Friends having babies

I went to go visit one of my closest friends in the hospital today, she just had her baby yesterday. He was so cute and I was watching her with him and it was so sweet. I just kept thinking is that ever going to be me? I want it so bad.
I know I am preaching to the choir here, but the longing for a baby is just incredible.
I sometimes imagine what it would be like if I was one of those "normal" women who can get pregnant easily. IF and going to the RE has become such a part of my routine its hard to think of it being any other way. I guess its counterproductive to imagine it being easy, but wouldn't that be wonderful?

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I know how you feel

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I totally agree. I also wish I was one of those normal girls , who didn't have to try for a long time. I had 2 friends in the past month tell me they were pregnant. One after 1 month trying and the other said it took her a long time, she's been trying since June
I sometimes ask myself "why me" I haven't figured it out yet, but I guess there is a reason.

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One of my best friends just got pregnant again, with her second illegitimate child by a different father. She did not even want to get pregnant. I just want to smack her when she makes jokes about getting her tubes tied because she is so fertile.

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i was once one of those normal women...well it took me 10 months to have my son, but still i had no issues. what the hell is going on now is anyones guess....and its 15 months gone by and ive seen girls conceive and already deliver their babies.i am literally surrounded by people having babies and its getting harder.

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Sorry you are feeling down.. I know exactly how you feel. I can't get my head around what is happening to us all.. i just wish that we could all have what we want.. babies

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I know what you mean. When I was still on BCP (and blissfully ignorant to the fact that I don't ovulate), I was so excited to use the CBEFM to time my cycles and every single time we'd BD, I'd think "was that the one? Is it going to happen this time?"

A good friend of mine (a fellow LIFer, actually) just became pregnant during their very first time trying. I love her to death and I am SO happy for her, but it made me really sad that it'll never be me. I will most likely never have the experience of BD during just the right times, only to POS and find that we've done it.

I think we all know what you're going through.

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I can totally relate to what you are feeling. All of the sudden my identity has changed to "infertile" and it's so strange. I never ever thought I would be in this boat. I always swore I was "fertile myrtle" and would just be able to get pregnant on the first shot. I look foward to the day I will get to see the BFP, but I know it will never be a suprise or unplanned. I think it's hard to think about the future, to imagine first getting pregnant at all and then to worry if we'll have to go through this each time we want to have a baby. I am so happy for my friends who have babies and I love to go see them, but yes there will always be the "why couldn't that be me" feeling. I think it's totally normal