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MrsRbk
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dreading tomorrow
okay, not really DREADING it persay... BUT tomorrow is my grandmother's birthday so we are all going out to lunch to celebrate. This will be the first time I'm seeing everyone (including my sister) since she announced she is pregnant. I KNOW without a doubt, my grandmother is going to ask me what DH and I are waiting for. I'm not so sure I can hold it together. I know she's just a little old lady wanting desparately to be a great grandmother... but I've had such an emotional week, and being on this hormonal medication isn't helping my emotions any ....I'm way more sensitive than I normally am. Today was the fist day I could actually say the words that my sister is pregnant without crying.
not really looking for advice... just need some hugs I guess...
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Posted 1/5/07 10:39 PM  |
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Sneezy
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Re: dreading tomorrow
Plenty of hugs for you here!!!
I know all too well how it feels to watch other people get pregnant while you spend your life wishing, praying, hoping it would happen to you. (I have 5 pregnant friends and for my birthday this month I get to start fertility testing.) It is extremely difficult to not be able to control something with your own body that should be so simple.
Keep your head up, sit in a seat where you can easily excuse yourself to the bathroom during lunch (if you need a minute to yourself) and have a glass of wine to calm you a little. I know firsthand how tough this will be for you. You aren't alone.
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| Posted 1/5/07 10:46 PM |
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juanvi
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| Posted 1/5/07 10:53 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: dreading tomorrow
Michelle, if I have to ask you to stop living my life one more time, I may scream!!! Its starting to become creepy.
Just the other day DH and I were at his 92 year old grandmothers house looking at all of the pictures of her great grandnieces and nephews from Chanukah and Christmas on her refrigerator. She looks at us and says, in a very Jewish grandmother voice, "So? When do I get to put a picture of your baby on my refrigerator?" I told her we were working on it. the 92 year old grandmother is the only person exempt from the "When are you guys having kids?" wrath. There is nothing more to say.
I dread family events. I even dread going to work because the same people ask every day. There was a baby shower at work today and I felt an emptiness in my heart. Tomorrow I have a surprise birthday party for a cousin and I know people will ask questions. I cant be rude so Ill give my standard "We are working on it" answer. THEN they feel obligated to share everything THEY did to get pregnant. I KNOW HOW IT WORKS THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!
Dont feel obligated to tell everyone our business. Keep it simple so you dont upset yourself. Stay close to your DH and hold his hand. He will be there to support you.
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| Posted 1/5/07 10:55 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: dreading tomorrow
Michelle-
Sending you lots of for tomorrow.
And babydust for the rest of the month! 
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| Posted 1/5/07 11:21 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: dreading tomorrow
Thanks ladies....it means so much to have others that understand behind you!
Leslie - you crack me up!!! My grandmother does it in her typical Jewish grandmother way... she doesn't say, "you're not getting any younger you know" She pulls that "Oy, you know I'M not getting any younger"  I so wish I could learn from DH and just laugh it off.
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| Posted 1/6/07 10:16 AM |
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Re: dreading tomorrow
I am going through the exact same thing. It's not easy.
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| Posted 1/6/07 8:09 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: dreading tomorrow
Posted by MrsRbk
Thanks ladies....it means so much to have others that understand behind you!
Leslie - you crack me up!!! My grandmother does it in her typical Jewish grandmother way... she doesn't say, "you're not getting any younger you know" She pulls that "Oy, you know I'M not getting any younger" I so wish I could learn from DH and just laugh it off.
Michelle I thought of you today. I thought I was in the clear at today's family event but alas, I was cornered by a cousin who just HAD to know what was going on with us. I told her we were working on it but it wasnt enough for her. I remained very calm and matter of fact and then she told me that "stars have babies at 45". I told her a) I wasnt a star and b) I wont have a baby past 40 and she looked at me as if I had 40 heads. She told me that all I had to do was be calm and relax and things will happen (did I need to hear this from yet ANOTHER person???) Gee, I wasnt all that upset to begin with. I am very confident in my doctor and I am very confident that we will be prego before years end (good thing its only January). I would have been just fine if the conversation never happened.
Here is my final take on the day and family or people who feel the need to ask the "WHEN" question:
Unless I have a gut that sticks out from here to kingdom come, keep your trap shut and stop asking me when. When I have something to report, I'll report it.
I hope your day went a little better.
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| Posted 1/6/07 9:58 PM |
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