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twicethefun
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Drop off play dates
What age?
What prerequisites?
My sons class does not do dropoffs , yet but I noticed some of the other kindergarten classes do.
I am wondering when I can stop sitting at people's houses making conversation...simply because I have a 2 yr old and its hard to drag her along or find a babysitter.
TIA
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Posted 5/13/10 9:08 PM  |
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ChrisDee
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Re: Drop off play dates
We started doing some drop off playdates in her last year of Pre-School but only with close friends. In Kidergarten it really began for us. I always broke the ice and told parents to feel free to drop off and go. Most were happy to hear it.
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| Posted 5/13/10 9:19 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Message edited 9/1/2011 3:10:43 PM.
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| Posted 5/13/10 9:20 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Drop off play dates
Hmmmmm......
We did "pick up" playdates when the girls were in preschool. But then again we were a fairly tight knit group.
Im going to say that it starts in Kindergarten.
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| Posted 5/13/10 9:32 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Drop off play dates
Posted by nrthshgrl
For us, it started in Kindergarten-1st grade. I still fight the urge to want fingerprints & to check the perimeter but I've kept it in check.
I've noticed it's almost always the mom who has an older child that seems very non-chalant about it which really does help ease the transition.
I'm not sure what you mean by your son's class doesn't do drop offs & other classes do? Do you mean the parents haven't offered yet?
I mean my son is constantly being invited on playdates that I have to attend and when I did offer to take someone else's kid, they acted insulted that I was not inviting them (the mom.) I do not think people don't trust me or my son or anything, because I know they are like that with everyone. Plus I have mother's tell me that they want playdates with my son because he is so well-behaved. ( Don't ask, he has them all fooled)
At my house its fine, but at someone elses, its really hard because of my 2 yr old...even if she is invited. I also feel more pressure to have a spotless house and "entertain" if the moms are coming. I know I am weird and maybe a little antisocial.
Thanks. Maybe I will try for drop offs again.
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| Posted 5/13/10 9:37 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Drop off play dates
Posted by hbugal
Hmmmmm......
We did "pick up" playdates when the girls were in preschool. But then again we were a fairly tight knit group.
Im going to say that it starts in Kindergarten.
My son used to have drop off play dates too. He still plays with his best friend several times per week without me. But, its his classmates that seem to want a play date for the mommies. In fact they have told me that they will not have playdates with certain people because THEY have nothing to talk about. I feel like I might have just reentered highschool. 
So its not abnormal for me to suggest this at this age?
Message edited 5/13/2010 9:41:33 PM.
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| Posted 5/13/10 9:39 PM |
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cantbelieveit
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Re: Drop off play dates
I am so not ready for that. DD is in preschool and so far we have only had one playdate with a classmate and moms were included. I have hardly even left her with a close friend of mine but that is more because until this year, my DD wouldn't go for it. I am going to go with the majority and say Kindergarten/1st grade.
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| Posted 5/13/10 10:03 PM |
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Re: Drop off play dates
For us, it was never before Kindergarten...
I worked F/T and on the weekends we were always busy doing other things.
Playdates in Kindergarten happened often. I never let her take the bus home with anyone until after I met the parents. So when she had a playdate I would take her there myself, meet and chat with the parents for a little bit and pick her up an hour to an hour a 1/2 later. I got to know a lot of the parents by going to birthday parties.
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| Posted 5/13/10 10:05 PM |
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nancy6485
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Re: Drop off play dates
DS had his 1st playdate without me this year (kindergarten). I dropped him off at his friends house and picked him up a couple of hours later. I always leave my cell & home #'s too
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| Posted 5/13/10 10:31 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: Drop off play dates
DS had his first drop off play date this year. He is 7 and in 2nd grade. I will admit that it was a hard thing for me to do but he was so excited to go. We dropped him off, left our cells, house # and called in once to check on him. Picked him up 2 hours later.
It was comforting that he was old enough to clearly tell me if something went wrong or if he felt uncomfortable.
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| Posted 5/13/10 10:34 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: Drop off play dates
Kindergarten. My son has been to a few classmates house for the afternoon and I drop him off and pick him up about 2 hours later.
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| Posted 5/13/10 10:40 PM |
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laurabora
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Re: Drop off play dates
I found more people did drop off playdates starting in kindergarten, but honestly I always go along for the first playdate anyway...I need to know the parents a little and feel comfortable that the house is safe.
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| Posted 5/13/10 11:56 PM |
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OffWithHerHead23
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Re: Drop off play dates
We started playdates in kindegarten. I have never "gone along" on a playdate, as a matter of fact!
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| Posted 5/14/10 6:55 AM |
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my3bugs
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Re: Drop off play dates
We had a few this school year with his classmates. Weird to me at first but he loves them and I have gotten use to the idea. He is in Pre-K 4. He just turned 5 in February.
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| Posted 5/14/10 9:10 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Drop off play dates
I'm still weird about dropping off my kids unless I really know the family REALLY well. I normally invite kids here instead. We started doing drop off toward the end of kindergarten.
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| Posted 5/14/10 9:20 AM |
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joenick
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Re: Drop off play dates
We started that in first grade with Nicholas.
BUT...his friend's moms are my best friends.
Nicholas goes to a small school where EVERYONE knows EVERYONE. I would never drop him off at a home where I really don't know the parents well.
I have not done any drop off playdates with Joey (almost 5 years old) yet.
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| Posted 5/14/10 9:45 AM |
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Kathy
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Re: Drop off play dates
We usually don't do the drop off until first grade but my middle daughter's best friend has a little brother the same age as my son and he has also been dropped off twice now but we found his play times have to be shortened. An hour and a half is the max for him at 4 ;)
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| Posted 5/14/10 12:44 PM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Drop off play dates
My 2 older kids had a couple playdates without me in preK but I knew the parents well. Otherwise it was in 1st grade my DS started doing it. Kindergarten for my DD, she just want to be be out socializing all the time or having kids over. Some Moms I can tell I have nothing in common with so it's OK not to want to always stay. When I click with a parent, I stay if they want me and I can depending on if my DH is working. It's hard juggling playdates, esp if you kids' ages don't mesh with their kids ages (other than the 2 children who you are setting it up for) Why not invite a child over to your house for a playdate first? Offer to the Mom that she can stay if she likes or if she thinks the child is comfortable, she can leave them. Make it a short playdate (under 2 hours definitely) and that parent will most likely reciprocate if the kids like playing together or schedules allow. You can stay the first time and next time not if you feel comfortable.
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