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Ophelia
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by rojerono
Nobody can steal *MY* thunder because I don't really give a crap enough about having the spotlight or attention enough to really notice or care!
I had 2 people bring their newborns to my baby shower - didn't bother me a bit. I had a friend announce he was getting married at the same shower. I was excited and demanded a toast in his honor.
I don't allow other people's events and lives to minimize my own happiness or make my events less important. It doesn't work like that for me.
BUT.. that's me. And that's not better or worse than anyone else. Some people DO want to have just that little slice of spotlight to themselves. It doesn't mean they are attention whores - it just means that once in a blue moon they want to feel special. :
YES. exactly. my friend announced her pregnancy at my shower on Saturday. I was THRILLED for her. no skin off my back. I planned a family members surprise 40th bday ON my birthday. I never said a word. those that knew me knew it was my bday...why did I need HER guests to congratulate me? I have my own people .
I had anniversaries and birthday's announced at my wedding. I just don't feel the "need" to stand out. I guess, to those that matter to me most, I feel like I already do. and that is all that counts.
Posted by rojerono
I know people like that and I know people who DELIBERATELY set out to wreck other people's moments in the sun. And that's just mean. My friends planned a 19th bday party for me at college. It was a surprise. Another 'friend' came up to me that day and said "Sorry I can't make your big surprise party! I'm having a bday party too!"
A. her birthday was in June (it was May but dorms closed in May)
B. she knew it was a surprise and wrecked it.
C. she invited all of our mutual friends and some people who weren't her friends at all to her party which was going to have FREE beer at one of the bars.
So.. I pretended to be surprised for my friends that night. And we partied at the house. And then we all went over to her party aroung midnight and drank free beer and celebrated with her too! No harm. No foul. She tried, she failed. She was miserable.
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by DRMom
Posted by Shelly
Not at all!!!
I got engaged right before my sister's wedding. We weren't going to say anything, but my sister announced it at her rehersal dinner. While we did get congratulated, the night was about her and her fiance- not us. Even the next day- at the wedding- our relatives found out about our engagement. It didn't take away that their wedding was about them.
And to me, a joyous occassion is a joyous occassion. If someone is pregnant, and someone else is engaged or getting married- its all the more reason to celebrate!
ITA-I think its kind of silly
I agree.
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Bugaboo
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by GoldenRod
They can have my thunder. I have my lightning.... because thunder always comes after Lightning!
Ka-Chow! 
LMAO!!  You're awesome!
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| Posted 9/1/09 5:21 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
It's definitely possible and there are people that can't stand to have ANY attention diverted away from them. Case in point, my ex-SIL. And (unfortunately) my soon-to-be SIL. Both attention whores and both can't just let things be. At this point in my life, I could care less. It's actually entertaining to watch the nonsense occur (where before with ex-SIL it drove me insane).
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BunnyWife
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by JenMarie
I think people only steal your "thunder" if you allow yourself to feel that way. I personally don't.
I agree with this.
this is a reflection on YOU, not on the other person generally.
I think there ARE people who TRY, but they only succeed if you LET them.
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Marbo
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
I say yes. My SIL announced she was pregnant the month of my wedding and brought sonogram pics to pass around at my rehearsal dinner. Just recently she was talking about having a second(i'm due in less than 5 weeks) and says to me watch you'll be having your baby and i'll be announcing i'm pregnant...
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4monkeys
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by DRMom
Posted by Shelly
Not at all!!!
I got engaged right before my sister's wedding. We weren't going to say anything, but my sister announced it at her rehersal dinner. While we did get congratulated, the night was about her and her fiance- not us. Even the next day- at the wedding- our relatives found out about our engagement. It didn't take away that their wedding was about them.
And to me, a joyous occassion is a joyous occassion. If someone is pregnant, and someone else is engaged or getting married- its all the more reason to celebrate!
ITA-I think its kind of silly
ITA ! my sister and I always announce even a simple birthday, or an anniversary at any get together (of ours, lol)..
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PaddysGirl
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Yes I believe it. Or I believe that people do try to steal ones thunder. I have a "friend" that if you do something or have something or whatever she has it better. I can't wait until I get engaged and get the attention - I'm looking forward to what she is going to do then It's no big deal to me because everyone knows how she is
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babymakes3
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
I think some people are miserable enough with themselves that they try to squash someone else's happy moments.
My college graduation thunder was stolen from me. A friend (who I no longer associate with because she's a drama queen) was jealous I graduated college and convinced my best friend to have her birthday party at my best friend's and I's apartment the same day. I couldn't even share my joy about my college graduation because birthday girl would get mad that *I* was stealing her thunder.
Instead, I went to the bars with another group of friends and we celebrated there. Birthday girl tagged along later since most of our mutual friends were with me and I celebrated no holds barred.
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| Posted 9/2/09 8:58 AM |
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Ritse
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Yes! I accidentally stole someone's thunder recently. I had a baby a few months ago and while I was on maternity leave, I kept getting calls from co-workers about wanting to see the baby. I relented and told them I was gonna come on so and so day. Well, a co-worker was getting married and all forgot or neglected to tell me it was their shower that day. I walk into the office and I was told that everyone was in the conference room, when I asked why I was told it was so and so's shower. I was mortified and proceeded to leave but nobody will let me and the lady holding my dd proceeded to march to the conference room, baby and all! Naturally, everyone was cooing and aahing over my dd and when the person made their entrance, almost half the room missed it. I left right after that. I don’t know if they were disappointed or not but I felt bad!!
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EricaAlt
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
Posted by EsquireFish
I always joke that DH steals my thunder when I am sick. If I have a cough, he has a cough AND a sore throat all of a sudden... that sort of thing. But it is more of a joke -- I said to him "What are you going to do when I am pregnant and not feeling well one say? Are you going to get kidney stones or something?"
I could see that, but wouldn't call it stealing someone's "thunder"
I call that a One-Upper!
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MrsFab
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Re: Do you believe people can really steal each other's "thunder" ?
yes! I think it can definately happen- and I am even nervous about doing it to my sister- I am older and everything that I do has always come first- and now she is close to getting engaged- probably the next 6 months or so, and in the same time frame dh and I will be ttc- I hope I get preggo first so the family can get over that and then she can get the attention she deserves for her engagement/wedding
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