friend problem

I have a girl friend that I have known since 7th grade, shes a sweet girl and is verry close to me but can also be a total pain in the AZZ,, shes a verry needy friend, and when me and my ex broke up she asked to be my roomate since i have a 2 bedroom.. i told her i really didnt want a roomate and she kept harping on the idea cause she needed a place to stay.. i told her im sorry its nothing against you i just need privacy and like to do things on my own...since then she has asked me 2 other times, one which reuslted in me not talking to her for 6 months cause i felt soo aggrivated with her conastant asking... we eventually made amends..and now she went to europe for the summer... she comes back tomorrow..and i just got an email that says...

"can i sleep at ur place tomorrow nite, my landlord is asking for $$ that i dont have and im having family drama so i cant stay there"...

how many times can i say im not wanting a roomate, i dont like pple sleeping over--im just weird like that, i cant even go to the bathroom in my own house if someone else is here!!! i kno that sounds strange but I have tons of reasons for why i dont want any1 sleepingover..and the fact that she keeps harping on it and asking when i have previously told her no, i feel like abad friend.. but I KNOW if i let her sleep over for even one nite to "be nice" she will never leave...

dont get me wrong shes a great friend 99% of the time and a sweet girl but
on top of that im sick as a dog i really feel bad but just dont need the addedd.. drama, im unemployed and have enuff of my own problems..that sounds bad but i dont know what to do

Re: friend problem

michi, blow it off, don't reply and screen your calls, she'll get the hint

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Re: friend problem

Posted by muchinluvmichi

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

michi, blow it off, don't reply and screen your calls, she'll get the hint

yeah i hear ya babe, thats the point i feel im at,,,like saying it nice didnt work, and now i either hafta be mean and blunt about it, or ignore her.. i really wish she would have just taken no for an answer ya know..

btw i miss ya i feel like i havent seen u and boosh in 4ever

Re: friend problem

wait Michi are you talking about ME!???

Here I thought you were going to let me move in, babysit the baby when I go back to work .. sigh... I guess you don't really know WHO your friends are




Anyhoo... I generally agree with Don, I think that you gotta ignore her and claim you never got her messages, etc if she confronts you. And when she DOES confront you (because I'm sure she will), you have to just say to her what you said here in this email.. that you just have a lot of personal issues going on right now, you love her as a friend but you just cannot allow her to move in right now... be firm, just tell her like it is and don't bend!

Message edited 8/16/2005 4:39:10 PM.

Re: friend problem

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

Posted by muchinluvmichi

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

michi, blow it off, don't reply and screen your calls, she'll get the hint

yeah i hear ya babe, thats the point i feel im at,,,like saying it nice didnt work, and now i either hafta be mean and blunt about it, or ignore her.. i really wish she would have just taken no for an answer ya know..

btw i miss ya i feel like i havent seen u and boosh in 4ever

and you say you don't like when people sleep over

what about that night in June, when I....

nevermind

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Posted by FeliciaDP

wait Michi are you talking about ME!???

Here I thought you were going to babysit the baby when I go back to work .. sigh... I guess you don't really know WHO your friends are




Anyhoo... I generally agree with Don, I think that you gotta ignore her and claim you never got her messages, etc if she confronts you. And when she DOES confront you, you have to just say to her what you said here in this email.. that you just have a lot of personal issues going on right now, you love her as a friend but you just cannot allow her to move in right now... be firm, just tell her like it is and don't bend!

Re: friend problem

Posted by FeliciaDP

wait Michi are you talking about ME!???

Here I thought you were going to babysit the baby when I go back to work .. sigh... I guess you don't really know WHO your friends are




Anyhoo... I generally agree with Don, I think that you gotta ignore her and claim you never got her messages, etc if she confronts you. And when she DOES confront you, you have to just say to her what you said here in this email.. that you just have a lot of personal issues going on right now, you love her as a friend but you just cannot allow her to move in right now... be firm, just tell her like it is and don't bend!

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i thought i was babysitting



you will be babysitting don, so me, flee and boosh can go out on the town

Message edited 8/16/2005 4:41:57 PM.

Re: friend problem

Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i thought i was babysitting

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Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i thought i was babysitting

Um no, because with you I worry that you are going to brainwash the kid into being a Mets fan... <<<shudders>>>

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Posted by muchinluvmichi

i thought i was babysitting

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Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by muchinluvmichi

i thought i was babysitting

you will be babysitting don, so me, flee and boosh can go out on the town

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Posted by CaptainCharisma424

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i thought i was babysitting

Um no, because with you I worry that you are going to brainwash the kid into being a Mets fan... <<<shudders>>>

NEVER!

nah, no mets, jets or wrestling from me

i got bigger plans for the polakos offspring

Re: friend problem

Posted by muchinluvmichi

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i thought i was babysitting

Um no, because with you I worry that you are going to brainwash the kid into being a Mets fan... <<<shudders>>>

NEVER!

nah, no mets, jets or wrestling from me

i got bigger plans for the polakos offspring

yeah "plans" that will require 20 yrs of intense therapy lol

Re: friend problem

Posted by muchinluvmichi

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i thought i was babysitting

Um no, because with you I worry that you are going to brainwash the kid into being a Mets fan... <<<shudders>>>

NEVER!

nah, no mets, jets or wrestling from me

i got bigger plans for the polakos offspring

yeah "plans" that will require 20 yrs of intense therapy lol

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yeah "plans" that will require 20 yrs of intense therapy lol


no no nothing like that

i am going to be the kids' muppet and cartoon ambassador


hahahahahah!!! ur gonna prepare the kid to be a price is right professional by age 5

Re: friend problem

Here's the solution.


- Tell friend she can stay over (but only in your bed)

- Have a couple drinks

- Invite me over and i'll supply the popcorn

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Posted by DjPiLL

Here's the solution.


- Tell friend she can stay over (but only in your bed)

- Have a couple drinks

- Invite me over and i'll supply the popcorn

Re: friend problem

Posted by DjPiLL

Here's the solution.


- Tell friend she can stay over (but only in your bed)

- Have a couple drinks

- Invite me over and i'll supply the popcorn

Re: friend problem

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

no nothing like that

i am going to be the kids' muppet and cartoon ambassador

Ah yes, since I am not a huge muppet or looney toons fan, Don has to teach my child about the finer things in life that I will agree to

Re: friend problem

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by DjPiLL

Here's the solution.


- Tell friend she can stay over (but only in your bed)

- Have a couple drinks

- Invite me over and i'll supply the popcorn

They don't call him classless king for nuthin'

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Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by CaptainCharisma424

flee, i got to ask, you were born right around the time that sesame street came out. What the heck did you grow up on???

I honestly don't know, its all a bluuuuuuur to me

I DID watch Sesame Street and Mr. Rogers and all those shows, but I was not a TV kid at all.. I played a lot more and tried to read books, I wasn't allowed to spend too much time in front of the TV(unless the yankee game was on of course )