Etiquette Question-Dance Recital

Message edited 5/9/2012 12:51:31 PM.

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Wow yeah thats kinda odd. Like you said IF they really didnt have the money which I get, maybe discuss it in a different way.

We have DD's recital coming up as well and I cant imagine asking for money, especially in that way.

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I was in dance for 7 years and everyone bought their own tickets if they wanted to come. That was over 10 years ago. LOL, My mom only bought my brother, dad, and Grandmother. My Aunts all paid for theres. I also have a huge family so there was no way my mom could afford all. They all loved coming to my dance recitals! Oh how I miss those days!

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For Chloe's recital ,cWe have 8 people we invited and we paid for the tickets.

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I think sending out an actual invitation is odd in itself, and asking for $$ just puts it over the edge.

My brother and SIL always invite us to my niece's recital and pay for our tickets. If they didn't have the money, they could have just asked you if you wanted to go in person and then tell you how much the ticket would be.

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I don't know if see asking for the money as a problem, but the invitation seems weird. Maybe they were trying o be cute about it? If you don't want to spend $60, why don't you go alone and leave dc home with DH.

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My dd is 2 and her recital is coming up. Iwas really stressed at what we should do, since the tickets are 25 dollars each. We had a total of 15 people who wanted to go and would of cost us way too much. I ended up calling everyone telling them they are welcomed but they would have to buy the ticket. We purchased tickets for the grandparents. In the end no one ended up getting us the money in time for the tickets. So I'm happy I just didn't buy them, and HOPE they would show up on time or even at all.


I'm goingbto have a little party bat my house after her recital and everyone can come see her on video.

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The invite is a bit bizarre, but I can understand asking folks to buy their own tickets. Too many times, I've been burned in the past - invited someone, confirmed, bought the tickets and they end up being a no show. It wasn't about the money, it was more about not showing up when someone else could've gone in that seat.

However, I will say this - whenever someone did come out and buy their own tickets, we would head to a local restaurant and I would treat to dinner, which would definitely be more than the ticket price.

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My sister was in dance for years. There were never any invites. My mom would call family and friends and we all paid for our own tickets.

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I was in dance for years. we definitely never sent out invitations. I think for the most part people bought their own ticket. But it was usually just my parents and my grandmother. I had a friends come a few times...I'm not sure if my parents paid for their tickets. I don't think my aunt ever came to a recital, but if she did, she probably paid for the ticket.

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DD did dance for two years and guests paid for their own tickets. I opened the invite and let everyone know when the recital was, but there was no way I could afford to pay for everyone who wanted to go.

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We have a similar situation. We got an email about the recital and it said the price so I'm assuming we have to pay. I don't think it is right to ask people to come to an event they have to pay for.

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I told everyone about it. If they want to go they are welcome to, but they are paying for their own ticket. We have a large family and there is no way I am paying for all.

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I always layout the $ for any family that attends. I think asking for the $ is tacky. Limit the amount of invites to just grandparents if you can't afford it.

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We let our close family know when it is happening and how much tickets cost. It is up to them if they want to come and to pay for their own tickets. We don't make anyone feel obligated. We buy the DVD so everyone can see.

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Thanks for your helpful responses. Will be taking this down now.

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We have DD recital coming up.. I sent out an email asking who wanted to come. Whoever responded I am getting a ticket for, and paying for it. I would never ask for money.

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i think its a little odd to ask you to pay for your own ticket. maybe they just invited a ton of people and didnt want to pay if everyone were to say yes?
are you planning on going?

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I just want to reiterate that I don't think its wrong to ask people to pay. Recital tickets add up quickly. And there is always the chance people will be a no show and the parents are out a decent amount of money.