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LIMOMx2
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Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Just Curious
My family will not take money from us but I would think it is strange if they said yes.
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Posted 10/29/06 8:21 AM  |
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Honestly I think paying money to whomever the caregiver is allows you to be the rule-setter. Is your mom or MIL the type to not listen to how you want to care for the baby and do things their way? I'm a bit of a control freak and that would annoy me to no end! If you're paying them, it helps to set the boundaries, IMO.
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| Posted 10/29/06 8:24 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
If they were doing it on a regular basis, I would pay them. I take my mom out to lunch a lot to thank her . Her Christmas/Birthday gifts have definitely been upgraded since she helps out often.
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| Posted 10/29/06 8:28 AM |
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ThreeCats
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
My mom stopped doing other things that paid her so she could watch my DS so Yes I will pay her!!
Adding: If my MIL is ever in town and watchs DS one day, I would not pay her. Since she will only do it once or twice a year.
Message edited 10/29/2006 8:31:54 AM.
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| Posted 10/29/06 8:30 AM |
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My2Boys
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Posted by nrthshgrl
If they were doing it on a regular basis, I would pay them. I take my mom out to lunch a lot to thank her . Her Christmas/Birthday gifts have definitely been upgraded since she helps out often.
ITA. If it became my mom's or MIL's (when hell freezes over) "job", then I would absolutely pay them.
My mom has watched the boys maybe 5x this year for an hour or two. I haven't even offered her money b/c she would never take it.
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| Posted 10/29/06 8:32 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
I guess I am odd one out
They def will get upgraded Chirstmas presents
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| Posted 10/29/06 8:36 AM |
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kimmie
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Yes I would pay my mother not because ahe would ask for it but because I would feel better and I know it would help my mom out a bit.. Different reasons I guess
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| Posted 10/29/06 10:51 AM |
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TwoGirls4Me
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
my moms last day of "regular" work was on friday, starting tomorrow she will be watching sydney full time for us and yes ofcourse we are going to pay her... she quit her job for us and we are THRILLED and very lucky! however neither mom nor mil would ever take $ for regular babysitting... i.e. going out at night etc. etc.
anytime that they get to spend with sydney they love and are always volunteering, so we are very lucky with that too!
ETA: if she didnt need the $ she would never take it for the daytime babysitting either.
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| Posted 10/29/06 10:53 AM |
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sunny
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
I wouldn't pay mom or mil either.
Unless they quit their jobs to do it- that is different.
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| Posted 10/29/06 10:58 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
I would absolutely offer to pay my mom. She'd never take the money, or if she did, she'd just go spend it on the baby.
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| Posted 10/29/06 11:00 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
If they were babysitting on a regular basis, like when I return to work, I would pay them. If they are just watching her for the night so we can get out, no, I don't pay them. Unfortunately, my mom lives in CA and DH's mom is in Orient so they don't get the chance to watch her very often. I also don't offer my sister any money because I watched all her kids plenty of times.
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| Posted 10/29/06 11:21 AM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
We pay my mom to watch Miranda the days that I work. She does this instead of having a PT job so she is totally flexible for whatever we need so it wouldn't be fair for us not to pay her.
On weekends or nights we go out for fun we don't pay her and she doesn't expect money.
Our thing is if she's babysitting so we can make money it's only fair to pay her but if its for pleasure then she's doing it because she's Grandma. I know if my mom didn't need to work she wouldn't take money from us at all but she can't afford not to have any income.
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| Posted 10/29/06 11:28 AM |
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betty
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
My mom watches Logan on Mondays (she has off) and she would never take money for it (although come to think of it I never offered it to her ). If she watched him ft I would offer to pay him (but I don't think she would take it)...unless of course she quit her job to do it.
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| Posted 10/29/06 12:04 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
My mom doesn't work and would be offended if I tried to pay her. I buy her special gifts to say thank you. And yes I do "upgrade" the holiday gifts LOL
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| Posted 10/29/06 12:29 PM |
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nymommy2be
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Both my parents and the inlaws would probably be offended if we offered money, i still have to fight my mom for the check when we go out, she always tries to pay for everything,
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| Posted 10/29/06 12:56 PM |
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Karen
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
my mom retired early so she could watch our child, so yes, we will be paying her.
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| Posted 10/29/06 4:23 PM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
my mom also is giving up her job to watch jiavana so i will pay her.
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| Posted 10/29/06 4:40 PM |
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ILJ619
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
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Honestly I think paying money to whomever the caregiver is allows you to be the rule-setter. Is your mom or MIL the type to not listen to how you want to care for the baby and do things their way? I'm a bit of a control freak and that would annoy me to no end! If you're paying them, it helps to set the boundaries, IMO.
This is my case exactly. My MIL is the caregiver and paying her is a way of saying thank you AND a way of setting boundaries. At first she refused to accept it but now that my dc is an active toddler its not easy money like it used to be so she deserves it.
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| Posted 10/29/06 6:43 PM |
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emilain
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
Posted by nymommy2be
Both my parents and the inlaws would probably be offended if we offered money, i still have to fight my mom for the check when we go out, she always tries to pay for everything,
Same thing here. They would be so offended, they just love watching them. My Mom watches my kids regularly and if I felt she was financially losing out because of her dedication to my kids, i would of coirse offer her money, but she is very financially stable, I just make sure that she has everything that she needs to care for them like enough diapers, enough milk, enough snacks, etc, she gets offended when I bring over groceries but it is the least I can do.
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| Posted 10/29/06 6:57 PM |
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Kate07
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
No I don't think so. My cousin pays my Aunt to watch her three kids when she works. I think she'd rather her mom do it than daycare or a nanny.
Posted by 5ofClubs
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My family will not take money from us but I would think it is strange if they said yes.
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JTK
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
i pay my mom very little to watch my kids but she also feeds them all the meals (at her house) so it's almost like i'm just paying for food!
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| Posted 10/29/06 6:59 PM |
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KSJ1210
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
My Mother in law watches my daughter mon-thurs and will not accept money from us but we hired a lanscaper for her and I buy her extra gifts and things from time to time.
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| Posted 10/29/06 10:02 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Do you think it is strange if your mom or mil took money for watching your child?
My MIL was under the assumption she was going to watch Roman when he was born so she didn't need to get a job I nearly fainted when she told DH how much she wanted, let's just say it's almost what we are paying for daycare and that's a lot more reliable than her.
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