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quasi3
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Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I am just wondering if I am in the minority here but I don't discuss any negative family issues at work. Why would I dump my drama on "work strangers". These people are not my friends, they are acquaintances.
I would especially not do it if I worked with another family member and put them in an awkward spot.
My bil and sil (brother & sister) work for the same company.
My sil was discussing me to another co-worker, negatively.
A friend of my bil ( who is also a friend of my dh) came up to him and told him and my bil was ******.
I told him to tell his sister that he does not appreciate having family issues being discussed at work.
My sil is very irrational and I am sure will turn it around on him.
Do you think he is wrong for being angry and upset?
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I work in HR and its just the 3 of us (me, manager and Boss)...me and the manager are close so soemtimes I discuss family problems or drama. I trust her a lot and I know she is not a gossip queen.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:28 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I talk about some stuff at work, but nothing "real".
If I'm really mad or we had a real issue, I would not talk about that at work since I like to keep business and personal life separate. I always tell my colleagues that we are not friends, we are esteemed work colleagues and that I can't be friends with people with whom I work.
ETS: It's the same reason I am not "friends" with any of them on FB and I use my maiden name on FB so they don't hunt me down as easily.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:29 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I do not speak badly about my DH or family to anyone, let alone "work strangers".
I have close friends I will confide in if I am having a family/personal issue--that is about it.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:41 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I only have one coworker. We've worked together for 5 years and are pretty close. We discuss everything pretty much. There is no connection with her and my family or friends and vice versa. We only see each other at work. She is like 20yrs older than me and I go to her for advice sometimes. It's nice to have someone to vent/talk to especially since her and I are the only ones in our office besides our 4 bosses.
ETA: Your bil was angry/upset that your SIL was talking about you? Just want to make sure I understand correctly....or was he mad because someone pointed it out to him that she was discussing you?
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:45 AM |
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HeatherRose
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I work in a small office and I am close with one co-worker and I share a little drama with her, but its an on going joke with this one family memeber so she likes to hear the updates  but in general I don't talk about my family at work.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:54 AM |
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quasi3
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
Posted by J9-13
I only have one coworker. We've worked together for 5 years and are pretty close. We discuss everything pretty much. There is no connection with her and my family or friends and vice versa. We only see each other at work. She is like 20yrs older than me and I go to her for advice sometimes. It's nice to have someone to vent/talk to especially since her and I are the only ones in our office besides our 4 bosses.
ETA: Your bil was angry/upset that your SIL was talking about you? Just want to make sure I understand correctly....or was he mad because someone pointed it out to him that she was discussing you?
He is mad about both.
He does not think family issues are something that should be discussed at work, especially since he works in the same office and it puts him in a weird spot. People asking questions, etc. My bil and sil don’t agree on this particular issue. He believes if she wants to discuss family issues, she should do it in private – where no one else can hear.
He is also upset that she is talking about me. My sil pulled everyone into our argument by making unfounded accusations about how my other in-laws feel about me. I approached my in-laws and they all denied it. My sil is trying to get people on her side and ultimately make my bil feel awkward at work.
Sil is the type of person that makes everyone feel bad about her situation and conveniently leaves out the part that she created it all herself!
I just feel bad for my bil that other co-workers are bringing it up to him and forcing him to be in an awkward situation.
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| Posted 6/2/10 9:57 AM |
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
Posted by DiamondGirl
I do not speak badly about my DH or family to anyone, let alone "work strangers".
Same.
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| Posted 6/2/10 10:13 AM |
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MrsKS
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
WOW! Considering you work for the same company... then I have to agree that discussing things like that is a no no! It's rude and just should not be done.
I do think that everyone's work situation is different; however, for the most part discussing personal issues is just not always the best idea. I do happen to work in a small office (there are just 5 of us here) and we are all relatively the same age (low 30's and one is 24) so we tend to be on the same page with things. We are all pretty open people. But even I wouldn't say some things at work (and I'm the most outgoing of the group).
Again though... considering your specific situation I think SIL should shut her mouth.
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| Posted 6/2/10 10:32 AM |
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
Not everything ,but I do share some stuff.
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| Posted 6/2/10 10:38 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
Posted by quasi3
Posted by J9-13
I only have one coworker. We've worked together for 5 years and are pretty close. We discuss everything pretty much. There is no connection with her and my family or friends and vice versa. We only see each other at work. She is like 20yrs older than me and I go to her for advice sometimes. It's nice to have someone to vent/talk to especially since her and I are the only ones in our office besides our 4 bosses.
ETA: Your bil was angry/upset that your SIL was talking about you? Just want to make sure I understand correctly....or was he mad because someone pointed it out to him that she was discussing you?
He is mad about both.
He does not think family issues are something that should be discussed at work, especially since he works in the same office and it puts him in a weird spot. People asking questions, etc. My bil and sil don’t agree on this particular issue. He believes if she wants to discuss family issues, she should do it in private – where no one else can hear.
He is also upset that she is talking about me. My sil pulled everyone into our argument by making unfounded accusations about how my other in-laws feel about me. I approached my in-laws and they all denied it. My sil is trying to get people on her side and ultimately make my bil feel awkward at work.
Sil is the type of person that makes everyone feel bad about her situation and conveniently leaves out the part that she created it all herself!
I just feel bad for my bil that other co-workers are bringing it up to him and forcing him to be in an awkward situation.
Oh geeze...that's right! You said HE works there too! That's really bad! I think he is right for being upset about everything. For her talking about you and about family/personal things in general. He's probably embarrassed also b/c his wife is a blabber mouth who likes to gossip. Wow! He must be REALLY PO'd at her though....she is creating drama for him at his workplace. So many things wrong with that!
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| Posted 6/2/10 10:39 AM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I will discuss family things with my friends at work (not "work strangers" - I do have some genuine friends I've made in my office), but nothing very personal, and never things between DH and I. More like... "I'm aggravated because my mom is trying to guilt trip me over X event," that sort of thing. And none of them know the people I'm talking about, and I'm definitely not discussing anyone we all work with!
I don't blame your BIL for being upset. I think he's right, and SIL should keep her mouth shut in the future. Not only are you family, you're also a coworker, and the people she was talking to know you too. That should be off limits.
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| Posted 6/2/10 12:33 PM |
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Re: Do you discuss family issues/drama at work?
I have a close co-worker that I'll discuss personal issues with.
I think your BIL has a right to be annoyed, however I think he should tell his sister & leave the co-worker out of the family squabble. Saying something to her may incite even more drama at work.
It doesn't sound like your SIL isn't confiding in a co-worker about family issues. It sounds like she's bringing her family drama INTO the workplace which as an HR manager, I'd say is unacceptable.
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| Posted 6/2/10 12:55 PM |
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