Have you ever had a disagreement w/ one of DC's friends/classmates mothers?

I had a situation this year that could have gotten really ugly (yearbook related). I backed down just to be polite b/c I didn't want to make waves w/ the other mom since she was also DD's daisy leader. Now it turns out her DD is also in my DD's class for next year. I really wanted to "put her in her place" but I felt it was best not to say anything.

Have you ever had any issues w/ other moms in DC's school? How did you handle it?

Re: Have you ever had a disagreement w/ one of DC's friends/classmates mothers?

Never issues, but one mom just annoyed the crap out of me. I pray that our sons are not in the same class in September.

Re: Have you ever had a disagreement w/ one of DC's friends/classmates mothers?

Re: Have you ever had a disagreement w/ one of DC's friends/classmates mothers?

There was one mom that we had one playdate with and then I found excuses not to have another for the rest of the year, and they are in a different school district so we won't have to see her again.

In the 2 hours I spent with her she went off on a tirade on how it's my DH's fault the country is in an economic crisis after she asked where he worked and I said a hedge fund. Any time I tried to explain that his fund had zero exposure to sub-prime investments she talked over me.

Then after one of her sisters called to talk about St. Pat's plans she asked if I had any siblings and I said I had a brother. She asked what he did and I said he was a cop in the city. Literally 30 minutes on how all cops are alcoholics who abuse their families, especially the Irish ones. I look very Irish.

It was a nightmare, I could barely stand to be polite to her when we saw each other at the school.

ETA: In hind sight I should have left earlier, but DD was having fun playing with her DD and I didn't want to make her upset too.

Message edited 7/1/2010 8:29:55 AM.

Re: Have you ever had a disagreement w/ one of DC's friends/classmates mothers?

Twice.

Once in kindergarten. It was minor and our sons are still friends.. but it did color my perception of her a bit. She and I are cordial and really not much else.

This year my son's group of friends started using really colorful language. They were caught a few times and were spoken to. One mother decided that it was all the fault of the other kids in the group. Instead of contacting any of the other moms - she called the school and asked them to make sure her son didn't sit next to X, Y or Z because she felt they had a negative influence on her son. I called her up and asked her what her thinking was. Our boys are still friends - but she's definitely shown a side that I don't like.

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So far, so good for us.

However, I've seen different parenting styles - parents that are much more permissive than I intend to be, so we don't set up playdates with those kids.

One mom volunteered that she thought it was fine her 15 year old plays beer pong with his friends & then later mentioned he had a sleepover & one of the kids stole her younger son's ADHD medication. While I think she's a sweet woman & I do think her sons have great heart, I think I'm way too uptight to be close with someone like that. I'd have a problem letting my kid go on playdates at her house.

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There are mothers that I don't want to be BFFs with, but no all-out confrontations. Probably because I am extremely laid back and non-confrontational!!

However, I can feel one coming with one of DS's friend's moms. I will most likely be able to avoid it, just different parenenting styles, KWIM? I think it's OK to let me almost-10-year-old walk around the corner to friend's houses if he calls me when he gets there, and she thinks that I am an extremely negligent parent for doing so. Oh well... live and let live, right??