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Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
taken down cause you never know whos on here looking....
but thanks for eveyone's advice and kind words....
Message edited 5/10/2007 3:30:28 PM.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
I'm sorry. Just try to ignore it. Guys can be so stupid and insensitive sometimes.
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| Posted 5/10/07 11:14 AM |
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| Posted 5/10/07 11:15 AM |
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
thanks.... i figure they will all come around... i just feel bad for dh- nothing ever really bothers him - but for some reason this really is!
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| Posted 5/10/07 11:35 AM |
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saraH
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
That's awful and incredibly insensitive of them. I would ignore them and hope they relaize that they look like jackazzes, not you.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
Maybe they aren't angry, maybe they just don't know what to say? Either way, I'm sure it hurts.
Um, never mind, I just read what they said. Jerks.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
You can't please everyone.
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| Posted 5/10/07 12:28 PM |
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snuggleupagus
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
I've noticed that most of the lack of "excitement" we've received comes from people in our lives "not in that place" in their lives.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
I have some friends who had children when we were much younger (not sure if your friends are young but this was my experience). I just didn't know what to say or how to act. I felt like asking how they were feeling was being nosy or something. I never said anything like "now you're trapped." I usually just asked very open ended questions like, "what's new" or "what's up" and left it up to them to discuss the pregnancy. I was very excited once the babies were born, but my real interest in these kids began when they were walking and talking. It was then that I always wanted to see them.
Also, there is a chance that some of your friends have been trying to conceive. If they have been trying for a while without success, it may make be harder for them to be excited for you.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure that they will come around. They might also feel pressure from the wives now that you are pregnant and probably are getting nagged at home so thats why maybe they are not mentioning anything to him...
Hopefully they will come around and realize what jacka**** they are!!!.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
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We experienced something similiar. DH and I were married almost a year when we got pg with DD, but we have been together for 7 years at the time.
Some of the reactions we got were not that great, my SIL was getting married 2 months before I was due I was her MOH, and friends of ours said the same thing as your friends. THose same friends are now pg or trying to get pg.
I think alot of single/married friends get "scared" cause a baby is a big change and may feel they may lose your friendship cause you won't have much in common anymore.
OR-they are trying to get pg themselves and are naturally envious that you got pg first.
Give em time, they'll come around and if they don't they weren't real friends to begin with.
yep. not really my friends but i know a few of DH's "friends" are like this in general. That's their problem
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Posted by boobanick
I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure that they will come around. They might also feel pressure from the wives now that you are pregnant and probably are getting nagged at home so thats why maybe they are not mentioning anything to him... .
thanks for all the feedback ladies.... i think since most of the other guys are older and married for a longer time than us -im thinking this might be the case!
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
Although we have not yet experienced this I am expecting it when we tell his friends. But for different reasons. I think as someone earlier said that my DH's friends will be scared about how this will affect their friendship with him. That he wont be as available, that he will change, etc. But honestly we were the first to get married and we went through it then to a small extent and now all of his friends are either married or engaged (we are married less than 3 years)
I think Men overall have a harder time with change and growing up. Give them time, they will come around.
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
Posted by boobanick
I wouldn't worry about it. I am sure that they will come around. They might also feel pressure from the wives now that you are pregnant and probably are getting nagged at home so thats why maybe they are not mentioning anything to him... .
I agree with teh pressure comment. I know in one couples case this happened when we were getting married!!
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Re: Friends and Family's Reaction to your pregnancy?
Posted by snuggleupagus
I've noticed that most of the lack of "excitement" we've received comes from people in our lives "not in that place" in their lives.
This is so true...even though everyone close to us was absolutely thrilled for us, its other people and acquaintances whose lives are "not in place" that reacted a little weird...you know, the snarky comments, etc etc...I wouldn't worry...seriously. This is going to be the best time in your life and those that truly love you will be absolutely thrilled for you!
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