Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

MIL/FIL asked us AGAIN if we were definately finding out if baby is a or . When DH and I told them YES we were definately going to want to find out....they were like, "BUT WHY??? That ruins the surprise!!" I was ******! I'm like...um, yeah well seeing my baby's face and holding him/her for the first time is surprise enough! Not to mention we will be plenty surprised when we actually find out at 20 weeks.

Anyone else family like this?? Sorry....they just cought me on a bad day I guess.


ETA...they also started with ...."Oh, you have to start working on the nursery" (I am just shy of 10 weeks) and we just moved into our first home recently...so we have tons of other stuff we are doing...so I said we have plenty of time for that , and they were insisting that we better get started! I just wanted to scream!! AHHHH!!

Message edited 11/7/2009 9:36:38 PM.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out?

I want to for you. Hang in there sweetie. They are annoying. It is not just you.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

i think no matter what you choose people willl still comment. We are not finding out and people have said to me that's dumb, or i hate people that do that.
Another uncomfortable situation was when a woman at work asked me if i was finding out and i said no. Another pregnant teacher was standing there too and the woman said to her, "see, she does things the RIGHT way, unlike you" it was sooo awkward...why cant people just keep their comments to themselves??

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

Ignore them. You will soon learn that when it comes to pregnancy, everyone and anyone will have an opinion and freely express it to you.

This is why I am mastering the art of sarcastic, cynical responses. Best thing is to try to blow them off, vent when you need and definitely move on, because you will be miserable if you bother listening to everyone every day of your pregnancy, because for some reason, people forget the rules of etiquette and common courtesy when it comes to pregnant women.

As to what you dealt with today-yes, my dad gave us a hard time. I don't know whether it is the hormones, or my natural love of confrontation as an attorney, or both, but I did enjoy thoroughly telling him and anyone else-We aren't finding out! For twenty weeks! We won't know a thing! And I am sure we will be very surprised. That ended that.

And as for the nursery-my answer-when you want to come over and decorate a room as to my specifications and pay for it, we will have something to discuss. Or, we will start on the nursery-after we find out the sex! I am sure you know this already, but there is no need for a nursery at 10 weeks. What exactly do they think you are putting in there? We are not doing Miss Bean's nursery until after she is born!

Or, just yes them to death and do what you want.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

People will never be happy with your answer, we get the opposite for not finding out!

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

Aw see my MIL is the opposite, she's ****** that we aren't telling her the sex of this baby.. and we're not telling her because of how she responded to DS being a boy... I swear IL sometimes just s*ck! I'm sorry!

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

Posted by mrspalomino148

Aw see my MIL is the opposite, she's ****** that we aren't telling her the sex of this baby.. and we're not telling her because of how she responded to DS being a boy... I swear IL sometimes just s*ck! I'm sorry!

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

People defintely act disappointed when I tell them we found out we're having a boy. We were surprised when we found out at 20 weeks and we will still be in awe when our is born.

My family was disappointed I think, because they were hoping for a girl. All my cousins have boys. My sister still says she wishes he was a girl. Some people don't think.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

People always would say to me oh you found out? You won't be surprised at the delivery! Hello don't you think when the tech told me I was surprised and excited! So annoying.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

Ours were the opposite. We found out with DS and were not going to find out this time around. Everyone pressured us so much. I really didn't give a sh!t what they said, but DH started going to the other side and convinced me he felt it was important to find out, so I caved in. You're damned if you do, damned if you don't. I wouldn't even worry about it. Do whatever you and DH are comfortable with and everyone else can go scratch!

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

I'm 30 weeks now - that means I have about as many weeks left as you are pregnant. Our nursery is very far from being ready. Sure, there's a crib in there, but it's still basically the guestroom with a crib in the corner right now. Just ignore them - you have plenty of time and unfortunately, everybody's full of comments. I like to remind people that these are all personal choices - names, gender, breastfeeding, having a kid at all - and that I don't really care what they think. I've learned to roll with the punches and tell people to back off - it helps.

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

Posted by mrspalomino148

Aw see my MIL is the opposite, she's ****** that we aren't telling her the sex of this baby.. and we're not telling her because of how she responded to DS being a boy... I swear IL sometimes just s*ck! I'm sorry!

Re: Do people give you a hard time b/c you are finding out? (IL VENT)

you're damned if you don't and you're damned if you do.

you have to do what makes you happy and to hell with everyone's opinions.