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05mommy09
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Do you know what

Im getting so tired of hearing "I really need to start seperating myself" from my child Chat Icon

Lately- Quite a few people (including strangers) have felt the need to tell me, how us spending so much time together- is basically gonna mess up my child... and I need to start seprating myself Chat Icon

I dunno- I work all week (even if its PT) and hate even leaving him then- every second I have I wanna be with my baby...

Granted DH and I go out about 1x every other week together, and I do get out and have a girls day to get my hair done and stuff every now and then...But other than that- I wanna spend MY TIME with MY FAMILY...

For instance- today I was at my cousins shower, and we were talking about Ryan- Now Ryan has no problem (for the most part) when I leave him with either grandma or DH- but obviously when I leave the room, and he is left with an unfamiliar face- he starts to freak out! (I would too- If I didnt know who the h ell was holding me, and my mommy just left!) After hearing this, this woman- a stranger mind you, goes on and on abnout how horrible this is- and how Im doing my child some injustice by being with him all the time....

Grr... it just bugs me.... I didnt know it was a crime to love your child so much- you wanna be with them all the time!












I also wanna add... Ive been working in a day care center for years... and let me tell you- there are children that have been there since they were 6 weeks old (FT) and still have seperation anxiety- some kids have it- regardless of your parenting style!

Posted 8/20/06 9:10 PM
 
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Marcie
Complete Happiness :)

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LOVE being a Mommy!

Re: Do you know what

No one has the right to say that to you!
I want to spend every minute I have with Alison, and quite honestly - I would be PO'd at someone that said it to me!!! Chat Icon

Posted 8/20/06 10:22 PM
 

sunny
Life is good!

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Stephanie

Re: Do you know what

I am always being told to put her down and let her cry.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/20/06 10:39 PM
 

mommy2bella
Where does time go?

Member since 12/05

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Kelly

Re: Do you know what

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no matter what, YOU are his mommy, and the only one that does it right...no one has a right to say anything to you.

Posted 8/20/06 10:42 PM
 

dawnygirl25
Growing up soo fast..

Member since 1/06

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Dawn

Re: Do you know what

Posted by sunny

I am always being told to put her down and let her cry.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



me too! and DD is only 2 months old!Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/20/06 10:43 PM
 

beachgirl
LIF Adult

Member since 7/05

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sara

Re: Do you know what

I have been asked when am I going to go back to the hospital to get the umbilical cord cutChat Icon

I just smiled and said " maybe when she is 18.."

Seriously there is nothing wrong in my books with your baby loving you and wanting to be with you....before we know it they will be aserting their independence and they will no longer think the world starts and stops with us so I say enjoy it while you can and to hell with the onlookers who have no clue really....

Posted 8/20/06 10:57 PM
 

Stefanie

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Stefanie

Re: Do you know what

Posted by mommy2bellabean

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no matter what, YOU are his mommy, and the only one that does it right...no one has a right to say anything to you.



Word...Chat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 12:13 AM
 

KangaMom
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Re: Do you know what

Some people are idiots, plain and simple! I have had people tell me I need to let her cry and not pick her up so much... It is SO annoying when people think they know what's best for MY child. I am with her 24 -7 and hold her, love her, nurse her, wear her in a sling and if people don't like it, too bad!

Posted 8/21/06 8:04 AM
 

betty
My boys

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Beth

Re: Do you know what

Tell people to mind their businessChat Icon . What makes them the experts? I always ask my mil what was the last baby related article she read??? Chat Icon This is a normal reaction for kids their age.....unfortunately mine doesn't have it and will go to ANYBODYChat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 10:01 AM
 

SoinLove
Making big changes

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Kristin

Re: Do you know what

Posted by sunny

I am always being told to put her down and let her cry.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



Ugh...I get this one too! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon DH's grandmother can't understand why I have such a difficult time getting stuff done sometimes. "Just put him in the f-in playpen and let him cry!" Chat Icon Don't let anybody tell you what's right for your child! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 10:44 AM
 

Faithx2
All good things in 2016!!

Member since 8/05

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Re: Do you know what

Screw em!! Chat Icon Thats what I say. You carried him for 9 mos and have the right to do whatever you want!

Posted 8/21/06 10:45 AM
 

CathyB

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Re: Do you know what

Don't listen to them. Both of my cousins slept in their parents bed every night until they were 4 and they both chose to go away to college and are perfectly normal now. People think that what worked for them works for every kid. Chat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 11:03 AM
 

Shelly
She's 7!!!

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Re: Do you know what

Unfortunately, people will always be telling us what to do with our kids. Its unbelievable to me that people can be so rude... but they are.

It's so wrong, but unfortunately we have to develop some thick skin to it. Just try to come up with a witty retort, like- "oh thanks- are you offering to babysit?" or the pp's "when she's 18"

It sux, but unfortunately people can be damn rude and stupid. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 11:05 AM
 

pmpkn087
Life is good...

Member since 9/05

18504 total posts

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Stephanie

Re: Do you know what

You would think that people DON'T want their kids to feel comfortable with strangers. I have noticed that people, mostly family that you only see once or twice a year...expect for your child to feel totally comfy when they hold him/her. Sorr, but this child doesn't know you from a hole in the wall. Chat Icon

Don't listen to these people. You do what's right for you and your family Chat Icon

Posted 8/21/06 11:31 AM
 
 

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