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july06bride
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Friend's Mother Died

One of my best friend's mother died this morning...she has been sufferring with cancer for about a year now-and they gave her 6 months to live-she didn't make the 6 months...

I feel terrible for her...
Please keep her family in your prayers...

(those who have been through losing someone so close-a parent-how were your friends able to help you... I feel that I dont even have the words for her...it's just so sad...she is so young to lose her mom-and her mom was young too)

edited for spelling

Message edited 9/29/2006 10:54:12 PM.

Posted 9/29/06 10:52 PM
 
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Posted 9/29/06 10:52 PM
 

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I am so Sorry!

Posted 9/29/06 10:52 PM
 

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Posted 9/29/06 10:53 PM
 

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I keep thinking of Grey's Anatomy from the other night. Fynn says how nobody could say anything, but bringing him food was so helpful.

Posted 9/29/06 11:00 PM
 

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Re: Friend's Mother Died

Posted by july06bride

(those who have been through losing someone so close-a parent-how were your friends able to help you... I feel that I dont even have the words for her...it's just so sad...she is so young to lose her mom-and her mom was young too)

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For me, there were several things friends did to help me. Spending time with me was probably the best way. I am not someone who finds it easy to ask for help, but I did appreciate the extra invitations to dinner or a movie or something that got me out of the house.

After my dad died, I found myself becoming very distracted while driving and came close to having a few accidents. I started taking public transportation to work for a few months and appreciated friends offering me rides. There may be small things you can offer to do to make life easier - ask her.

the best thing you can do is talk to her. If she doesn't want to talk, respect that, but I think sometimes people are afraid to talk to you about the illness and the death because they are afraid it will upset you. I found it more comforting to talk about my parents, even if I cried or got upset while doing it.

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Posted 9/29/06 11:00 PM
 

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Posted 9/29/06 11:01 PM
 

july06bride
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I baked her a cake to bring to hospice yesterday-she brought it-I called her to see how things went this morning-and she said her mom "was gone"

I was really at a loss for words-

She is a very good friend, so I know DH and I will take her and her DH out, and we have a girl's night/day too

In my heart I feel like I want to do more, and dont know what to do...

Posted 9/29/06 11:04 PM
 

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I agree with everyone else about just being there. I know my role when someone close died was to call my friend's friends to let them know. It's a hard thing to tell people & it's awkward calling those grieving to make those calls.

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Posted 9/29/06 11:04 PM
 

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I was dating a guy whose father died, and I wrote him a long card about how proud his dad would be of all he did (and listed a bunch of things). He said he really appreciated it.

Posted 9/29/06 11:06 PM
 

july06bride
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Re: Friend's Mother Died

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I agree with everyone else about just being there. I know my role when someone close died was to call my friend's friends to let them know. It's a hard thing to tell people & it's awkward calling those grieving to make those calls.

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thank you...thats a good idea ...she has a sister and three brothers-but I am sure thats someplace I could step in... i am close enough to the family...

I already called our friends... that was difficult...

Posted 9/29/06 11:06 PM
 

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I would just visit - bring food (don't be upset if they don't eat - I seriously lost 20lbs (that I didnt need to lose, i looked like a skeleton) after my father died.

I just liked my friend to come over and we would watch movies.

Posted 9/30/06 6:44 AM
 

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is this chuck's mom? i'm sorry for your friend Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/30/06 7:59 AM
 

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Posted 9/30/06 8:00 AM
 

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Posted 9/30/06 8:46 AM
 

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Posted 9/30/06 12:42 PM
 

july06bride
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is this chuck's mom? i'm sorry for your friend Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon


who is chuck?
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thanks for all the advice and kind words...

Posted 9/30/06 5:08 PM
 

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Re: Friend's Mother Died

Posted by july06bride

One of my best friend's mother died this morning...she has been sufferring with cancer for about a year now-and they gave her 6 months to live-she didn't make the 6 months...

I feel terrible for her...
Please keep her family in your prayers...

(those who have been through losing someone so close-a parent-how were your friends able to help you... I feel that I dont even have the words for her...it's just so sad...she is so young to lose her mom-and her mom was young too)

edited for spelling





my friend just lost her dad.. and he WASNT sick.. It was a shock.. he was very young and healthy..
nothing you can say will make them feel better...

for my friend
lots of hugs, listening to her cry scream vent... I watched her kids for her because she had no one else that she trusted watch them.. its the little things......

Posted 9/30/06 5:28 PM
 
 

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