Do you think older generations "forget" how hard it was? Or is it just me?

OK..so sometimes when I talk to my mom, my grandma etc...I tend to feel like "wow I must be a complainer".

I was fully potty trained at 18 months and my brothers and sisters no later than 2 and a half..all 6 of us.

We rarely woke up at night and there were 4 of us in one room at a time (including 2 infants!!)

My mom sympathizes with me and admits my son is tough (going through his sensory stuff hasn't been a picnic!) but overall he's a good boy and getting better all the time.

I guess what I'm saying is that I feel like I have more struggles, more problems with this all and the older women in my family seemed to have had an easier time of it.

Anyone else feel like that? Do you think they're all big fat liars??

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I wanted to add..I think lots has to do with how much "stuff" we have today, how much information is out there as well..it doesnt help all the time! Sometimes I think it was easier before all this..I mean, you took care of your kid, you didn't worry about every tiny thing and they somehow survived you know?

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I think they had their own difficult situations but over time you forget those and only remember the good stuff. So they had those sleepless nights and days they wanted to rip hair out but just chose not to remember. Kinda like getting a shot, u had them but do you remember them? NOpe.

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I think we are programmed to forget. If people could remember every pain they had during labor a lot of people would only have one child.
The difficulities you have with a baby are a small portion of the whole life you have with a child as it grows up. KWIM

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I think you are suppose to forget the bad times just like you forget labor. I couldn't remember what it felt like after my DS and I was pg with DD. Well I had my first contraction and I remember

My mom had 5 children and she remembers bits and pieces of all of us and usually gets confused between the 5 of us . The only one we all remember is my middle broher. He threw tantrums until I think the age 4 or 5 after every single nap..now who can forget that

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I do think they do forget some---I know when my mom stayed with us, after the first night she got up all bleary eyed and told me she forgot how often a newborn gets up---and she had 3 kids!

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My son is 6 months old and I already forget how tired you get when you wake up every 3 hours to feed a newborn.

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They totally forget. My sister swears my niece was the perfect child. (She's 21 now) I can remember her having tough times with her. She totally forgot them.

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My mother is pretty good actually, or she just admits it when she can't remember things. She does still remember how hard it was to have a colicky baby 40 years ago (me) and has been great to talk with my own son's colic.

Some people though, totally forget. It seems as if old ladies are constantly giving me advice that would apply for a much older child. I'm guessing his crying bugs them more than women who are are still in the childbearing years.

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Re: Do you think older generations "forget" how hard it was? Or is it just me?

I think that people do "forget" esp years and years later

I also think there is a lot more pressure on moms today to do the right thing, keep kids educationally engaged and stimulated, eating organic foods oh and look like a supermodel doing it.....then add a 45 hr work week

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My family DEFINITELY forgets!
However, my MIL, does not forget one thing (and tells me the same stories over and over and over again)

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oh yes...heck I block out the first 4 weeks with both babies and my little one is only 6months

I also think it was more of a "village" raising a child in my mother's case. She lived in the same house with my grandparents and my 15 year old aunt who held me all day...I was her toy