Do you intervine when your kids bicker/fight and what age did you stop/start?

So my 2 are now 2.9 years and 18 months and I feel like I am always telling the older one to get off of her, leave her alone, stop bothering her, you know the usual stuff. I feel bad for her but I feel like she needs to start standing up for her self. Do you think I should just let them battle it out?

Re: Do you intervine when your kids bicker/fight and what age did you stop/start?

I let them battle it out til safety becomes an issue or they bring the fight to me. I rarely intervene unless i saw the incident for myself.

For me though, i am usually telling the 18 month old to back away from the older one, she can level her out.

Re: Do you intervine when your kids bicker/fight and what age did you stop/start?

my neice and nephew are 21 months apart, when they were young around your dcs age, they did the same. Now at 8 and 6 they have an occasional bicker but not something everyday. My sister only interviened really when she saw it or it got really out of hand. As they get older they learn to settle the situation on their own.. one always ends up being the tattle tail tho.

Now they have another little brother.. so hes the one picking on them.. but they are good with him b/c they know hes little and will stop too in future.

But really the bickering never ends.. Im in my 30s and still bicker with my siblings.

Re: Do you intervine when your kids bicker/fight and what age did you stop/start?

Good question. I'm going through the same thing with my 3.5 year old and 21 month old. Usually the fight starts over some random toy they haven't touch in months that they both just have to have at that exact moment.

I usually try to let them work it out but most of the time end up intervening because my 19 month old is a biter. My 19 month old is a tough little guy and the older brother usually ends up crying.

I'm working on avoiding these confrontations all together with little luck.

Re: Do you intervine when your kids bicker/fight and what age did you stop/start?

I only started letting them bicker it out when she was old enough to tell on him. Now I let them work it out for the most part.

I think I have a lifetime of this so I needed some way of maintaining my sanity.