did you have visitors right away when you came home from the hospital?

i have had visitors almost everyday since we got home form the hospital, especailly the first and second week. My family is coming over saturday for dinner and my cousin emaield me to see if i was up to it, not knwoing i have had all this company already.When i emaield her back and said i have had company almost everday she wrote back and called me "SUPER MOM". not really sure how to take that since i dont see the big deal about visitors. I guess everyones different but i welcome visitors.

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Yes and it was tough for me especially after a c-section. Because company kept coming over, I felt the need to "straighten up" the house which meant vacuuming, etc. I ended up overdoing it and screwing up my incision.

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I have a big family and had lots of vistors when I first came home.

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all the time

They just didn't understand the mommy needs time deal

I just su cked it up and got threw it. It started to slow down when I decided to give them tasks to do when they were her (ex- oh, since you are here, can you do..... for me?,oh, since you are here, do you mind if I run out to the store to get some groceries/stamps/sanity back? Can you watch DD while I shower, shave, do my laundry and have a glass of well desserved wine?)



Some people don't know when to leave!

Re: did you have visitors right away when you came home from the hospital?

I just had my IL's here when we first arrived home with Julia cause they had to video tape us pulling up to the house, so they came in just to see her real quick then left. My mom and sis stopped by later on to say hello but just for like 1/2 hour. She didn't see anyone else till a couple of weeks, I was to nervous.

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I loved having visitors because it made me feel a little more normal and less overwhelmed. There was like 20 people here when I came home from the hospital. I had my family cooking and cleaning and taking care of the baby. I do not have a family that expected me to lift a finger when I got home, so they were definitely welcome!

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yes and it was very annoying and overrwhelming, 2nd time around I am demanding my alone time- all the visitors really added to my baby blues for some reason they made me really on edge. I know that everyone was excited but postpartum is a tricky time...

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We had my inlaws, my parents and my sibilings witch at 4 of them, my 2 SIL and my BIL. They came around 5pm and left around 9. I will tsay though that my SIL's and BIL asked it was going to be to much and I just didnt have the heart to tell anyone no. I just wanted to get the hang of being a mom and get the breastfeeding down. I did not enjoy my first 2 weeks because my mom and dad were on my case about not calling people to invite them over (I shouldnt be the one calling people, they should call me at least in my opinion) or they said that we werent being good hosts and that we would rush people out .

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Just close family. The Grandparents, great grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc.

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My ped. recommended not having too many visitors for the first 2 weeks. DH took this to the extreme and banned everyone from coming over with the exception of my mom who came over one night to cook us dinner. He even had a fight with his sister over it (which I wasn't too upset about anyway ) I had a difficult recovery intially so I wasn't in the mood for visitors anyway.

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I had company over, had a c-section and I told everyone that if you want to see me, the baby and DH comeover anytime. If you want to see my house, give me a few months Seriously, My family and friends were AWESOME! They brought over meals, helped me clean, helped me with DD, etc. It was hard for me to let them help, but I did not want to mess up my incision and end up back in the hospital.

ETA: I had purell on hand in every room and forced EVERYONE to use it ALL the time when the went near my DD.

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YUP....even at the hospital I had alot of visitors everyday and then we came home and nothing changed. Now it is slowing down a little, but we didnt mind we LOVE company!

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Since we live 1000 miles away people booked their flights ahead of time. My daughter came 2 weeks early so the first round of visitors came when she was 1.5 old. nad it didn't stop or should I say slow down untl she turned 2

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We told everyone - even immediate family - NO visitors for the first 3-4 days. It worked and it was SO nice.

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Yes we had a lot of people coming and going that first few weeks...I considered putting in a revolving door.

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Just immediate family and that was even limited. FRiends came a few weeks later.

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I had vistors right away too. The good thing for me was that DH was home and helped me alot. I tried to do as much as I could and whatever I could not do, I just did not do it. If you think it is to much for you, than just mention it to people that right now it is a little hard or I am tired and maybe they can come over another day.

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i had lots of people to - it helped that samantha is so good and that i had a great l+d so I felt good so then i could cook and clean - and bake! (I am obsessive!)