Friends After Having Baby

Did any of you ladies find that you lost touch with some friends after you had your baby. My brother was saying him and his wife lost touch with a lot of them because they had kids first. This worries me because a lot of my close girlfriends are still single, dating and no where near having kids. Just was wondering what your experiences have been.

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I have just found that the people that I have most in common with now are people who have children as well. My friends who are not yet up to that point in thier lives or who never want children and I don't really have much to talk about sometimes. I try not to takl about my daughter ALL the time, but honestly she's only 6 weeks old so it is usually the biggest thing on my mind.

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2 of my close friends are engaged and we still chat but no where near what it was like before I was married with 2 kids.

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Majority of my friends are married and have kids. I have lost touch with someone who was supposed to be a best friend, she still does things like we used to do when we were all single (she just got married). She has no time for me so after many attempts to contact her I've cut my loses and just decided to end the friendship.

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Yep. Even though alot of my friends do have kids, my closest friend who was my MOH at my wedding, well I hardly speak to her or see her anymore. She's dating someone but she's still very much living the single life. We are just in different places right now and I know we'll reconnect again later.

Also, my friendships with people who do have kids have gotten closer. So I guess it's a trade off.

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Not really I have alot of friends that have children so we are in touch I also have friends that don't have kids and I still talk to and I get together with

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Nope, but after the wedding and moving we did. Now after the baby alot of them are back in our lives and alot of our friends here are getting ready to settle down or are married and thinking of starting a family of their own.
Luckily even our friends who dislike children love Jack. He is really a super happy kid and they like that he rarely cries and by 7pm even if he's not in his crib and were accidently out past his bedtime he just falls alseep. We've made room for the baby in our lives but didn't change our lives for the baby and I think that makes a big difference.
We are still the same people we just on occasion fall asleep by 9pm now and would rather if people want to have a get together or go out to a bar or happy hour we welcome them here and in the long run everyone saves alot of cash and I get to feel like a grown up and not just a mom and plan a bunch of food and Dh gets to play bartender.

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I have one friend, who is trying to get pregnant herself, who seems to be distant. Sometimes she's very inconsiderate...for example I was feeding Jared at her house and she told me that she has to leave for a doctor's appointment right now. I had to go in my car and finish feeding him so she could leave. She's the type of person to pick up and go where ever and whenever she wants. She'll realize that won't happen when she has a child.