Does it get easier?

Today has been horrible emotionally. My D&C was just yesterday. I could not get out of bed today. Just cried and slept and watched tv. I had several nightmares that I woke up crying from. I don't want to talk to anyone, and I feel so incredibly sad, angry and irritable. And alone. I feel like DH just doesn't get it. It all just hit me today since things finally calmed down after finding out on Tuesday that my baby's heart was no longer beating, then scheduling and having the D&C on Friday.

Please tell me this is hormonal and normal, and I'll start to feel better soon? I'm worried my reaction today is over the top, and I think DH is scared too.

Does it get easier?

I had my D&C last Friday. I found out Tuesday that week I lost my baby around 10 weeks, was 11W5D when I found out. I was shocked to say the least. I think everyone handles these things in their own way. I had my 3.5 DD with me when I found out, so I held it together until I got home with her. I put her in front of the TV went to my room and lost it.
That was really the only day I cried and cried. Since that day I have had spurts of sadness and crying here and there, but for the most part I am keeping myself busy to get through this. Today I felt very edgy and sad, but I keep it together for my daughter. When my DH got home we had dinner and all took a walk for ice cream and I felt better. I think since today was my first day having nothing to do since finding out, it made me think about things.
So, my advice, since it has been working for me, is to cry when you need to, mourn when you need to, but try to keep yourself busy so you do not fall into a depression. Time heals ya know :)

Re: Does it get easier?

The way you're feeling is completely normal. I had a D&C in February at 13 weeks and I was inconsolable. As time passes it starts to get easier. Take your time to grieve and for your body to heal. The best thing for me was to get back into my normal routine and to keep busy once I was ready. It's been difficult for me to get over because the results of my D&C showed the baby was healthy. I have an autoimmune disease and my body attacked the pregnancy so I feel a lot of guilt. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Does it get easier?

It takes time. For every person that goes through this they have a different path, for me it was very important to talk about it.... Partly the feminist in me who felt that it was total bullsh1t that women were expected to go through this completely silent. It pisses me off to no end that "women's" issues are silent ones, the taboo of it was flicking ridiculous to me, especially since it happens to so many of us. So I talked. And still talk. But it does get easier.

Re: Does it get easier?

Thanks ladies. I was just feeling so low last night, I needed to know I wasn't alone. Today is slightly better. Thanks for the advice to keep busy. I think my DH wanted me to rest yesterday, but lying in bed by myself in my room was really depressing. But I have two young DC though and it's hard to get upset in front of them too.

I do feel that people want to talk to me about it (family members calling, friends texting etc.), but I am not ready to discuss it. I'm sure they are trying to be supportive, but it just feels intrusive bc I am not feeling it yet.