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eroxgirl
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DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
After so many issues over the last 4 months, I've finally had enough. This morning was the final straw after my babysitter's grown DD was cursing at me because I had to park my car in their driveway (which sometime happens when it's alternate side parking, but especially because they are repaving the road on the next block). So we called around this morning and I can get DD in a local daycare starting in September.
My concern is this.. If I'm getting cursed at because someone has to move their car, how are they going to react when I tell them DD isn't coming back? On the one hand I'd like to be nice and give notice but on the other hand I don't think she'd watch DD at all after I tell her.
And even then, we have so much stuff at their house - DD's swing, pnp, booster seat, exersaucer, stroller, car seat, etc. etc. It will be difficult to take it all in one shot, so there will have to be multiple trips and for some reason, I wouldn't put it past these people to leave my stuff out in the street if they're angry. I just don't know what to do. 
ETA: DH has assured me that he can get all DD's stuff out in one trip. He knows how to tie things to the roof of the truck and I don't. And also, I do trust them enough to know they won't hurt DD. I just don't trust them not to damage her stuff in anger. I can't not have a babysitter for the next 2 weeks - I need to work or we don't eat!
Message edited 8/12/2008 2:38:31 PM.
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msrsfeb
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
It sounds like a situation that I would be worried about leaving my DD at all. I don't really have advice but wanted to say good luck. It sounds like your DD will be better off in Daycare.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:08 PM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Can you borrow a SUV or pickup so you can take everything in one shot?
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:10 PM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Posted by MrsSchwags
Can you borrow a SUV or pickup so you can take everything in one shot?
I agree, go there with a vehicle that you can load everything up in one shot, even if you have to rent a lowes truck or something, get your daughter, and make a fast break. If ever I brought DS to his sitter, and something like that happened, I would be so outta there. I am sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:13 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Posted by MrsSchwags
Can you borrow a SUV or pickup so you can take everything in one shot?
We have an SUV already. My step-father is the only one nearby with a car but I feel bad bringing him into it because he is friends with the husband and they hang out every Friday night. That's how I found these people in the first place. I'd hate to put him in the middle - I wouldn't be surprised if he loses a friend over this as it is.
IDK, I'm afraid I'm underestimating this family and they're actually better people than they've proven to be so far. Either way, DD is going to daycare. I've debated for so long about this, I'm finally sure this is right for my family, but it's stressing me out big time.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:19 PM |
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JennasMom
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
JMO but I would rent a small truck or van and get your DD's stuff all out in one trip. The daughter cursing you out for parking in the driveway while the mother is there would be a red flag for me. You know what's best for your DD, don't feel guilty for putting her somewhere where you feel more secure
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:24 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Can you give another excuse so it's not about the woman? Maybe tell her you had Elizabeth on a list for this place and just learned they have a spot so you want to give it a shot?
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:25 PM |
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octoberbride
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Can you go about it in a very diplomatic way saying that you've loved having DD with them, but you and DH have decided to put her into daycare for socialization purposes?
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:25 PM |
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shellybean
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Honestly if you reallt tink they would do that I would not trust my DC with them for one more day...who cares about the stuff, i wouldnt put your child in in this situation so you can get your stuff in multiple shots...I would just borrow a truck...
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:29 PM |
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smdl
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Honestly if someone curses at me for parking in the driveway, I would VERY concerned for my child.
I would call work and tell them you have an emergency to take care of. Leave DD with them like you are going to work. Go get the SUV (who cares it's not that close!!!), go back to their house and pack all my crap and leave that very minute. I would actually bring someone with me for DC's safety and having a witness.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:29 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Posted by SweetCaroline
Can you give another excuse so it's not about the woman? Maybe tell her you had Elizabeth on a list for this place and just learned they have a spot so you want to give it a shot?
Oh she's not even getting a reason unless she pushes for it. "It's not working out" is all she's getting.
That wouldn't fly anyway. She knew I didn't want to put Elizabeth in daycare from when I was pregnant.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:32 PM |
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MST9106
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Honestly, to be on the safe side, I would take all the stuff the day you decide to finally tell her that you're placing her in a daycare and that being the last day of her watching your daughter. And be honest with her, how you don't feel comfortable with them watching your daughter and especially over the fact that her daughter cursed at you...If you don't want to rock the boat, just tell her that you quit your job to become a SAHM and thats it, but I wouldn't give her notice...they don't seem like reasonable people.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:32 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Is there anyway you can start to take stuff a little at a time?
This is what I am thinking:
Swing - now - tell her that DD is outgrowing it and you want to pack it up for the next baby - smile the whole time
Exersaucer - next - same thing
PNP - last
Booster Seat - last
Stroller - last
Car Seat - last
Do you think that if your car is completely empty when you go the last night for pickup you can get all of these things in? If so then that might work out.
Personally, I would tell her at the end. Tell her the incident that occurred really hurt you and you don't think this will work out. You expected that there would be more time to give notice but a space became available right away and you have to take it.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:36 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Posted by SweetCaroline
Can you give another excuse so it's not about the woman? Maybe tell her you had Elizabeth on a list for this place and just learned they have a spot so you want to give it a shot?
PERFECT! This is eaxactly how i would handle it! Act like you won the friggin lottery. "A new spot opened at a daycare that Ive had dd on a wait list for and I appreciate you so much for taking care of her and I think the socialization would be so great for dd". Saves you aggravation and your FIL still has his friend.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:42 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Putting myself in your place I would take my child out of there ASAP, I would not give them notice I would just tell her the situation is no longer working out for me and take what you can get and hopefully you can get the rest later on. But in the end your child saftey comes first and if it means losign some things than so be it.
Follow your instintcs if your gut is telling you that this place is unsafe then take your DD and run. Mommy insticts are hardly ever wrong
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:44 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: DD is going to daycare. ? about letting my babysitter go.
Posted by eroxgirl
Posted by SweetCaroline
Can you give another excuse so it's not about the woman? Maybe tell her you had Elizabeth on a list for this place and just learned they have a spot so you want to give it a shot?
Oh she's not even getting a reason unless she pushes for it. "It's not working out" is all she's getting.
That wouldn't fly anyway. She knew I didn't want to put Elizabeth in daycare from when I was pregnant.
JMHO...I wouldnt say "Its not working out" bc that opens a can of worm. There is no specific reason that you need to have an argument about this. DD is going regardless so IMO sugarcoat it for your own benefit...to get your stuff out and FIL to have his friend.
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| Posted 8/12/08 2:44 PM |
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