Getting men's sh*t together

DH and I were talking about his friend who is way too old to still be living at home with his parents, jumps around from job to job because he doesn't know what he wants to do, jumps around from woman to woman for the same reason, has no money in the bank, etc. I could go on and on.

Basically it's a picture of a man who is old enough to be responsible and independant and an adult, but is not.

I reminded DH what he was like when I met him and how I got his sh*t together... Helped him organize his life to get out of debt, save money, get a better place, stop depending on his parents, etc.

Do you think there are more men nowadays who "need" a good woman to lead them into adulthood? Did you play this role for your boyfriend/fiance/husband?

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I know people like that of both sexes, I don't think it's exclusively a guy thing.

I don't play that role for DH- he got his sh!t together himself.

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I think it runs in both men/women. For some reason, they want the sense of security before they start to get things together or they are just so scared of the change of what they were once use to!

I didn't have to hold my DH's hand in the least bit. We both had our stuff together before meeting & dating...

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I helped dh too. He was 19 when I met him and I helped him get his sh*t together.
It took along time for him to get out of the mold his mother raised him in (not a very good one) but he is so much better than when I met him.

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in general, i feel that men are A LOT more dependent on women then woman are dependent on men.

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I see it 50/50

I know men who do need someone to hold their hand and help organize their life but I also know men who CAN NOT be told what to do -- they don't want another mother figure, they want to break away and be independent

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i think my DH was more ready for the whole marriage/buying a house thing than i was... LOL... hes an only child and his parents have WAAY too much time on their hands ( his mom has never worked) so i think he got tired of being their entire focus and really couldn't wait to get out of their house... (although i think i did give him a little push to get his first apartment)
and as far as career, he knew what he wanted to do from the time he was little, and did what he had to do to get there..
i think it can happen to women, too though. one of my friends is 26, and really isn't moving forward with her life... she still lives at hme, with no real plans to move out yet... she has a job, but still isnt sure that its what she wants to be doing, etc.... in her case, i think her boyfriend is sort of helping her to start to think about moving forward...

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When I met DH, he was going to a check cashing place, didn't have a credit card & refused to keep a bank account. Instead it was in his sock drawer in an envelope.

When I learned about the check cashing place, my shocked response of "I thought only illegal immigrants went to check cashing places??", he straightened his act up.