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MarathonKnitter
HAPPY
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DH quit his second job!
we're in the red... BIG TIME!
his father just gave us money to help us out.
he's made promise after promise as to how we'll get out of this and he'll never be foolish with money again.
i just finished the h and r block class, so that i can have a second job also.
today, he comes home and says "i don't want to do it anymore"
today. i lost faith in his promises. i'm so sad. if i can't trust what my husband tells me, what do i have left in this marriage?
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KristinasMama
How did she turn 2 so quickly?
Member since 10/07 8257 total posts
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Re: DH quit his second job!
i don't know what to say....
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| Posted 12/8/07 5:15 PM |
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
Member since 9/07 16106 total posts
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Tina
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/8/07 5:15 PM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
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To a brand new year to a healthier me
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/8/07 5:32 PM |
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Dani922
Here's to new beginnings
Member since 10/07 7260 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/8/07 5:46 PM |
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bigspender
Back to school
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Irene
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Re: DH quit his second job!
I dont know what you financial issues are butthey certainly can strain on a relationship.
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| Posted 12/8/07 7:13 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/8/07 9:04 PM |
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kms717
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Kelly
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Re: DH quit his second job!
The biggest fights I have with my DH are over money also. "They" say that it's the thing that couples fight about most.
Did he actually quit or just tell you that he wants to? Maybe he was just venting and will see clearer in the morning. I remember when I was working two jobs I used to cry every thursday night because fridays I had to work 20 hours (between both jobs). I only had a 1/2 day off a week. I was so tired and worn down that I would say I was going to quit every week. I stuck it out for over 4 years. I understand how frustrating it is to work like a dog and have nothing to show for it. It makes you feel like you shouldn't bother because it doesn't make a difference anyway. Things will change though. You will get past this, when you think that you can't bare another second, something will finally go right. Keep your head up and have some faith. You're not alone
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| Posted 12/8/07 9:16 PM |
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diva7531
My Peanut
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Ryan 3 boys EDD 11/6!
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/8/07 9:46 PM |
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LIgrlatheart
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christi
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Re: DH quit his second job!
i'm sorry he's not being what u need him to be right now... did he really quit or just said ''im done' to you?
kudos to u for taking the time to better yourself and your family by taking the class
many hugs and im always around for fm if u need to vent
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| Posted 12/8/07 10:16 PM |
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GenLCSW
Baby # 3 is here!!!
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Genna
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/9/07 7:15 AM |
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Gertyrae
Peace out Homies!
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Gerty ®
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Re: DH quit his second job!
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| Posted 12/9/07 9:29 AM |
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BlueDiamonds
mommy to 3 boys
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Re: DH quit his second job!
working 2 jobs can be very draining. if he knows the finances, what does he plan on doing to make up for it? have you talked about that? i'm sure you've exhausted ways to cut back but you have to tell him that if he doesn't want to work a second job, he will have to make even more sacrifices. maybe he is willing to do that.
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| Posted 12/9/07 10:55 AM |
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MrsT
Enjoying wedded bliss.....
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Katrina
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Re: DH quit his second job!
I have to say that I think it will only get worse if you don't take over the finances.
I have a tenant going through this and it's stressful. I never met her in person (DH screened them and they are friends of friends) but they having financial issues due to her BF. They were living in their car with their 2 year old, then a hotel for $300/week.
She vented to me about 2 weeks ago saying that she did not get paid until 12/3 so the rent would be late and dealing with her BF was like having another 2 year old. She said that she had been just giving him her pay check for months and not realizing where the money went.
Today DH went to let them know that this arrangement was not going to work out & the BF pulls out the rent. He had then rent money in his pocket when DH showed up at their door this morning but did not bother to send it to us? His GF started screaming and cursing at her BF in front of DH. He told her that he sent the rent already. She went off on him for at least 10 minutes saying that she promised me the rent would be to me last week and why would he just hold on to the rent when they were most recently living in a hotel & their car. She told DH that she is taking over the household finances going forward.
Some people are really just horrible with money and I know the BF gets it from his mother. They were in the car due to a foreclosure of the mom's house although they paid her rent and gave her the cash to get our of foreclosure. Mom just never paid it
I wish you lots of luck.
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| Posted 12/9/07 10:59 AM |
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