Did you and DH differ on "Cry it out" philosophy? How did you deal?

DH wants to let DS Cry it Out at night... DS is old enough (almost 10 months) I just don't think I can listen to him scream for that long. He stands up in his crib and SCREAMS. Tonight we let him go 5 minutes before I went in. I know it's not long enough, but it is gut wrenching to me.

He has separation anxiety now, and I work FT, so it is tearing me apart leaving him crying in the morning, I don't know if I can have him crying all night too?

Anyone go through something similar with their DH where they wanted to do CIO and you were opposed?

Re: Did you and DH differ on "Cry it out" philosophy? How did you deal?

OMG, DH and I had this fight TONIGHT! And our DD is only 6 weeks old, LOL!

Re: Did you and DH differ on "Cry it out" philosophy? How did you deal?

I wasn't opposed to CIO, but I can say that DH was much tougher about it than I was. DH would just go upstairs and tune DS out. I had a much more difficult time listening to DS and initially would give in and go into DS's room after 5 minutes or so. We didn't start CIO until after DS turned 1. I eventually learned to back off a bit and DS learned to fall asleep on his own. because I know it isn't easy.

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Dh and I were the opposite. I wanted to do it, DH didnt. But in the end we did it because I knew DS was waking out of habit. DS slept through the night from 6 weeks until 9 months. Then from 9-12 months had horrible sleep habits.

If you do CIO, you have to realize that you are doing it for your DC.s best interest. At that age they need their sleep. Also keep in mind they are crying for attention and to get what they want, they are not hurt or anything.

I admit its hard, the first night DS cried for 1hr and 15 minutes straight. But I told DH that once we committed i wasnt going to undo what we had made it through (the last 30 minutes, 45 minutes etc) but by night 2 it was like 20 minutes and night 3 maybe 5....

You have to do what you think is best for your DC.

GL~!

Re: Did you and DH differ on "Cry it out" philosophy? How did you deal?

We have the opposite problem- DH hates it but I know its neccesary. I can't stand it either but I know its the only thing that worked for my DD and altough its harder with my son, it is the only way for me to get them to sleep through the night. I tried other methods and they just didn't work for me.

That being said- could you sleep somewhere else where you can't hear him for a few nights? I finally did CIO with my son at 8 months when my DH was out of town on business. This way it didn't get him so upset.

Hang in there with whatever choice you make

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we tried once at 12 mos...dh wanted to run and get him...i said give him a minute to see what he does.

with that came the big thump heard by all, including woman in apt under us.

this baby threw himself from crib...only after kicking crib bars out! he was only crying for 2 minutes.

that was it. dh blamed me...that was the end of our cio

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We didn't have a different idea on what to do bc he had no clue, but I knew he couldn't hack it so I did it while he was away

Re: Did you and DH differ on "Cry it out" philosophy? How did you deal?

Nope, we pretty much agreed from the begining that we were NOT "cry it out" parents.