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Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
I am 4 months PP and I still feel a roller coaster of emotions some days. At first, I felt a bit sad after DD was born. Not at ALL sad about her being in my life - I feel so incredibly blessed and can't imagine my life without her in it. It was just the whole life style change and how DIFFERENT my life was in such a short period of time. These feelings eased up a bit as the weeks went on, but recently, I am feeling them again. I almost feel as I've lost a piece of my identity. I am now always a Mom, and not who I was before. I hope I am not sounding ungrateful, because I thank God for my DD EVERYDAY. I just can't seem to figure out who I am now. Does anyone else feel this way? Is it the hormones? Or does it sound like more is going on? I hate feeling like this - especially when I look at DD's beautiful face - makes me feel like such a bad mom for feeling this way.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
I felt the same thing for quite some time and it was in no way a reflection of how much I loved my son....I was just mourning my old life and my freedom. In the very early days, Ill admit i actually thought "what have I done?" It honestly took me a good year to accept my new normal. Somedays I still miss my old life and my freedom, Im not going to lie. But it does get easier and you WILL find time for you again and to go out with girlfriends and go to starbucks and read a book. Youll get dressed up and do your hair and makeup again. I did get back to my old self, but adapted to fit my new life. Its totally normal, at least it was for me.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
I wish I had some answers for you, but since I didn't experience my depression for more than a few weeks I don't feel like I have any insight for you. But I hope these links will help.  
LIF PPD Support Thread
Lehcar's PPMD support link HTH!
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
I don't think those feelings are strange in any way! Your life changes completely when you have a child--that baby comes before your needs ALL the time. I'm a new mom, but want to make a point of having an identity aside from being a mom, because it can become all-consuming. I don't want a mom necklace or rings...Some of my friends with older kids are talking about going on vacations and everything and I just feel TRAPPED with this newborn....
Anyway, I think it is natural, and rational to feel as you are feeling. Nothing will ever be the same again.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
It is hormones IMO yes. I think almost everyone goes through this. I'm sorry you are now 
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Thank you everyone! It's reassuring to know I'm not alone.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Posted by eddiesmommy
I felt the same thing for quite some time and it was in no way a reflection of how much I loved my son....I was just mourning my old life and my freedom. In the very early days, Ill admit i actually thought "what have I done?" It honestly took me a good year to accept my new normal. Somedays I still miss my old life and my freedom, Im not going to lie. But it does get easier and you WILL find time for you again and to go out with girlfriends and go to starbucks and read a book. Youll get dressed up and do your hair and makeup again. I did get back to my old self, but adapted to fit my new life. Its totally normal, at least it was for me.
perfectly said! well, for me anyway. i was the same way. i had the blues BAD though. i really mourned my old life too and it actually took me a year to feel genuinely comfortable with what was m new life. i always envied those women who seemed to transition and accept their new lives with so much ease!
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Posted by ME75
Posted by eddiesmommy
I felt the same thing for quite some time and it was in no way a reflection of how much I loved my son....I was just mourning my old life and my freedom. In the very early days, Ill admit i actually thought "what have I done?" It honestly took me a good year to accept my new normal. Somedays I still miss my old life and my freedom, Im not going to lie. But it does get easier and you WILL find time for you again and to go out with girlfriends and go to starbucks and read a book. Youll get dressed up and do your hair and makeup again. I did get back to my old self, but adapted to fit my new life. Its totally normal, at least it was for me.
perfectly said! well, for me anyway. i was the same way. i had the blues BAD though. i really mourned my old life too and it actually took me a year to feel genuinely comfortable with what was m new life. i always envied those women who seemed to transition and accept their new lives with so much ease!
Its good you asked, bc as you can see youre not alone. I thought, at the time, i was the worst mom in the world for feeling the way i did and was ashamed to admit I felt that way. Its a hard adjustment and its A LOT of work. One DC is older, my DS is almost 2, they are more fun then they are work. Plus, they can entertain themselves. You can read a magazine article or two on teh couch while they play. Its gets easier to take time here and there, and then even in big chunks. I know 2 seems so far away for you, but I swear itll be here before you know it!
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
I felt the same way in the beginning. That is completely normal. Having a child is life altering like nothing else. Maybe speak to your Dr about it and they can help you get thru it.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Posted by babybug631
I felt the same way in the beginning. That is completely normal. Having a child is life altering like nothing else. Maybe speak to your Dr about it and they can help you get thru it.
