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EricaAlt
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Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Ok... yesterday I told you guys I was upset about DS sleeping on his stomach the first day so yesterday he's been napping in the swing, which is fine. It just seems like all they do there is eat and sleep. According to their handbook the infant room should have some type of curriculum... tummy time, music, etc. I asked the afternoon teacher if he gets any of that when I picked him up b/c when I came at lunch and when I picked him up both times he was in the swing. I want him to have more interaction.
Sorry to vent! I know DS is only 3 months and I know it's hard for the teachers to take care of an infant room of 8 kids, but there should be more staff that plays. One boy I always see in the bouncy every time...
Maybe I'm making too much out of it and I still have to give it time.
Also, I asked for some more info on DS's chart besides changing diaper and feeding times and they said no problem (both the head teacher and director) so when I picked up DS there was NOTHING on the chart. I'd like to know he did more than have a bottle and nap... I'd like to know if he was happy, sad, enjoyed tummy time (if they even did that).
I cried so much last night. 
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
 I haven't had a baby in daycare, but I'd probably be upset too, even if that type of stuff is really "the norm".
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
I know it's hard... I felt the same way at first. Everytime I went there, my DD was in the bouncy seat. Now when I pick her up she's always sitting at the little table, sometimes with other kids sometimes alone, but that's what she LOVES. I'm sure they are doing as much activity as possible with a 3 month old. Remember, at that age, really all they ARE doing is eating and sleeping and not much else.
Does the room have a daily schedule posted? The infant room where my daughter is has a daily schedule of activiities. Most activities are rather short because at that age, they have the attention span of a pea 
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by MrsRbk
I know it's hard... I felt the same way at first. Everytime I went there, my DD was in the bouncy seat. Now when I pick her up she's always sitting at the little table, sometimes with other kids sometimes alone, but that's what she LOVES. I'm sure they are doing as much activity as possible with a 3 month old. Remember, at that age, really all they ARE doing is eating and sleeping and not much else.
Does the room have a daily schedule posted? The infant room where my daughter is has a daily schedule of activiities. Most activities are rather short because at that age, they have the attention span of a pea
No daily schedule... At one of the daycares I looked into that had one, but there were reasons I didn't pick it. I just wish I knew what was going on. When I call I get one word answers and the afternoon teacher told me now there's no time to do those activities so I feel DS is just sittin around. At 3 months he's very active. Loves dancing, looking at story books, will concentrate in the bouncy chair to see how it works.
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| Posted 9/10/09 9:14 AM |
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mrsgafforio
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
DS isn't in daycare at the moment but this is my fear. That my baby is just sleeping in the crib, in a swing or in a bouncy all day. Can you pop in at different times throughout the day?
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| Posted 9/10/09 9:38 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by mrsgafforio
DS isn't in daycare at the moment but this is my fear. That my baby is just sleeping in the crib, in a swing or in a bouncy all day. Can you pop in at different times throughout the day?
yup, I go in at lunch. Like I said... it's only been 2 days so I need to give it a chance. DS is such a happy baby and loves interaction, but when I came in at lunch he was awake and looknig around, but in the swing and when I picked him up he was sleeping in the swing. I would love to know if there's more interaction... reading and music time. I want lots of encouragement, etc. It also bothers me I don't get any info on the sched sheet... he eats and naps.
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| Posted 9/10/09 9:41 AM |
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by nbc188
I haven't had a baby in daycare, but I'd probably be upset too, even if that type of stuff is really "the norm".
 It's not the norm, I can assure you. When Alex was a baby, we would get detailed notes at the end of the day about how she did, and what activities she was involved in, whether it was tummy time, playing with the older kids, sign language classes, etc.
One of the reasons why I chose our school is because they have a strict policy against swings, tv's and even bouncy seats in the infant room. The babies are either napping in their own crib, or, if they are awake, they are on the floor playing with other babies/teachers, in someone's arms, or out on a stroll.
I'm sorry you are so upset - I would be too - I would go in and talk to the Director again and be clear about what it is you want for your son. I would also recommend that you tell them that, at least for your son, NO SWING time. That way, he either naps in a crib, or he's on the floor and playing
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by MikesWife
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh! 
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| Posted 9/10/09 9:57 AM |
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by MikesWife
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
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Posted by MikesWife
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
Me neither!!!!
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mrsgafforio
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
Me either. That wouldn't fly with me!!!!
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lakadema
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
My son is not in daycare but I would definitely not be happy with those answers. At 3 months, my son loved interaction: I read books, played with him during tummy time, tried to teach him to roll over, conversed with him all day, etc. I would definitely be speaking with the director about that.
