Do you plan to raise your kids...

very strictly or very leniently or a mix of the two?

I think personally I will probably more lenient. I know my Mom was and I have an amazing rekationship with her, and want to do similiar things.

My friends parents who were more strict, well they seemed to be the more out of control kids.

I dont think I was ever punished, gorunded or anything lot that. I respected my mother, because she showed me respect.

I do thik I will be stricter though then her when it comes to school.

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I personally think you need a mix of the two!
That is the way my parents were and i think they were fabulous!
IMO you shouldn't be all of one or the other.

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I agree with a mix of the two....

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I think a Mix of the 2...do not really want to be STRICT, but want to have some guidelines in place....but I want to have my children come to me without being scared, etc...I just want to be their best friend, like my parents are to me

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I know most will say a mix of the two, BUT its funny that thinking about parents we know, you can see a LOT who are one way or the other. I dont think they intended to be, but it happens..

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We're a mix of the two....there are certain boundaries needed between parent and child and certain rules need to be laid out.

I KNEW that when I broke those rules, there'd be a consequence, IF I got caught

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I am definately a mix of the 2. I am Scotty's best friend, BUT he also know that I am the parent and he respects my authority.

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definitely a mix of the two, there has to be a balance.

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more lenient than my parents raised me...My parents were very strict and I think me and my siblings did things we probably wouldn't have done if my parents hadn't been constantly breathing on our necks. None of us got along with our mom during our late teenage years and early twentys.

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Posted by dm24angel

very strictly or very leniently or a mix of the two?

I think personally I will probably more lenient. I know my Mom was and I have an amazing rekationship with her, and want to do similiar things.

My friends parents who were more strict, well they seemed to be the more out of control kids.

I dont think I was ever punished, gorunded or anything lot that. I respected my mother, because she showed me respect.

I do thik I will be stricter though then her when it comes to school.

i think we have the same exact Mom I would probably be a little stricter than she was, just b/c there are certain personality traits that, in my nature, are just stronger than in hers (like she didnt care about cleaning my room, but i would, and i would get mad at her for not cleaning hers ) Im pretty anal about cleaning, so i could see myself being stricter with my kids re: their chores and stuff. And the same with school- my parents were wayyyyyyyy lenient with staying home when i wanted to, etc... They never really got on my back about grades (unless they knew that i Really didnt try), but i always did really well in school, and was harder on myself anyway, so i guess they didnt need to be

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I can only hope we will be a great mix of the two.

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i hope i'll be a mix of the two. i'm a teacher & i'm strict with the kids but we have a great trusting relationship at the same time. so... we'll have to wait and see i guess. i firmly believe in clear boundaries and consequences though (the teacher in me!).

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I'll probably be strict, but I'd like to be more lienent ... you see I don't think my parents are wrong for being strict with me even though I hated it at the time, but don't tell them that!

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I think I will be strict but not as strict as my mom was. Although, its a hard question to answer because I feel that society dictates a lot when it comes to setting boundaries for our children. The world we live in now is crazy, can you imagine when our kids are 16 and 17?? I think a lot of strictness will come from trying to keep them safe. I know it will be hard but I will try to strike a balance between the two.

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I would be strict about self respect, respect for others & education, but probably a little lenient about other issues.

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There has got to be a mix.

My parents were very strict. I swore I would never be like them, but now I find myself thinking the same way they did when I look at how my sister is raising her kids and how they behave. Granted, they could have lightened up on a few occasions and my Mother is the first to admit that her priorities should have been different back then, but I am just grateful we have an incredible relationship and always have.

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firm but fair -- a good mix

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I think a mixture is important. I am very close to my mom and I was honest with her. She was more realistic then other parents. Other parents who were so strict, it was their kids that were wild and crazy and lied to their parents.

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Posted by neeniebean86

Posted by dm24angel

very strictly or very leniently or a mix of the two?

I think personally I will probably more lenient. I know my Mom was and I have an amazing rekationship with her, and want to do similiar things.

My friends parents who were more strict, well they seemed to be the more out of control kids.

I dont think I was ever punished, gorunded or anything lot that. I respected my mother, because she showed me respect.

I do thik I will be stricter though then her when it comes to school.

i think we have the same exact Mom I would probably be a little stricter than she was, just b/c there are certain personality traits that, in my nature, are just stronger than in hers (like she didnt care about cleaning my room, but i would, and i would get mad at her for not cleaning hers ) Im pretty anal about cleaning, so i could see myself being stricter with my kids re: their chores and stuff. And the same with school- my parents were wayyyyyyyy lenient with staying home when i wanted to, etc... They never really got on my back about grades (unless they knew that i Really didnt try), but i always did really well in school, and was harder on myself anyway, so i guess they didnt need to be

LOL! Whats hysterical is my MOM was the same with School and I would see kids crying over c's saying their parents would kill them and I had no idea what that would be like..yet I was honor roll and hard on MYSELF...

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