Does anyone have a parent that will NEVER

apologize or admit to being wrong? How do you handle it when you have an argument with that parent?

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My Mom. Usually....the subject just gets dropped. She will NEVER admitt to being wrong...and for the sake of peace, I just pretend it doesn't exist.

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Honestly-- my dad is like, impossible!

You have to just accept that they are older, they are who they are-- and even as the child you need to be the bigger person. That's how I deal.

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my dad, hense the reason we NEVER speak.

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My parents are actually really good about this.

I have a boss that is very similar. I realize it's not the same thing. I handle it by just accepting that he's really bad at apologies and the most he can utter out is "I'm sorry we had a miscommunication". I did once say that he really needs apology lessons - and if he could learn to say he was sorry, he may have better luck with smoothing over things with people.

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Story of my life with my mom.
She'll apologize sometimes but there's always a "but" which kind of negated the apology.

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i used to have 2 of them.
but, after 25 years of hard work- i finally feel like my efforts are paying off. they were honestly 2 of the most stubborn people you'd ever meet, bu i kiind of learned how to work them. it involves ALOT of biting my tongue... because i know i'll end up saying things that i'll regret AND then it gives them an 'Out' b/c i said hurtful things too. So, if they hang up mad, i just leave it at that. then the next time we talk, i act distant and somewhat hurt, and eventually bring it up in an 'i'm sorry i'm not acting like myself right now, its just that i feel kind of hurt, and i try to look past it, but its still in the back of my head'. I lay on the guilt pretty thick (they taught me really well )... and eventually, they cave.

its almost like they still try to hold onto the Idea of 'Being right'... but i throw some of the "okay, so even if you think you were right, you hurt the people around you, does that make you happy" at them

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Never had a problem with my Mom on this issue, my sister however is a story of her own. She will NEVER admit she is wrong which is so frustrating.

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Um yes. In my case, it has gone from being "annoying" to quite hurtful.

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My mother...I always end up letting it go. I'm never going to win anyway

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not a parent...but my MIL. I just know in my heart when I am right and I let her know why I feel I am correct and if she chooses to not acknowledge it then ok and if not, I just let it go. I am not going to change her way of thinking or being so there is no point in me fighting w/ her.

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both of my parents.

I am really mature about it...I ignore them until I feel like talking to them again.

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Posted by Gertyrae

My mother...I always end up letting it go. I'm never going to win anyway

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my mom rules at this - somehow i am always wrong - somtimes i walk away feeling so confused knowing i am right too!!! it sinks!!

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Posted by BabyAvocado

Well this is what I've been doing for a long time now... but this time... she's gone too far... she caused sooooo much drama for Jake's christening this weekend... and now she's "threatening" to never come to NY to see him again.

I am at a loss with her this time. I really don't know what to do.

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Interestin Post!

I have actually been thinking about this, my mother never apologies and plays the 'wooisme' card. She didn't call me all last week, and yesterday she called and she was waiting for me to call her to see how she felt, needless to say i was sick in bed for days and no call from her. I have soo distant myself from my mother- and it is so sad--self protecting myself.

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Posted by baghag

I don't know what drama happened at the christening- but the dog issue alone would make me never want to speak to her again.

In addition, I can't believe anyone would threaten not to see their grandchild? That punishes no one but him.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

The dog issue was the icing on the cake to an entire weekend of "I can't believe it's not all about ME".

We've exchanged some nasty emails since then and the last thing I told her was exactly what you said - - that if it was her CHOICE to carry through with that threat, she would only be hurting Jake.

So...do I cave in to her, and settle this for the sake of peace - and for Jake's sake? Or do I let her carry out her childish threat?

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My father is like that. When we get into arguments, I have to avoid him for a while until we both cool off. Lately I have had to tell him that unless he changes, I will not be able to speak to him. That usually helps him behave better for a while.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

Posted by Gertyrae

My mother...I always end up letting it go. I'm never going to win anyway

Well this is what I've been doing for a long time now... but this time... she's gone too far... she caused sooooo much drama for Jake's christening this weekend... and now she's "threatening" to never come to NY to see him again.

I am at a loss with her this time. I really don't know what to do.

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Yup 2!

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My dad never admits to being wrong in the heat of the moment....

SO i just usually let it rest, let him think about it and address it at another time

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My father will never admit he is wrong My mom is pretty stubborn too, but I love them to death and I just ignore it. We don't usually have major blow outs.