the tantrum stage is the SAME for toddlers!!! It's just "what they do"!!! They are learning SO MUCH every single day, and while their minds and mouths and physical abilities are all mismatched, they are frustrated!!!! It will get better over time but we can't lose our marbles *every* day, there's nothing "wrong" with our DC it's just a very awkward age!!!

Don't try to "fix" the tantrum, but help her to express what she wants/wants to do (assuming it's not dangerous/breakable). If it goes on and on, use the old distraction technique!!! I've been known to walk away and launch into random show tunes which just elicits a from DS, but hey that's better than the screaming/grunting/stomping thing.

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by colette

Aw Jen I know how you're feeling, Shane has days just like that occasionally. It is *tough* to remain calm cool and colllected. But I read something recently that TOTALLY made sense to me... I can't quote it but it was basically:
You didn't get "mad" when your newborn cried, right?? It's a baby, that's what they do ! Well the tantrum stage is the SAME for toddlers!!! It's just "what they do"!!! They are learning SO MUCH every single day, and while their minds and mouths and physical abilities are all mismatched, they are frustrated!!!! It will get better over time but we can't lose our marbles *every* day, there's nothing "wrong" with our DC it's just a very awkward age!!!

Don't try to "fix" the tantrum, but help her to express what she wants/wants to do (assuming it's not dangerous/breakable). If it goes on and on, use the old distraction technique!!! I've been known to walk away and launch into random show tunes which just elicits a from DS, but hey that's better than the screaming/grunting/stomping thing.

ITA agree and realize that it's mainly frustration with not being fully verbal etc...it's just soooooo exhausting some days...

What she did start doing lately is when she realizes she's gone a bit nuts she comes over mid cry and hugs me and kisses me to try to sweet talk me into allowing her to do whatever she was screaming about before


Vcangomez, I try to walk away from her if she's really going nuts, but in public it's so hard! I also think DD is getting her canines in so that's adding to it as well

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Frankie is getting impossible these days, impossible. My sweet, little boy has transformed into a bratty, demanding toddler.

If I here "No, Mommy, go away.That's mine" , one more time, I think my hair will fall out!!!

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It's age appropriate!!!

Part of terrible 2s or terrible 3s!!!!

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Sounds like the terribles 2's starting early. My mom always said my brother was the best and easiest kid till he turned 2.

Don't worry, she'll grow out of it... after college.

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LOL - I am so glad this was posted -

Ava is a charmer around others, at daycare, and at home*.....

the othe night we were at a GTG w/ family and for 2 hours she was a charming sweet little 2yr old girl....once in the car - she turned into someone else's child and the rest of the night was NOT charming. The whining has subsided - but the NO NO NO word makes me nuts....she'll wake up a nd the first word is NO...(WTH??) --- she is like a light switch - all sweetness, then poof, NOOOOO, and a little brat !


I try to ignore it as much as I can...she is much more bratty the DAY AFTER being at day care...that I have noticed.