Does anyone feel pressure to have baby #2 because of your age?

For a short time (last week), I wanted to have another baby right away. After a few nights of DS screaming in the middle of the night due to teething, I think I'd like to space baby #2 out a little bit more out. I do feel my biological clock ticking a bit though. Ideally I'd like to be finished with having children by age 35.

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I feel like you do, I want to be done by 35. I had the first when I was 30, i'll be 32 end of the year. If we have 2 then I can wait a bit to have #2, but DH is really set on having 3, I don't think we can squeeze 3 kids in by the time I am 35

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I did. I was 2 weeks from 30 when I had DS. I just turned 32 last week, DD is due next month.

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I put pressure on myself because I want to be done by 35 ( I don't want to go thru the extra tests and risks, especially since I had cervix issues), and I want 3-4 kids. I just had my first this year at 29 yrs old. So I'm looking at hopefully one every 2 years God willing...

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Yes I do. I had DS at 32, he's 6 months now and in October I'll be turning 33. I'd like to wait a bit more before attempting #2 but would like to be done before 35 so I'll be cutting it close, assuming I'm able to get PG as easily the second time as I did with DS. If I had a hard time then I don't know what I'll do.

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Yes- very much so, which is why we had ours so close in age (17 months between them).

I was 34 when Madelyn was born, and 35 when Eliza arrived. We have recently been talking about having #3. Ideally, we want to wait, but I really don't want to have kids past 37, so we might be done with the two we have.

It makes me very sad though, the idea of not having a third.

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yes, I turned 38 2 months after DD was born. On top of that, we needed alot of medical intervention to even have DD. Who knows how long it will take us to have another one.

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I didn't feel "pressure", but for my own reasons I definitely wanted our children close in age. I will be 35 when DC#2 is born.

My age did play a factor in our trying for both DD and DC#2

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A little bit. I had DD when I was 32 and am now 33. I don't think I will have #2 by 35 though. Maybe 36. I want them to be about 2.5 or 3 years apart. I am bad at the math, so if DD was born in 12/08 when would I have to get pregnant for them to be 2.5-3 years apart? Ideally, I would like another winter baby...maybe February. Though things may not work out just right!

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Re: Does anyone feel pressure to have baby #2 because of your age?

I did, but I had a rough time springing back after DS was born (at age 40), and I wanted to wait awhile. Originally I was thinking of trying for number 2 no less than a year after his birth.

But then some other stuff came up, and we have decided we are finished. So at this point, no I don't feel pressure.

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Not really...I had DS at 29 and turned 30 a couple months after that. I just want to enjoy my son!!

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I felt a tremendous amount of pressure to have one immediately after marriage b/c DH & I are both over 40 (DD was born on DH's 45th birthday) and we knew having only one child was the only option for us. No pressure over a second, as it's just not feasible.

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Yes. I'm 34......will be 35 in March. With any luck we'll be pregnant with #2 by the end of the year. I would like to have the option of baby #3 so I don't want to wait too long to get pregnant again. My DD will be one next month so if I'm pregnant by the end of the year they will be exactly 2 yrs. apart.

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Yes. I had DS at 34 and even thought I felt so not ready for #2 yet, I will give birth to #2 when I am 37.

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I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU that I want to be finished having kids by the time I am 35.

I had DS when I was just about 31. I'm now 32.

I always wanted 3 kids... but being 32 already and with no plans for another in the near future, it looks like we will have 2. (And if we have two I will feel soo lucky and blessed! I just had alwasy pictured my life with three children i guess = ) ).

I hear ya about the age thing.

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Not so much for number 1 or 2, but if we decide to go for a third, then yes.

I am due with number 2 (DS) in November. If we decide to try for a third, I'll be 36 and I'll want to start trying when he is around 6 months. I might feel overwhelmed (or satisfied) with a toddler and an infant at that point and call it a day rather than start up again. We shall see.

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I had DD shortly after I turned 29, now that I'm 30 I can't really see myself preggo just yet I just wan tto enjoy DD.
When I was younger I wanted to be done having kids by 30...impossible, now at 30 I say 35. I think DH and I only want 1 but I will make my mind up as I am getting to 35

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40 is my new 35

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I had my first child at 32 and would like to have #2 by the time I'm 35.

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Yes. My mom's sister has down syndrome, so I am afraid of being at higher risk (even though I've heard it's not hereditary), and I want to be on the younger side as a parent. I had DD#1 2 days after turning 31 and will be 32 when DD#2 arrives.

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I feel the pressure since I am 33 with 2 kids and i would like to be done at age 35 and I want a third---so time is not on my side

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Posted by Porrruss

Yes- very much so, which is why we had ours so close in age (17 months between them).

I was 34 when Madelyn was born, and 35 when Eliza arrived. We have recently been talking about having #3. Ideally, we want to wait, but I really don't want to have kids past 37, so we might be done with the two we have.

It makes me very sad though, the idea of not having a third.