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Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Will it be harder? I got PG with DS when I was 32 without trying. He is now almost 18 mts, and as much as I would love to try now, it is not realistic financially.
I am worried if I wait, then prime baby making time is passing. I know so many ladies conceive at 35, 36, 37, and up. I guess I need to hear that right now 
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Posted 9/25/08 10:35 PM  |
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maybeamommy
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Honestly, you just never know!
Some people have no trouble conceiving. Some have trouble conceiving number one, then no trouble with number two. Some have no trouble with number one, then have trouble with number two, KWIM?
I think it's one of those things where you have to prepare yourself for it taking NO time at all, or for it to take a LOT of time. I wouldn't start before you're ready in case it happens right away, but I wouldn't put it off until the last possible minute either since you really never know how long it will take.
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:41 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
this is going to wind up being a very big topic (with a lot of different opinions).
my two cents would be to go to the OB and have her do a full workup and see what she has to say...
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:41 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Posted by maybeamommy
Honestly, you just never know!
Some people have no trouble conceiving. Some have trouble conceiving number one, then no trouble with number two. Some have no trouble with number one, then have trouble with number two, KWIM?
I think it's one of those things where you have to prepare yourself for it taking NO time at all, or for it to take a LOT of time. I wouldn't start before you're ready in case it happens right away, but I wouldn't put it off until the last possible minute either since you really never know how long it will take.
I know that may not be exactly what you want to hear, but it's the truth. And the fact of the matter is, you have to do what's right for you and your family. Period. If now is not the right time, then you should wait. However, remind yourself that there is really no perfect time to have another baby. If/when it happens, you simply make it work.
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:43 PM |
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Posted by maybeamommy
Honestly, you just never know!
Some people have no trouble conceiving. Some have trouble conceiving number one, then no trouble with number two. Some have no trouble with number one, then have trouble with number two, KWIM?
I think it's one of those things where you have to prepare yourself for it taking NO time at all, or for it to take a LOT of time. I wouldn't start before you're ready in case it happens right away, but I wouldn't put it off until the last possible minute either since you really never know how long it will take.
I believe that if I put too much thought into it, I will stress myself out. That would be true for me at any age. I can really mess myself up physically. Thats my biggest fear!
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:48 PM |
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LiveAgain
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Posted by nferrandi
I know that may not be exactly what you want to hear, but it's the truth. And the fact of the matter is, you have to do what's right for you and your family. Period. If now is not the right time, then you should wait. However, remind yourself that there is really no perfect time to have another baby. If/when it happens, you simply make it work.
ITA with this.
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| Posted 9/25/08 10:58 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
I do not think it is a bad idea at all, do what works for your family Liza
best of luck 
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| Posted 9/26/08 7:16 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
You absolutely have to do what works for your family.
But you also have to remember, that after age 35, a woman is considered to be of "advanced maternal age," and there is a greater possibility of having infertility issues. That being said - hey, I was 28 when I started trying and had issues with infertility, so who knows.
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| Posted 9/26/08 8:02 AM |
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clwp
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
No one knows for sure of course, but to be honest all my friends are over 35 and only 1 couple's had trouble - and they would have had trouble if they were 20 - it's a medical thing not an age thing. I do have a 28 y.o coworker who has been ttc and not successful. I say for the most part if you've had a child already your chances of problems SOLELY due to age is probably low. Do what is best for you and your family - as long as there are no known health related risk factors you'll most likely will be fine. 36 is far from old imo... I know someone who had her first at 41 and now has 2 healthy kids. Stress alone is known to be a dibilitating factor so do whats best for you and your family and be prepared to take a while and talk to your doctor. You may be happily surprised... I almost fell over when I got my BFP after one month of trying at 34. I was prepared to see BFN for 6 months - a year. There are benefits too to being "old" in baby terms.
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| Posted 9/26/08 8:16 AM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
you have to do what is right for you and your family and feel comfortable with your decision.
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| Posted 9/26/08 8:22 AM |
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petvet
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
My mom had me at 39 and My DH's mom had him at 37. Just my input:)
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| Posted 9/26/08 8:37 AM |
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ready2ttc
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Talk to you doctor. There is no crystal ball that will tell you whether you will have issues, but that would be the same if you started trying next year.
