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Dear Friend of DH

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Beth
The Key to your new home....

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Beth

Dear Friend of DH

Dear Friend

this freindship is becoming a little one sided for my taste

you drive around in our car- you keep saying you are going to contribute, pay it etc- yet we keep making the $700 payment every month and don't even see the car- it's parked at your house-

In exchange for you driving our car- you 1 responsiblity is to pick up my DH for work- when he wants to go-yet he has to call you a million times to get you up in the morning

My DH has also given you a job- where you go every day and do the minium- that must be why you never seem to have any money

We lent you $600 bucks friday to pay your rent- I was suppose to have it back already- shockingly I don't- now you need more

I have really had it- what did you do before us?

here is a concept- my DH spends a ton of money each month on leads- at no cost to you-why don't you call them when you get to the office- wow!

I am going to have a long talk with DH about stopping this enabling relationship- you are older then us- it's pathetic

signed
wife of your Boss

ok- I had to vent- I don't want to start a fight with Jake about this- b/c he has been pretty mad about all his employees this week

but I have seriously had it- Jake is taking the money out of a deal he closed- but still- that's not the point

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Posted 5/17/06 3:25 PM
 
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Ouch..............

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Posted 5/17/06 3:27 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon WHat the....if you can't afford your ride or your digs...move out & buy a PINTO!!!

Posted 5/17/06 3:27 PM
 

LAMGAJ28
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Sounds like this employee/friend of your husband is a leech to say the least. Sounds like a toxic relationship and very one sided.
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Posted 5/17/06 3:30 PM
 

baghag
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon He is totally taking advantage of you guys! Chat Icon

Posted 5/17/06 3:30 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Chat Icon OMG! I would never stand for that Chat Icon

Posted 5/17/06 3:31 PM
 

Blu-ize
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

Wouldn't work for friends or family..

yikes..it's always a mess.

Posted 5/17/06 3:34 PM
 

Beth
The Key to your new home....

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Beth

Re: Dear Friend of DH

I really don't know what to do to stop it

I want to sell this car- it's a 3rd car- and you can see from the payment it's not cheap

but Jake keeps telling me his freind is going to buy it from us- but month after month goes buy- and we keep paying it

I get yelled at all the time about my shopping and my spending- but I am not the one with the problems

we don't have enough $$$ to support another person! esp one that is 33 years old!

Posted 5/17/06 3:35 PM
 

Beth
The Key to your new home....

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Beth

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Posted by Blu-ize

Wouldn't work for friends or family..

yikes..it's always a mess.



he started out as an employee- then became a freind when Jake realized he lived in LB

Posted 5/17/06 3:36 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here

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Sonia

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Posted by Beth1210

I really don't know what to do to stop it

I want to sell this car- it's a 3rd car- and you can see from the payment it's not cheap

but Jake keeps telling me his freind is going to buy it from us- but month after month goes buy- and we keep paying it

I get yelled at all the time about my shopping and my spending- but I am not the one with the problems

we don't have enough $$$ to support another person! esp one that is 33 years old!




I would sit down & speak to DH about this guy. Not fair that you guys are suffering because he is not responsible.

Posted 5/17/06 3:36 PM
 

Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A

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Susan

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Beth-tell Jake the guy has one more month. Then list the car and sell it. Is there something Jake isn't telling you? Is there something this guy has over his head? Is Jake worried about the guy quitting on him?

It's ultimatum time.

Posted 5/17/06 3:36 PM
 

Beth
The Key to your new home....

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Beth

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Posted by Blu-ize

Beth-tell Jake the guy has one more month. Then list the car and sell it. Is there something Jake isn't telling you? Is there something this guy has over his head? Is Jake worried about the guy quitting on him?

It's ultimatum time.



nope Jake just feels bad for him- and I don't want Jake driving until his neck gets better- he takes alot of medicine and it always in pain- so I rather him not get behind the wheel

and Jake doesn't want him to quit b/s he does close a few loans- but it's not like he can- b/c he doesn't have his own car to get to another job

I think I am going to have to lay it out for him-

Posted 5/17/06 3:40 PM
 

Lisa
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

dock his pay!! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/17/06 3:42 PM
 

missus-hbradio
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Re: Dear Friend of DH

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Posted 5/17/06 4:12 PM
 

Pebbles
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Lisa

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Wow this guy is really taking big time advantage of you guys!
I hope it all works out for you.

Posted 5/17/06 4:24 PM
 

Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A

Member since 7/05

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Susan

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Posted by Beth1210

Posted by Blu-ize

Beth-tell Jake the guy has one more month. Then list the car and sell it. Is there something Jake isn't telling you? Is there something this guy has over his head? Is Jake worried about the guy quitting on him?

It's ultimatum time.



nope Jake just feels bad for him- and I don't want Jake driving until his neck gets better- he takes alot of medicine and it always in pain- so I rather him not get behind the wheel

and Jake doesn't want him to quit b/s he does close a few loans- but it's not like he can- b/c he doesn't have his own car to get to another job

I think I am going to have to lay it out for him-



there are other ways for Jake to get to work. This is not the way to go. You are right..it's time for the big talk for big Jake.

Posted 5/17/06 4:27 PM
 

Beth
The Key to your new home....

Member since 2/06

24849 total posts

Name:
Beth

Re: Dear Friend of DH

Posted by Blu-ize

there are other ways for Jake to get to work. This is not the way to go. You are right..it's time for the big talk for big Jake.



I think it would be cheaper if he took a car service every day!

or hired someone just as his driver-

all ideas we have spoke about in the past- in about 6 to 9 months he should be ok to drive- and turn his neck to change lanes- so it's not like it's forever!

Posted 5/17/06 4:36 PM
 
 

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