Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

DS is only 11 days old and for the most part people have been pretty understanding that we have not had anyone over...it's cold and flu season and I would prefer people stay away for now...especially with h1n1 out there. The pediatrician said to limit visitation for at least 6 weeks.

Well there are a select few people who have indicated that they were insulted that we have not invited them over to see the baby and have said they now feel unwelcome in our home. DH and I were like "are you serious?". We have explained to them our reasons for not inviting them over and have told them this has been for everyone, not just them. They continue to take it personally though.

How has everyone handled this? I feel that this is our DC and while we appreciate their well wishes, we would appreciate it if they respect our stand on this. WWYD?

ETA: In addition to DS's age and lack of immune system, I am still recovering from child birth (I continue to be significantly incontinent and it's quite embarressing and upsetting to me). I really don't want people around to witness me pee my pants thanks!

Message edited 11/21/2009 7:54:58 PM.

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

DD was born in the middle of flu season too. Honestly, I didn't care if people got pizzed off, that's pretty much how I handled it.

I just told people we were just trying to adjust to life with a newborn and that I was having a difficult recouperation (even though I wasn't)and needed some time before having people over to visit.

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

People need to get over themselves. Honestly, I would ignore it. Bond with your baby, follow your peds advice, and ignore the ignorant jerks who have chosen to take it "personally" that you want to protect your brand new baby from germs.

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

yuo have to do what you feel is right.... to protect your baby as well as yourself because after you give birth your own immune system can be slightly compromised as well... i know my family is LOVING my no kissing rule right now but i do not care.... my child as well as my dh and i are what matter

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

you do what you need to do and if you want NO visitors then people need to understand that...

when i had DS & DD (both summer babies) i said NO visitors the 1st week i was home.

people were mad at me, but they are my kids and they are my rules...

so stick to your guns.. they will get over it

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

My DS is already 7 weeks old and I'm still careful about letting people come over to visit (i limit to about 2 at a time). If people don't like it, that's their problem. Remind them that if your DC gets sick, you are the one who is goign to be worried, going to the Dr, and taking care of a sick child, not them.

My DS is my 1st and I've gotten to the point where I realized that I have to do what is best for my child, in all aspects, and I've stopped caring who I p*ss off, even if its my own parents.

I would hold my ground and only do what you are comfortable with. I'm extra careful and don't care who calls me paranoid. My DH's friend and girlfriend are coming over tomorrow to meet the baby and I'm about to text them to verify that they aren't sick, haven't been within the past week, and haven't been around a sick person. I did it today too with a friend who came to meet the baby. I phrased it like this "I know I'm probably being crazy but I just want to make sure you aren't sick, etc...."

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

You really can't worry about what others think - they won't be there holding your child if they need a spinal tap b.c they got a fever when they are less than 8 weeks old. If they are more concerned with themselves than your DC's healthy maybe you are better without them.

MIL got into a huge fight with my DH b.c 1) DD#1 might have had a little virus when the baby was born (although we are now pretty sure it was just allergies) but as a precaution we had to separate them for a week and 2) MIL had a little cough and was losing her voice - she insisted it was allergies but EVEN if it wasn't it was GOOD for the germs to get into my DD#2's system so that she could get sick (she was only 7 days old and born at 37 weeks) to get a better immune system. DH turned blue in the face trying to explain that if DD#2 got a fever for any reason she would need a spinal tap.

It is very hard having a baby during cold and flu season both of my girls were late spring early summer (June and late May) but I was still very cautious esp this time around since swine flu was still an issue. Just stick to your guns and explain that they are welcome in a few weeks but your Ped has STRONGLY advised due to the swine flu etc that you not have visitors at this time.

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

we have said no kids and everyone has respected that or said anything about it (at least not to my face ) By limiting the kids we haven't had as many visitors as we did w/ Jack.

If anyone were to question me I would say this was my peds orders (which it was)

My son - my rules!

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

I would ignore them, to be honest. How could they not understand the possible repercussions of your baby getting sick? I have a new family member who I haven't seen yet- I'm a little disappointed but of course I understand and would never make the parents feel bad because I would do the same thing.

Re: Grrr...need to vent a little...people upset that we are not having visitors

we had so many visitors it was out of control. Before DS was born I was thinking only immediate family in the hospital, yeah. right. I had absolutely no control over who was coming to the hospital who was coming to my house, it was a mad house all the time

oh and the best part, Dh cousin, worst offender, had a kid, I didn't see her for almost 8 weeks bc they had a no visitor rule

Message edited 11/22/2009 9:10:15 AM.