etopic pregnancy

I found out on Monday that I was having an etopic pregnancy after days of spotting and cramps.And just generally knowing I was losing the baby. The dr's and nurses with the exception of one or two were less then compassionate. I was 7 weeks pregnant and devsetated. This week has been hell with constant dr. visits and more blood work then I had gotten in my entire life. Have been on bed rest all week and have finally stopped bleeding and my numbers have dropped and we are hoping they will drop again Monday. I was given 2 Methotrexlate (spelling) shots on Monday to make the numbers go down. We were so scared about what was happening and so sad about the loss of of our baby. Now that it seems I am coming out of the danger zone for myself, my grief has overwhelmed me. With today being Mother's Day I feel like this is never going to get better. My sister in law is 6 months pregnant and I would rather cut my arm off then see them. Can anyone relate that has had an etopic?Or just in general?

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I am so sorry for your loss

I have no experience with ectopic pregnancies, but had a miscarriage in March.

I think today is a difficult day for all of us who have experienced a loss and you are not alone with how you are feeling

I have all had many bad days, but it definitely gets better

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Unfortately I do know exactly how you feel
I too, had an ectopic pregnancy, and after a couple of weeks and bleeding and bloodwork, oh the bloodwork... I too, had to have the shots as well. I am not sure what your beta numbers are, but mine were pretty high, so it took me a very long time to get things back to normal.

If you have any questions, please let me know

And I am sooooo sorry for your loss

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sorry to hear about your loss. All I can say is with time, things do get better.

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i don't have experience with ectopic pregnancy but i had a D&C back in March and even though i wouldn't have believed it...it doesn't get better just try to stay as positive as you can...i'm so sorry for your loss

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You are not alone. I can relate completely. I am slowly approaching the due date from my 1st chemical pregnancy and just found out my first try under the care of my RE failed. its a hard road and somedays are harder than others but our time will come. Hugs

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i can totally relate. i had an ectopic the 1st time i got pregnant. i opted for the surgery because i wanted it over with as fast as possible. i didn't want to wait weeks with the methotrexate and the chance i would still need surgery.) i also skipped a baby shower shortly afterward because i couldn't deal with seeing someone else pregnant at that time. it does get better. i was able to get pregnant 2 or 3 months later and thats what really turned things around for me. (once i knew it wasn't another ectopic that is)

feel better

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I am so terribly sorry for your loss. It is incredibly difficult. I have had 3 m/c's the first being ectopic. I had to have 2 rounds of methotrexate because the first set of shots didn't work on me. Thankfully the second one worked and I didn't need surgery.

It is hard, I know. I avoided alot of people who were pregnant and baby showers all together. It is getting easier and it will. You just need time to grieve and heal.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my last pregnancy - it was a heterotopic and had 2 rounds of methotrexate over the span of about a week or so. Lots of bloodwork (my arm was badly bruised for a while) and lots of emotional pain.

But I had an amazing doctor and that helped me tremendously. She sent me to the ER rather than make me go to L&D for the shot and she fought tooth and nail for me whenever there was a problem. She held my hands and wiped my tears and said all the right things. I am so very sorry that you did not someone do the same for you

It is a very emotional process and you have to give yourself time to grieve. It is a loss - a deep and sad loss. Take time to heal - both emotionally and physically. If you so some searches here on methotrexate and ectopic pregnancy you'll find some helpful information. There's a lot to know about the drug and it would be to your benefit to read up and come talk over here...everyone is willing to help and give lots of hugs.

Marcie has been the most amazing friend through all my heartache.