Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?

Do you buy it and has anyone ever "stolen your thunder"?

Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?

I think people only steal your "thunder" if you allow yourself to feel that way. I personally don't.

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Yes - I buy it. It hasn't happened to me though - nor would I care - unless I was really super excited about something and the person trumping me I didn't really care for - then I'd be annoyed....

i.e. someone announces their engagement, the next day the sister announces her pregnancy... baby trumps wedding - bye bye engagement joy, hello baby joy...

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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?

Not at all!!!

I got engaged right before my sister's wedding. We weren't going to say anything, but my sister announced it at her rehersal dinner. While we did get congratulated, the night was about her and her fiance- not us. Even the next day- at the wedding- our relatives found out about our engagement. It didn't take away that their wedding was about them.

And to me, a joyous occassion is a joyous occassion. If someone is pregnant, and someone else is engaged or getting married- its all the more reason to celebrate!

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I think people can definitely steal each other's thunder. It doesn't always have to be you that has it stolen, sometimes I see other people stealing other people's thunder.

And yes, it has happened to me.

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I always joke that DH steals my thunder when I am sick. If I have a cough, he has a cough AND a sore throat all of a sudden... that sort of thing. But it is more of a joke -- I said to him "What are you going to do when I am pregnant and not feeling well one say? Are you going to get kidney stones or something?"

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YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES~!~

I've been dealing with this for ....months maybe even years.....everytime its about me a certain unstable member of my family does something totally crazy or drastic, or even destructive....

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Yes and Yes!

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yes, my sister has stolen my thunder. she announced to my immediate family she was pregnagnt for the 2nd tme the day I gave birth.

Hi, I gave birth at 32 weeks, 5 days and nearly died. But yep, she's pregnant. whoopee.

this was also almost 2 years ago and not much has happened since then, but it kind of stung.

so, yes, I think it does happen.

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According to my sister it happens to her all the time. No matter what. I think she is being dramatic and a little selfish. But it has happened to me on 1 big occasion in my life but I got over it.

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Yes I do.

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I don't think its stealing someone's thunder so much as it is one-upping them, which is very annoying. I know several "one-uppers" and its very difficult to be around them because you can never get a word in edgewise or tell a story.

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Yes it can happen but I don't recall it ever happening to me... or maybe I didn't notice. Or maybe I'm a thunder stealer and I just don't know it.

Michael Jackson stole Farrah Fawcett's thunder. I know it was obviously not deliberate but his death completley overshadowed hers. That can happen with regular people too.

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yes!!! my sil and bil is a thunder stealer or a one upper as I call her, ,

- we get engaged ( planned) they unexpectedly get engaged the next day
- we moved to kings park- they move to kings park

- I get an inheritance to buy a co-op they unexpectedly get a " parental gift" to buy same co op

we buy a car, they buy car ( has to be just a little nicer)

we annouce pregnancy they announce preganncy - we are due 9 days apart - she of course goes early and has baby before)

- we announce 2nd pregnancy they announce 2nd pregnancy very soon after

and the list can go on and on with smaller things

its very annoying



Dh sees nothing wrong with it and says its a friendly competition between him and his brother, one that I really dont want to be in but seem to have no choce.

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Yeah I think people can.......but it's also how you look at it....

My SIL got pregnant and told people around my bridal shower that she was expecting (at that time she was starting to show at 3 months) and for my wedding she was 6 months pregnant.....My in-laws made a huge deal and everything revolved around SIL when she got pregnant with her first baby so my DH and I kind of expected that any excitement about our wedding would be forgotten b/c of SIL being pregnant again (as far as his parents were concerned)....but at the same time we were so excited to have a new niece or nephew so we weren't mad or anything- just felt like we had some time for things to be about "us" and now it was going to be all about the new baby instead....but it didn't play out like that.....ILS were still excited about our wedding and we ALL were excited about the baby.....so it didn't steal our thunder at all.....but i can see how other people might make a big stink about it....so i think its all perspective and how you look at things....Instead of thinking that the new baby was trumping our wedding we were excited about our wedding and excited for the baby too....and that's how ILS were as well....does that make sense?

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I definitely think it depends on who does it and who it happens to. I am all about being happy for people, whether or not I have something great going on in my life at the same time.

Some of my friends however are not the same. One friend said she was going to have her bf propose at my wedding..I told her to go right ahead, bc I would makesure I'd give birth at her wedding! it was a joke. her bf then asked Dh (FH at the time) if he'd go with him to look at rings. The ring was ready before our wedding, he waiting until after we'd gotten back from the HM to propose. Which was fun, bc the excitement & wedding planning was done for us and now I get to help her!

But, They've been engaged almost a year and his twin bro go engaged a few weeks ago..the weddings will be over a year apart and totally different in style. My friend is still angry that they didn't wait until after her wedding to get engaged, but I don't think that's fair..her engagement is 2 years long.

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They can have my thunder. I have my lightning.... because thunder always comes after Lightning!

Ka-Chow!

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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?

For me-no, not really.

I never think that I need the attention to be focused on me to enjoy my moment. At my shower or wedding or whatever, it wouldn't have bothered me if someone else announces an engagement or pregnancy. My moment is still my moment and is still special.

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When I hear that phrase, I think of the last time I had really good news, about getting an accepted offer on my house. I told one person and instead of letting me tell people, she told so many others that I wanted to talk to first.

It was not done maliciously but it was the kind of thing that I was proud of because I didn't use an RE agent and done all of the legwork myself. I wanted that moment, you know?

That's the last time that happened. I make sure I either ask people to allow me to spread the news if it's important to me, or I tell certain people first.

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Nobody can steal *MY* thunder because I don't really give a crap enough about having the spotlight or attention enough to really notice or care!

I had 2 people bring their newborns to my baby shower - didn't bother me a bit. I had a friend announce he was getting married at the same shower. I was excited and demanded a toast in his honor.

I don't allow other people's events and lives to minimize my own happiness or make my events less important. It doesn't work like that for me.

BUT.. that's me. And that's not better or worse than anyone else. Some people DO want to have just that little slice of spotlight to themselves. It doesn't mean they are attention whores - it just means that once in a blue moon they want to feel special. I know people like that and I know people who DELIBERATELY set out to wreck other people's moments in the sun. And that's just mean. My friends planned a 19th bday party for me at college. It was a surprise. Another 'friend' came up to me that day and said "Sorry I can't make your big surprise party! I'm having a bday party too!"

A. her birthday was in June (it was May but dorms closed in May)
B. she knew it was a surprise and wrecked it.
C. she invited all of our mutual friends and some people who weren't her friends at all to her party which was going to have FREE beer at one of the bars.

So.. I pretended to be surprised for my friends that night. And we partied at the house. And then we all went over to her party aroung midnight and drank free beer and celebrated with her too! No harm. No foul. She tried, she failed. She was miserable.

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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?

Posted by GoldenRod

They can have my thunder. I have my lightning.... because thunder always comes after Lightning!

Ka-Chow!

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Message edited 9/1/2009 5:14:59 PM.