DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

DH is a cop and just completed training for narcotics. He was placed in the Brooklyn North borough (which at first I wasnt crazy about b/c its not a great area by any means). Today he found out which areas he will be working and apparently he is not happy that he will be working in a "nicer" section, not Bed Stuy, East New York, etc. Hello...do you take into consideration you have a wife and a baby now? Why would you want to work in those area's anyway? He thinks it's not going to be as busy and he's not going to get as many arrests, blah blah blah. But the crime stats in this area are worse than where he was in Far Rockaway, so I dont consider that to be a "nice" area. So frustrating! Call me stupid, but I'm thinking if they have a narcotics team working this area there is probably alot of narcotics activity What pi$$ed him off was originally they placed him in a "busier" area and than called him tonight and told him they changed him to this other section (which according to him is slow). So I asked him why he didnt ask why they changed his module and he gets crazy saying you cant do that in his job. He doesnt want to cause any problems being he just got there. I told him to suck it up, pay his dues and than eventually he can go to a busier section. For christ sake, he didnt even start yet, how does he know what to expect?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Message edited 9/28/2007 7:49:26 PM.

Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

He probably wants to prove himself since he's new. Hugs to you though...I know if it was my DH I would be really worried too.

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Message edited 11/11/2011 7:58:57 PM.

Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

Sounds like he his just a bit disappointed and venting to you...could also just be the nerves of this new assignment.

Try to hang in there, I'm sure once he adjusts the dust will settle.

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Posted by sunflowerjesss

Sounds like he his just a bit disappointed and venting to you...could also just be the nerves of this new assignment.

Try to hang in there, I'm sure once he adjusts the dust will settle.

Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

Quick ques- if he's Brooklyn North but not Bed Stuy etc....is he in Greenpoint??
Thats my hometown if so...also one of my best friends works in the 94th pct.
He has said he's had some pretty unbelievable stories from around there

But I totally agree with you- Id want mine in a "safe" neighboorhood too!

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Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

It'll be ok in a few weeks. My family is involved in ems and pd. My brother was DEVESTATED when he was not put in the village as his first assignment. He waited about 6months and applied for a transfer. During his interview they told him they wanted him to get used to the policy's and procedures befor ethey put him somewhere ruffer. It'll be ok. He's just dissapointed and frustrated. He can't tell them or take it out on them because he's right...it's just not done. It'll be ok in a little while Try not to take it personal it has nothing to do with you or your child. I have found that work and home are VERY VERY far from eachother and he isn't thinking about it the same way. In his mind the 2 are not related and he dosen't understand why you would NOT want to be in the higher crime area. It'll be ok

Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

my husband is nypd also, and works in probably the worst part doing midnights, he loves it and would never change that for the world.... This is there job. I know it is the scariest job for wives and families, but this is what they love to do. Just know that he will keep himself safe out there.

Re: DH just put me in a bad mood (vent from a cop's wife)!

I work in Crown Heights and have been doing so for the past 11 and a half years. I drive through East NY, Brownsville and Bed Stuy to get there.

I have seen a multitude of police activity in and around the particular neighborhood/street/building in wihch I work. Some, I am sure is drug related and some is not. What I do know is that the police officers in those areas are incredible skilled and well-trained. The experience of working in an area with additional risks will provide him with skills that will permeate the rest of his career. He may find that working in a "low-traffic" area would bore him to tears and he may be very unhappy.

You have every right to be concerned and scared as does he, but I am sure that ultimately, this will prove to be an incredible opportunity for him.

I will pray that he stays as safe as he can.

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Message edited 9/29/2007 9:29:28 AM.