Got my first re-gifted present/baby toy

so yesterday we were exchanging gifts with DH family and one of his brother and his SIL couldnt make it b/c their children have pneumonia, so she sent two gift, that read, "To our baby cousin, from (our nephews names), well we were all excited to see what she gave us and out comes two toys that were not in boxes and one of them was scratched LOL, they were my little nephews toys, that they obvioualy outgrew and she just re-gifted, well DH family was horrified, his mother and our other SIL were so mad she did that, the SIL even said our other SIL should have just given it to DH and me, dont re-wrap it and make it like its a new gift from our nephews. I was also hurt, b/c when it comes to our nephews DH and I NEVER make $$ an issue, i easily spent over $100 for her two kids, i rather her just not give anything since the baby isnt even here yet. So now its the family joke and I told DH we better expect tons of hand me down gifts over the next couple of years I have to say she is being generous and giving me and DH a breastpump, carrier and car seat for the baby as an infant and a co-sleeper, maybe she feels b/c shes giving us that stuff she doesnt have to spend $$, but i never asked for it, she offered. Oh well people are wierd

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Ugh! I hate regifters! Huge pet-peeve of mine. And my SIL happens to be one too. I just find it so rude. I agree that I would rather have someone give me nothing at all or a very small thoughtful gift than a recycled gift. I have never regifted any type of present for anyone. The worst part is, do people actually think that you can't tell it's a recycled gift? It's always so obvious to me. And in your case, the fact that your SIL didn't even bother putting the toys in a box and that the toys were scratched! I think it would have been different if she had said they were hand-me-downs and asked if you would like them for your child.

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While it was very nice of her to give you "hand me down" toys, she could have explained that she would do that instead of buying new gifts. There was no need to use wrapping paper.

Nobody wraps used toys.

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oooh, thats tacky. I wouldn't mind the hand me down toys, but she shouldn't have passed them off as new gifts!

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i think it's weird too, but maybe the little boys really wanted to do something special and "wrapping" made it special to them. maybe there's more to the story...i don't know maybe i'm trying to hard to give her the benefit of doubt!!

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her boys are 21 months and almost 3 so they still dont quite understand the holidays just yet (ex: BIL and SIL dot make a big deal about it; they just put their tree up 2 days ago), this was def just my SIL being cheap LOL

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Well...maybe she shouldn't have wrapped it up and made it a "gift" like that...but the gesture was sweet in its attempt atleast. My mother received TONS of hand-me-downs when she was having my kid sister...no one wrapped them, but they were obviously used. I think the kindness and the gesture is more grand than the fact that she might have misled you into thinking you were opening up a 'new gift." Besides, if her kids really helped, they were learning about sharing and that is a big thing for small kids to learn. Sharing their toys, even toys they are too big for, is hard.

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Re: Got my first re-gifted present/baby toy

possibly, but when i spoke with her today, she was like oh did you like the gifts? Didnt even mention that they hand me downs or whatever, just acted like they were new stuff LOL, i totally would agree that her giving me hand me downs is very generous, i just feel like dont try to disguise it and pretend like you went out of the way to choose a toy specifically for the baby to be. I dont know, i think Dh family was more horrified then me, they just felt that it was rude, just hand me the toys and tell me that the kids no longer needed it but they had so much fun with it and now we want your baby to also, or something like that. Plus like i said above, her boys are so young, shes not the type to make it like its a sharing and caring thing, her own DH didnt even know where the gifts were for the family or what she got everybody and hes the one home with the kids all day (hes a stay at home dad)

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