friends/family and TTC

Does anyone else feel like many of those close to them don't understand what its like to TTC? I love my friends, they are like family to me, but I just think they don't get it. I get the sense they think I am worrying too soon( I have been TTC for 8 months) or obsessing over nothing. TTC has been so much harder than I thought it would be. My friends are ususally my biggest support, but I just don't feel like I can talk about it without feeling a little judged. On a good note, my mom has been so understanding, which I didn't expect. I guess I am just having one of those days.

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some of family members doesn't understand. I tell them we are trying and I get oh ya I am sure you are... or hurry up and have a baby already, I want you to have a girl comments. Ya if it was that easy
I don't bring up TTC with anybody only if they ask. It makes it easier for me to avoid talking about it.

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Yes, I definitely do feel the same way. We're in our 7th month and we haven't really told anyone that we're trying. I think people just tend to say not to worry and it will happen. How I wish it was that easy!

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Absolutely! Originally, I only told a couple of close friends that we were TTC. Nobody understands at all. I heard "Relax! It will happen if you stop thinking about it!" over & over as well as "You're obsessing waaaay too much". Since my m/c, I've told a few friends that we're waiting a while to start TTC again, & I've told my best friends that, while we are trying, I prefer not to discuss it at all & I will let them know when I get pregnant. I just cannot handle the things they have to say, even if they mean well. It just hurts too much to.

My mother found out we were TTC when I miscarried. I'm glad she knows now because she understands the best out of everyone around me, and even when she doesn't quite understand, she tries her best to be supportive & not make me just feel like I'm crazy.

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Definitely! Which is why I haven't told many people.

I told my mom and sister but they never seem interested when I tell them about what I am going through. Unfortunately my mom plays favorites (something I have learn to ignore) and if it's not happening to my sister..Its not all that important.


My friends are great. They 3 I told are really supportive. One is TTC as well and I feel like it has really brought us closer. The others like to hear about the new things I've learned or the next step. It really feels good.

Then I have you guys which makes this whole TTC journey so much easier.

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We have not told anyone that we are TTC. Actually, I told one girlfriend b/c she's been TTC for a couple of years so I'm comfortable talking to her about it. I have not yet told her that we are seeing an RE, though.