Do you feel like as a working mom you appreciate DC more?

A family member (whom shall remain anonymous ) said that as a working mom a child is def more appreciated.

And more quality time is spent with DC because you have less time with them.

Does that even make sense?

Message edited 1/20/2007 5:59:42 PM.

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well I am a new working mom- I just went backto work after 18 months of being home and I have to say that I totally appreciate the time I spend with him now that it is more limited- when I was home with him all the time I would try to take care of the house and didnt spend as much time playing as I do now. Now when we do spend time together it is all quality and I miss him so much that I make every minute count. My job situation at the time is temporary- my old job asked me to cover a med leave for 4 weeks then is back to being home. At this point I might consider going back full time because its not as bad as I thought- with the exception of when he is sick and Im not right there with him anymore. Both situations have the pos and neg. Being at work I do miss him and being home I would sometimes get bored.

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i kind of agree with this!!

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I agree with that completely! I see it every day, actually! We are both working parents but my husband works from home, so he takes care of our son during the day. He does adore him, of course and would do anything for him but he never sees every second with him as a golden opportunity. I, on the other hand, will clean the bathrooms Friday night half dead just to make sure that my Saturday is free to spend more time with Benjamin. I am the one who reads to him, plays with him, laughs with him and just makes every minute count. DH is much more non chalant about it.

My very close friend is also the same way. She only works part time so she spends amost of her of time with her children, which is why she always goes on vacation without them and uses every opportunity to have friends get together sans the kids. While me and our other friend who is like me, a full time working mom, always make sure the kids are included.

It makes sense that it is that way! Doesn't make anyone a better or worse mother. It is human nature to treasure more what one has less of--in this case: time with her child.

Message edited 1/20/2007 10:47:26 PM.

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I agree I do feel like I try and make every moment we spend together special for the both of us.

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Personally, for ME, I absolutely agree with that.

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Even though I'm a SAHM, I could see how this can be true. First of all, DH SAVORS the time he gets with the kids when he's not working and I know that it would be the same with me. Not that I don't enjoy the time I have with them now, but I have noticed that I spend a lot more time cleaning and trying to sneak on the computer lately. If we could afford daycare, I would totally get a job.

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I kind of have it both ways since I teach and have plenty of vacations and summer.

For me, I do not agree that when I am working I appreciate her more.

I wake up very early in the morning (5:20am) and am on my feet all day long. I feel bad saying this, but when I come home from work (especially now that pregnant) one of the last things I want to do it play...that's me. I do a little dance when she "decides" to take a nap that day. Bedtime is the best time of night. She's a REALLY active baby, did I mention that?

When I am off, I am well-rested (mostly!) and look forward to her waking up in the morning and getting to hang out, etc. I appreciate her more then.

However, I am becoming SAHM in April (with 2!!). Talk to me a year from now!!

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