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CouponKT
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Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
I received an invite to my MIL's cousins, sons, girlfriend's baby shower  
I am friendly with MILs cousin (the grandmother throwing the shower) but hardly know her son and never even met the girlfriend.
Even though I received an invite to the baby shower, I declined the invite and have already made my decision not to send a gift. I appreciate that I was invited, but I just have to draw the line somewhere.
MIL thinks I should still send something or go in on a gift. I say no.
You aren't going to change my decision, but I would love to hear your thoughts...
Message edited 4/14/2011 1:02:09 PM.
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Shorty
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
you've never met the girl! really!
no gift.
if MIL thinks you should gift soooo badly, she should put your name on her card. 
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:00 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
I don't send a gift if I don't go to a party.
If I responded yes, and then have an emergency and can't make it, I send a gift.
If I respond no, I don't send a gift.
I've never received a gift from someone that couldn't make it to a party that was for me.
(There was one exception, I did go in on a gift with my mom for a bridal shower that I couldn't make bc I had DD one week before that and couldn't travel to NJ for the shower).
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:02 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
In this case I would, but only because if I didn't my MIL would send a gift in my name, and we have very different taste and I'd prefer nobody think I actually picked one of those things out.
Like the horrific bride and groom potholder puppets she got at a craft fair for DH's oldest friend when he got engaged. Or the baby blue microfleece hooded cape she gave to my SIL for Christmas one year.
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:06 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
If i never met the person i probably wouldnt go or send a gift... to me thats just asking for a gift when you invite a friend of a cousin of a friend of a friend... kwim?
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:08 PM |
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TreAnt427
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
In this case....no, I wouldn't send a gift.
If it was someone that I have met and couldn't go, then I would send one.
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:15 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
I only send a gift when I am not attending a party if it is someone I am very close to.
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| Posted 4/14/11 1:31 PM |
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caps612
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
the only reason I would not send a gift is because you have never even met her.... any other time i would
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:00 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
No. If it were a close friend, of course I would give them a gift anyway, but a complete stranger? Unnecessary.
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:02 PM |
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Bearcat
Love my little girls!!! <3
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
only if it's a friend/family member. in this case, no i wouldn't.
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| Posted 4/14/11 2:42 PM |
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jlk51496
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
nope
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| Posted 4/14/11 3:38 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
Absolutely not! Unless it is an event for someone who is a good friend and I am just not able to make it for some reason, if I don't go I don't send a gift!
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| Posted 4/14/11 3:42 PM |
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Mrs213
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Re: Do you feel obligated to gift when you are invited?
No I would not send a gift for that, I would for the wedding though if you get invited to that but don't go, just a small amount though...
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| Posted 4/14/11 3:43 PM |
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