ITA... Hope you feel better soon
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Posted by steph4777
Posted by babybug631
I felt the same way in the beginning. That is completely normal. Having a child is life altering like nothing else. Maybe speak to your Dr about it and they can help you get thru it.
ITA... Hope you feel better soon
I'm seeing my doctor at the end of the month and will mention it to him. I just didn't even want to have to address the issue but obviously, it's not going away 
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
Posted by babyquestion
Posted by steph4777
Posted by babybug631
I felt the same way in the beginning. That is completely normal. Having a child is life altering like nothing else. Maybe speak to your Dr about it and they can help you get thru it.
ITA... Hope you feel better soon
I'm seeing my doctor at the end of the month and will mention it to him. I just didn't even want to have to address the issue but obviously, it's not going away
Me again.....defintely address it. I wish I had instead of "working through it" for a year.
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
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Posted by eddiesmommy
I felt the same thing for quite some time and it was in no way a reflection of how much I loved my son....I was just mourning my old life and my freedom. In the very early days, Ill admit i actually thought "what have I done?" It honestly took me a good year to accept my new normal. Somedays I still miss my old life and my freedom, Im not going to lie. But it does get easier and you WILL find time for you again and to go out with girlfriends and go to starbucks and read a book. Youll get dressed up and do your hair and makeup again. I did get back to my old self, but adapted to fit my new life. Its totally normal, at least it was for me.
perfectly said! well, for me anyway. i was the same way. i had the blues BAD though. i really mourned my old life too and it actually took me a year to feel genuinely comfortable with what was m new life. i always envied those women who seemed to transition and accept their new lives with so much ease!
Its good you asked, bc as you can see youre not alone. I thought, at the time, i was the worst mom in the world for feeling the way i did and was ashamed to admit I felt that way. Its a hard adjustment and its A LOT of work. One DC is older, my DS is almost 2, they are more fun then they are work. Plus, they can entertain themselves. You can read a magazine article or two on teh couch while they play. Its gets easier to take time here and there, and then even in big chunks. I know 2 seems so far away for you, but I swear itll be here before you know it!
OMG.. that happened to me too!!! I actually talked about it with my husband and with my parents.... and both have been amazing about helping me out... watching the baby when I want to get a mani-pedi, go to the gym, go out with the girls... I even went away this past weekend for a bridal shower for one of my best friends from college... and it really showed me I can have my old life... and my incredible new life with DD.... I couldnt wait to get home and hold her!!!
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Re: Feeling a little blue - Need some advice
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Posted by ME75
Posted by eddiesmommy
I felt the same thing for quite some time and it was in no way a reflection of how much I loved my son....I was just mourning my old life and my freedom. In the very early days, Ill admit i actually thought "what have I done?" It honestly took me a good year to accept my new normal. Somedays I still miss my old life and my freedom, Im not going to lie. But it does get easier and you WILL find time for you again and to go out with girlfriends and go to starbucks and read a book. Youll get dressed up and do your hair and makeup again. I did get back to my old self, but adapted to fit my new life. Its totally normal, at least it was for me.
perfectly said! well, for me anyway. i was the same way. i had the blues BAD though. i really mourned my old life too and it actually took me a year to feel genuinely comfortable with what was m new life. i always envied those women who seemed to transition and accept their new lives with so much ease!
Its good you asked, bc as you can see youre not alone. I thought, at the time, i was the worst mom in the world for feeling the way i did and was ashamed to admit I felt that way. Its a hard adjustment and its A LOT of work. One DC is older, my DS is almost 2, they are more fun then they are work. Plus, they can entertain themselves. You can read a magazine article or two on teh couch while they play. Its gets easier to take time here and there, and then even in big chunks. I know 2 seems so far away for you, but I swear itll be here before you know it!
OMG.. that happened to me too!!! I actually talked about it with my husband and with my parents.... and both have been amazing about helping me out... watching the baby when I want to get a mani-pedi, go to the gym, go out with the girls... I even went away this past weekend for a bridal shower for one of my best friends from college... and it really showed me I can have my old life... and my incredible new life with DD.... I couldnt wait to get home and hold her!!!
I think this is very important to do. I knew before I had my DD that it would be a major adjustment since I've always been used to doing whatever I wanted. I promised myself that I would make time for me without any guilt. I honestly think by doing things for myself it has made the adjustment to motherhood MUCH easier.
I wish you the very best.
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