Facebook...does it draw you closer to people or further away?

I was just having this discussion with the DH last night. While it's great to catch up with people from the past, we both feel that FB has the ability to really turn you off to people that you know...or knew.

I mean you have the chronic updaters who feel the need to fill everyone in every step of the way. Then you have the people who constantly complain. Then you have the people with the strong political views who don't keep it to themselves. Then there are the people whose lives are so great; the people who give entirely too much personal info... etc. etc... I feel like I'm rolling my eyes daily... And these people are by no means the majority of my "friends," but still...

I find myself saying to DH, "Did you see what so-and-so said on FB today..." and getting aggravated. Meanwhile, pre-FB, who knew? Or cared?

Do I just have a poor attitude or do you see what I'm saying?

OK, so now...who wants to be my FB friend??

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I agree.
I found myself getting annoyed daily by the people who felt the need to update their status every time they took a cr@p. Like people really give a sheet what you are eating for lunch, that you are sitting on the couch with your hubby (and if that is the case GET OFF THE COMPUTER and give him some lovin'!) etc...

I think I have a poor attitude too though- so maybe it's just us!

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I definitely see what you are saying. I think sometimes it can be annoying but for the most part I am really happy to talk to some friends that I have lost touch with.

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You'd like me-I never have a status-just use it to communicate. 80% of my communication is with people I am friends with IRL too-rarely I talk to people I haven't talked to in a long time

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I understand what you are saying. . . if you dont want to hear about someone's status or other activities just hover over the right side of their comment or whatever and you can stop seeing that person's stuff.

i have days where i update a lot - i like when people are active on it. . .makes it more interesting

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Posted by Eireann

I was just having this discussion with the DH last night. While it's great to catch up with people from the past, we both feel that FB has the ability to really turn you off to people that you know...or knew.

I mean you have the chronic updaters who feel the need to fill everyone in every step of the way. Then you have the people who constantly complain. Then you have the people with the strong political views who don't keep it to themselves. Then there are the people whose lives are so great; the people who give entirely too much personal info... etc. etc... I feel like I'm rolling my eyes daily... And these people are by no means the majority of my "friends," but still...

I find myself saying to DH, "Did you see what so-and-so said on FB today..." and getting aggravated. Meanwhile, pre-FB, who knew? Or cared?

Do I just have a poor attitude or do you see what I'm saying?

OK, so now...who wants to be my FB friend??

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Message edited 4/30/2009 7:32:13 PM.

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Posted by Eireann

OK, so now...who wants to be my FB friend??

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For me it does not really bring me closer or further away, I see if for what it is..

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Depends on the person.

If you're some wackjob that constantly updates your status b1tching about your wife, writing desparaging remarks about her & your kids - then while I will keep you as my friend because I find it fascinating. But no way in h3ll will you & I ever really be friends. Oddly enough I thought of this person as a nice quiet guy - that was until the day he posted his status as ____ changed his password on his FB account to stop his wife from deleting his comments about her - and then it took off from there.

If you're a normal friend updating what's going on, it draws me closer. I will be indebted to Facebook for putting me back in touch with a lot of people that I've long lost touch with.

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I want to be your FB friend!



And I agree on the status updates, people definitley get carried away.

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I only go on FB about once a day for 20 or 30 minutes, so I don't know if my friends had a different status a few minutes before. i don't really care either way. I do like to spend some idle moments just catching up on status updates. It's fun.

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I think it pulls me closer to people i havent spoken to in years...but further away from my close friends who I see their status and know what is happening as opposed to hearing it from them first hand

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my only status is "I dont want to go to work"...LOL Does that put me in the whiney club???

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I dont know. I update maybe once a day and I always have fun stuff I am doing with my daughter or husband because we really are doing those things!!!!! It is def not because I need to prove anything to anyone.....Im just really happy at this point in my life!!!!

What DOES annoy me is the 9563865936 quizzes that people take.

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the only thing that annoys me about FB is my sister's status updates. all she does is complain about stupid people and her job, or whatever else is bugging her. she never has a positive thing to say.

i thought once i left home i wouldn't have to deal with that anymore, guess not.

but i like everything else about FB so far, i like seeing everyone's pics and funny comments

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I have FB open for most of the day while I'm at work... sometimes I update, sometimes I don't.

But I do have one 'friend' who should change her name to TRAIN WRECK because her statuses and her postings are just too much to bear.

She actually friend requested one of my friends - someone I know IRL who she doesn't know - and he accepted her but he has since emailed me asking if she had mental problems and saying that he can't imagine I'm friends with someone like that. SOOO embarrassing!

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Posted by Eireann

I mean you have the chronic updaters who feel the need to fill everyone in every step of the way. Then you have the people who constantly complain. Then you have the people with the strong political views who don't keep it to themselves. Then there are the people whose lives are so great; the people who give entirely too much personal info... etc. etc... I feel like I'm rolling my eyes daily... And these people are by no means the majority of my "friends," but still...

this sounds like another site I frequent -can't quite put my finger on it, but gosh it sounds familiar

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this is EXACTLY i just went through my facebook friend list and deleted more than half of the people. i cant take all the wackos!!!