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by MrsRbk
I know it's hard... I felt the same way at first. Everytime I went there, my DD was in the bouncy seat. Now when I pick her up she's always sitting at the little table, sometimes with other kids sometimes alone, but that's what she LOVES. I'm sure they are doing as much activity as possible with a 3 month old. Remember, at that age, really all they ARE doing is eating and sleeping and not much else.
Does the room have a daily schedule posted? The infant room where my daughter is has a daily schedule of activiities. Most activities are rather short because at that age, they have the attention span of a pea
ITA.
And remember, the times you are stopping in/dropping off/picking up ARE very busy, so that is possibly why it seems like there isn't much going on.
I would hope that as this week moves along, his sheet will get more detailed.
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by mrsgafforio
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
Me either. That wouldn't fly with me!!!!
That's unacceptable. I get several sentences on DS's sheet each day telling me about the things he did. I always talk to his teachers when I pick him up to find out more about his day. If I get there on the later side and his regular teachers are already gone, I talk to the teacher who has been watching him towards the end of the day.
Even if it's a busy day, they should still be able to tell you about the things your DS did. I'm sorry you're having a tough transition.
ETA: For the first few weeks, I'd call in the middle of the day to find out how DS was doing. I'd try to do something like that just so you get a better idea of what has been going on.
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
I would be upset too, my DS is not at daycare but there are so few teachers to each baby, the simply can't give them the one on one that you would
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
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Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
Ummm me either. Not your problem. I don't have kids in daycare so not sure if I know what I'm talking about but I would look for somewhere new. I would also be annoyed that he was taking all his naps in the swing. They should be putting him on his back in the crib.
Also the fact that you asked for more info and they still did not give it is inexclusable
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
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Posted by MikesWife
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
No way! Me either and as a head teacher (former), if I found out my assistant told a parent that, I'd be fuming and holding a meetiing with the director and the assistant!
Can you ask the head teacher at least what goes on? Is she in the room most of the day?
I know you don't want to be "that parent", but, maybe just request to the head teacher you'd like more detail.
I worked in a day care that had no swings and I do think it was a good thing.
Best of Luck to you!
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
Posted by brownie
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Posted by MikesWife
Are there any other parents there when you drop off DS? Maybe you can ask them what kind of activities their DC are doing throughout the day, etc.
I would just ask them every afternoon - "so what did Mason do today?"
Maybe give them ideas of what he really likes. I'm sure they are probably just getting to know your son and his schedule.
I tried... the afternoon teacher answered... we're very busy.
I'm like... what does that mean? Ugh!
I wouldn't be okay with that answer
Me neither. DD's teachers always took the time to speak to me on the phone. They always welcomed me in the room. And always let me know what DD was doing. Her room did have a swing, bouncy seat, and that thing they sit up in with the toys (can't remember the name of it). the babies would be rotated from each place to the floor to play to their arms. They never sat in any one thing for too long.
I would be a little concerned if they are rushing you off the phone like that. They should be sensitive to the fact that you are a new mother and worried about you newborn.
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| Posted 9/10/09 11:25 AM |
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
The "we're very busy" answer wouldn't fly with me. You deserve to know what your child is up to. The notes I got sent home every day in the infant room rarely told me what activities he did, but I didn't mind because the teachers would verbally tell me special things he did each day when I picked him up. I liked hearing it from them in more detail than a quick sentence on paper. No one has ever told me that they were too busy to talk to me when I call to ask about DS.
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
its not the norm (i think)
AJ had a full sheet of info.. how many times they changed her, if she ate well or not, how many oz, etc. They did not write down the tummy time but id get a lil update each time i picked her up. The lady in that room was great. She told me how AJ smiles at the mobile when they changed her, how she loved certain sounds or toys, etc. They told me how one of the unused dolls from another girl in the room was her favorite but the mother wanted the doll back... so i went and bought one for AJ hahaha. Heck I can honestly say without the help of Mryna at Daycare I wouldnt have made it.. she taught me everything about AJ!
This daycare here also has a sheet that shows food/changes, etc. They dont write down her play time but she's older. I can see her goofing off all day
Hope things improve
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| Posted 9/10/09 2:11 PM |
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Re: Day 2 at daycare... still not sure
I would look for something new. Honestly, you need to be completely happy and satisfied with your daycare or you are going to drive yourself and the dayycare nuts (with good reason of course.) As a special education teacher I work in a lot of daycares and I see a lot of nothing or inappropiate activities. additionally I had my son in a big dacare center and had a very bad experience. I now realize that in daycares anything can happen or not happen when the parents walk out he door. FOr this reason my little girl is in a smaller in home daycare provider who I know puts the pack-n-plays away when the babies are not sleeping and constantly interacts with them while supporting them. My dd is out of daycare all summer and returns next week. She has asked for her babysitter almost everyday. You can find someone or some place really perfect, but you have to keep looking. JMHO. GL
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