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daycare moms, a few more questions....
I am returning to work on the 15th, I am sick to my stomach every time I think about this, which is several times a day and every time DD flash her toothless smile at me...
Ok, is it reasonable for me to give a list of things that I would like DD's caretaker to do? ie, DD has eczema, her ped derm instructs us to lotion her up at least 3x a day, can I ask daycare to do it 1x during the day?
Also, I assume they will wipe her at every diaper change, whether it is #1 or #2, I would want them to also put a bit of A&D on as well.
This is going to sound crazy, but they will not be kissing or sniffing her face, will they? I don't even like people breathing on her when they are holding her, but that's just me being a psycho first time mother.
Can I ask things like this or am I nuts? 
I know I can't expect them to care for DD the way I care for her (or can I? They are charging us a fortune), but there are things that I would like them to do that's important for her health and well-being.
What are some things that you asked the daycare to do or to avoid, if you don't mind sharing?
TIA!
*disclaimer* first time mother here with no clue about daycare, so please excuse my ignorance and be nice 
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
My mom is a teacher for the infant room at a daycare center, and I know for a fact that you can absolutely give them a list of what you want done, espcially with creams and diaper changes. Also, I have never seen my mom kiss or get too close to any of the babies faces. HTH!! FM me if you have any questions!!!
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
I think everything you are asking for is more than reasonable, and usually at center will ask you for a list of your instructions/schedule..
As far as kissing...Ill be honest- while I have never kissed a child on the mouth... the staff spends alot of time with the children and they do "love" them... (lots of hugs and cuddles)
I cant imagine dropping my baby off 8hrs a day and he/she not getting any affection...
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Posted by 05mommy09
I think everything you are asking for is more than reasonable, and usually at center will ask you for a list of your instructions/schedule..
As far as kissing...Ill be honest- while I have never kissed a child on the mouth... the staff spends alot of time with the children and they do "love" them... (lots of hugs and cuddles)
I cant imagine dropping my baby off 8hrs a day and he/she not getting any affection...
oh I'd appreciate and expect the teacher's affection toward DD, lots of hugs and cuddles are welcome. But what I meant by kissing is peck on the cheeks. I doubt they would kiss her on the mouth, I would have serious problem with that.
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Abby's day care center requires a form for ointments and creams to be filled out on a week to week basis. I made multiple copies and dated them for a few months.
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
My dd was in daycare for about 10 months as an infant, and I'm pretty certain she received her fair share of pecks on the cheek. I personally had no issue with it. Not sure how you could tell them not to, maybe someone else has a better answer
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
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Posted by 05mommy09
I think everything you are asking for is more than reasonable, and usually at center will ask you for a list of your instructions/schedule..
As far as kissing...Ill be honest- while I have never kissed a child on the mouth... the staff spends alot of time with the children and they do "love" them... (lots of hugs and cuddles)
I cant imagine dropping my baby off 8hrs a day and he/she not getting any affection...
oh I'd appreciate and expect the teacher's affection toward DD, lots of hugs and cuddles are welcome. But what I meant by kissing is peck on the cheeks. I doubt they would kiss her on the mouth, I would have serious problem with that.
Just tell them that because of germs- you'd prefer them to give kisses on the head if anything...
ETA- I had an infant that was in the center 12 hrs/day and the mother did not want the child hugged/kissed- we were very honest and said that our school would probably not be the best place for her...
The child was there a long time, and we did LOVE him and give him lots of affection... How could we not????
But HEALTH always came first- the girls dont want your DC germs as much as you dont want your DC to have their...KWIM?
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
thank you ladies.
I will let the daycare center know that hugs & cuddles are wonderful and highly appreciated, but I prefer no kisses (head, checks or mouth  ) for hygiene reasons. I agree, the teachers wouldn't want her germs either 
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Posted by Goldi0218
Abby's day care center requires a form for ointments and creams to be filled out on a week to week basis. I made multiple copies and dated them for a few months.
Victoria's daycare does as well. But they require anything other than everyday diaper cream that you want used to be filled out by the pediatrician with explanation of how often and how to apply it. They will even administer the nebulizers as long as there are doctors written instructions.
