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mrsboss
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good article from thefrisky.com
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Thoughts? I know I have dealt with this with a friend or 2. It is funny how some relationships change when a baby arrives. I just thought it was a good read.
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Diva
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
I can relate to this article a lot. I often come down on myself for not being a good friend, even a good family member. I try not to think I'm that selfish that I can't contact people, but maybe I really am since I'm so caught up in own life.
The only silver lining is that I'm not the only one that feels this way.
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| Posted 2/17/10 10:36 AM |
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imas98
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
"now life is divided among the singles, the coupled-ups/marrieds, the marrieds with kids, and the singles with kids. I would like to be wrong here, but I don’t think I am"
Interesting article, it definitely hits home. I was just thinking about this recently too......I was at a party of about 6 couples and I was the only one without a child or one on the way. I have no interest in having children or playing with other people's babies so I felt a little like the odd man out. I was happy to talk about how everyone is feeling, what they need to do or not do during their pregnancies & baby names & stuff but what'll happen in the future ? What happens when everyone has a baby but us ??
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| Posted 2/17/10 11:08 AM |
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drpepper318
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
Good article! Thanks for posting. Kind of made me a little depressed though but a lot to think about. I can relate to it and think a lot of what she said is true. Friendships definitely change. I think I could be a better friend at times. Most of my friends don't have kids yet but it does concern me, also if I ever have kids in the future (which is a maybe at this point), how will I change as a friend? Will I be the mom whose life revolves around nothing but their child & I'll lose my friends? Am I bad friend now to my friends who have kids? I know absolutely nothing about kids and assume a parent is busy feeding/changing/ taking care of their kid so I don't want to bother them but then time passes without hearing anything either. It's hard, I lost a friend a few years back when she had her daughter because she made it clear I wasn't important enough to make time for. I wonder if I could have tried harder on my end or if it would have mattered. I guess priorities change in people's lives and friendships reflect that. When I got married, I lost a few of my single friends because they stopped inviting me out anymore... I never could understand that. Oh well, I guess we can't control the actions of others, we can only control our own and hope we're doing what's best.
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drpepper318
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
Posted by imas98
What happens when everyone has a baby but us ??
I have thought of this too 
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| Posted 2/17/10 8:59 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
Posted by drpepper318
Posted by imas98
What happens when everyone has a baby but us ??
I have thought of this too
If I may...as someone with young children as well as an older daughter..(16 to be exact)...
Eventually we all come back to being "ourselves"...
At some point you will be friends with couples or singles who either have grown children or no children...empty nesters of sorts...who want to talk about things other than our kids.
I know myself that I have reached a point in my life that I dont want to constantly discuss the children...
When my girlfriends and I get together, the ones with the older kids (10+)..sure the conversation is dashed with the kids..but in general its about work, vacations, and just life in general..or we spend a ton of time reminiscing about our lives up to that point...
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| Posted 2/17/10 9:39 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: good article from thefrisky.com
I do not have children yet but my mother does 
Her life bff from childhood is child free, and a few of her good friends are single.
I am a part of my mother's life--an important part--but she has a whole world outside of me --a career (she is retired), hobbies, interests, etc. that she discusses with her friends.
Sure I think when I have an infant and another one of my friends is single and/or child free there may be a time period where she may not truly relate to me--but real friendships are about more than months or even a cple years IMO...
I won't always be at mommy &me..kids grow up fast and although I do not have kids yet--I do not see EVER losing my close friendships bc of my marital status or children.
Just my take on it 
ETA: Although my mom's BFF was child free and did not want her own children--she always enjoyed hanging out with me. Sure often her and mom did their thing--but sometimes I was included and she took an interest in me (& my brother) bc we were my mothers family--and my mother was important to her.
Message edited 2/17/2010 10:09:36 PM.
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