My doctor sat me down and said if at all possible that I should try before reaching advanced maternal age. In a very matter of fact way he gave me the statistics on birth rates over 35 and chances of babies being born with down syndrome and other special needs. Of course many, many people have perfect babies over 35, but the rates are significantly higher. For me I had no real valid reasons to wait; it was just the "one day i'll have kids...", so he convinced me to try and if at all possible finish before 35.
My fear would be that you might wait til 35 and still have financial difficulties and not be ready financially.
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| Posted 9/26/08 9:16 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
I think you should wait if that's what is best for your family. Even if it did take some time- 36 IS NOT old. You have plenty of time. And if you need some help- RE's have gotten 60 year old surrogates pregnant. I wouldn't worry about that.
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| Posted 9/26/08 9:18 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
I think that if it isn't the right time for you then it isn't the right time - regardless of age, etc.
Statistically yes it can be harder to get pregnant the later in your 30's you are - but that isn't to say you personally would have a problem. There are many people who are pregnant in their late 30's even early 40's so anything is possible. I think if you decide to put it off you have to be okay with the possibility that it could take longer, you might need fertility help or worst case you might not be able to have #2. Although not everyone who is in their mid to late 30's have trouble getting pregnant. It is a VERY hard and VERY personal decision only you can make and feel comfortable with. Now having said that - there is also no guarantee that if you tried tomorrow you would get pregnant either. Just something to think about.
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| Posted 9/26/08 9:40 AM |
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autumn
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
My mom had my younger brother at 38, it really depends on what works for you and your family.
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NoStressMom
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
I do not think so I co-worker of mine just had a baby naturally at 44 years old!!
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Posted by NoStressBride
I do not think so I co-worker of mine just had a baby naturally at 44 years old!!
Something similar happened with someone i know....
Heres the thing - if I can't conceive naturally, we are NOT going the IF route. It's just not anything I even want to go through in the least. I have one child and i'm lucky for that - if I had fertility issues, I would much rather put time and energy, as well as money, into adopting.
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| Posted 9/26/08 2:34 PM |
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Sunshyne
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Do what is best for your family. We got pg the 1st month we used an OPK-I was 37. I'm 38 now,going for #2, honestly, because I'm afraid to wait any longer. My OB said there's a difference between having your 1st after 35 and 2nd+. Good luck.
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| Posted 9/26/08 2:58 PM |
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Lizzy
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
My mom had me and my brothers in her early 30's but had my sibliings in her late 30's and her early 40's -- no problems at all  (there are 8 of us!)
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| Posted 9/26/08 4:43 PM |
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by NoStressBride
I do not think so I co-worker of mine just had a baby naturally at 44 years old!!
Something similar happened with someone i know....
Heres the thing - if I can't conceive naturally, we are NOT going the IF route. It's just not anything I even want to go through in the least. I have one child and i'm lucky for that - if I had fertility issues, I would much rather put time and energy, as well as money, into adopting.
I think that if you go into TTC at 36 with this in mind it will help. Yes women in their later 30's, 40's a nd even 50's have babies, but the chances for chromosomal(?) issues is much higher. I would talk to your doctor and see what they say. It's a personal choice and one you, your dh, and your doctor should make. I would say this as caution.......we all know people who have babies later in life, but that is the minority not the majority and there is a reason for that. I, however, do not think 36 is to "old" at all!
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| Posted 9/26/08 5:57 PM |
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Shannon
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
You need to do whats right for your family...I will tell you, I had my daughter at 38 and got pregnant on the first shot...I thought I would have trouble because of my age but I didn't. I bought an ovulation kit and everything, just in case and never opened it. This is just my story...I hope the same for you but consult with your doctor, also.
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| Posted 9/26/08 10:07 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Do you think waiting until I'm 36 to TTC is a bad idea?
I'd say dont worry about it. The liklihood that you would have trouble is probably not high. That being said, if I were you I would TTC on my own for only a few months before heading to an RE...just in the interest of time.
one of my close friends got PG on the first try with her daughter when she was 40! She got PG with daughter #2 again on the first try when she was 41!
Both pregnancies were text book and I think her labor was like 10 minutes with each of them (ok ...longer but you know what i mean).
So, you never know.
If DH and I stuck to our plan I would be 37 when TTC #2
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| Posted 9/26/08 11:46 PM |
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