And of course, write down all of your wishes for the care you would like for them to continue when you return to work. I had Victoria's infant class have the list hanging up for anyone to read as there were times a few things were ignored (as in when regular teachers were out and those not familiar with my every day wishes were not reading the list)
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Definately give a a detailed list of things you want/need done. The care givers are awesome but every kid is different and a list telling the needs of your kid will help a lot
I laughed to myself about the kissing--dont worry about that--but chances are very likely your DC will get sick often esp in the winter months...this was the hardest thing to deal with in the beginning and still today....germ central
I find that my DH and I have a good friendly connection the caregivers and U firmly believe if the teachers like u they will tend your child a bit more...a little sugar goes a long way
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
A few months doing daycare, and your perspective on germs will change, trust me!!! She spends time on the FLOOR! Even if the floors are clean, they are never THAT clean. One day, I put Cailen down in a bouncy seat some other baby was just in, another day they put a boppy down for him, or a blanket, and as I placed him there, I laughed to myself at thinking I could have any control over his exposure to germs!  You will be grateful for it when she is 2 and 3 and not catching the latest bug going around because she built up an amazing immune system!
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Posted by lipglossjunky73
A few months doing daycare, and your perspective on germs will change, trust me!!! She spends time on the FLOOR! Even if the floors are clean, they are never THAT clean. One day, I put Cailen down in a bouncy seat some other baby was just in, another day they put a boppy down for him, or a blanket, and as I placed him there, I laughed to myself at thinking I could have any control over his exposure to germs! You will be grateful for it when she is 2 and 3 and not catching the latest bug going around because she built up an amazing immune system!
I agree and disagree with this.
DS was in daycare as an infant as well, and yes, was put on the floor, but that was a carpeted floor and NO ONE was allowed to wear shoes in the room. DS' daycare was immacuatlately clean, of course there were germs, but TBH, you cannot do anything about that. There are germs everywhere.
I agree that it does help their immune systems.
As for the hugging and kissing, I do think that you may need to relax a little bit on the kissing, especially since litte babies need all of the cuddles they can get, its good for them A peck on the head or cheek is less likely to give them germs then a lot of other stuff
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
I'm guessing this is a center, as opposed to an in home daycare?
Just asking because as far as creams ( if they are medicated, ex) hydrocortisone for excema) , there are regualtions that the daycare must be MAT ( mediication administration trained) certified
As for everything else. you seem perfectly reasonable ...I willl say that she will most likely get "loved up" though, although most likely not kissed 
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
I don't think anything your asking is unreasonable. My daycare has always used wipes for everything and diaper cream.
There should be no reason they can't put cream on her skin. The only thing you might want to check is if there's a form for it, depending on what it is. If it's a prescription, then you need a doctors note. Otherwise, they just may ask you to sign a parental consent (we have to sign a consent for them to put sunscreen on our children, so excema cream might count as something extra).
As for touching and kisses, you could ask, but I know there's always been lots of cuddling and kisses going on. As for is germs, it's daycare and they're gonna pass stuff around anyway.
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
I know the kissing part might sound absurd for some of you, but to us, it isn't just about the germs. Kissing to us is private that DH and I prefer none family members to not to that to DD, it is a personal preference, perhaps some of you think I need to relax about, but it is important to us.
The medicine for her eczema I will put on her in the morning before daycare, what I want them to do is to lotion her up with Triple Cream to seal in the moisture, otherwise she can get flare ups quickly in this heat.
Thanks all for your input.
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
I really think you need to call your daycare and ask these questions since all centers are run differently. You should also ask if you can spend some time there before DD starts. It may make you more comfortable about leaving her there. I took DS to daycare a few times before we started and spent several hours with the teachers. It made me feel even better about leaving him in their care.
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| Posted 6/1/09 10:43 AM |
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Posted by MrsS2005
I really think you need to call your daycare and ask these questions since all centers are run differently. You should also ask if you can spend some time there before DD starts. It may make you more comfortable about leaving her there. I took DS to daycare a few times before we started and spent several hours with the teachers. It made me feel even better about leaving him in their care.
I do plan to sit down with the the director and ask her these questions, also spend some time with the teachers. Just wanted to get some opinions from fellow BTDT moms.
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Re: daycare moms, a few more questions....
Just make a detail list for them to follow....always go with your gut feeling...
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