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hoping2013
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Just wondering: does anyone else worry that they are not "positive" enough about the whole thing? My head goes in circles sometimes telling myself "yes, you will get pregnant, you can" and then other moments of deep down reveal of fear that it will never happen and that I likely believe it won't. And I know how you think affects things, but please, is there anyone out there that can say "yes, I didn't think it would happen" and you did have a baby? I guess I am worried that deep down I don't believe it will happen and that is playing a role in this awful journey and the reason why I am not getting pregnant when everything else was perfect, attended to, medicated, etc........does this even make sense?!! Thanks for listening and let me know if it strikes a chord.
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It took us 7 medicated cycles including 4 iuis and 2 Ivfs. After the first Ivf didn't work I would try to stay positive but I now knew the reality that Ivf may not work. After the second Ivf before my beta I got really bitchy. I convinced myself it was af coming and I was out. I couldn't be positive. Well it worked and I now have a 7 month old. Yes your mind body connection is real, but it's not everything. You could convince yourself it worked, you are preg and then you get a neg beta and vice versa.
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| Posted 2/6/14 8:52 AM |
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JSDB
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In the day to day I do get down and find it helps
Not to get my hopes up, but long term I try to stay positive that it will eventually work out. I have friends who have been through hell and back (even worse stories than my 3 mc last year) and they have healthy babies now. Their stories give me hope that its just a matter of time...
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| Posted 2/6/14 8:54 AM |
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I think about this every single day!! I've practically almost convinced myself that it's not going to happen, which is so stupid of me. Its weird though because with me I seem to be most positive the weeks I have my period and then once I start a new cycle I just automatically think I'm out from the very beginning. It's like a sick game that I play with myself. I guess i'm trying to just protect myself from experiencing another negative, after a year and a half I'm just sick of seeing them! I think going through IF its totally normal to have those feelings and think the craziest things and although I do believe that your mind can affect your body I don't truly believe that our IF worries will cause us to never get pregnant (at least I pray it doesn't). It will happen for us oneday, thats all we have to keep saying!
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hazel2
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I can totally relate to this. The only thing I can say is that when I do get those negative feelings, I try to talk myself out of them and keep repeating "I will get pregnant" ..even if I may not be feeling it. It sounds crazy but it's all I can think of to do. It's also making me really bitchy b/c I am sooo angry. I guess that's normal - it's very hard 
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Positivity does not get you pregnant. It does not keep you pregnant. It just keeps you sane. 
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| Posted 2/7/14 12:51 AM |
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hoping2013
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Well said PennyCat, very well said and point taken. Thank you everyone - it is such a relief to know that I am not alone...it was another thing I was starting to feel ashamed of and beating myself up over.
Hazel, I totally get the anger. I was so angry last weekend that I "acted out" - my version was getting my hair chopped off, smoking my friends cigarettes (don't worry, they are not using this months eggs!) and playing poker till midnight drinking beers. I just needed to blow off steam, let loose and boy did it feel good. I love jamming to insanely loud music in the car. Gotta find a good way to get it out.
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| Posted 2/7/14 8:04 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: head games
Posted by PennyCat
Positivity does not get you pregnant. It does not keep you pregnant. It just keeps you sane.
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| Posted 2/7/14 8:09 AM |
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cowgirlkate
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Yup!!!
But I try to remind myself that people get knocked up when they REALLLY REALLY don't want to soo my atittude can't matter that much right?
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| Posted 2/7/14 9:08 AM |
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starr
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Re: head games
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by PennyCat
Positivity does not get you pregnant. It does not keep you pregnant. It just keeps you sane.
sooo well said
after my first IVF failed I had pretty much a nervous breakdown. I left work right after getting the neg beta call and proceeded to hysterically crying for the next 36 hrs. without almost stopping. I am pretty sure I reacted this strongly due to all the meds were leaving my body, but needless to say I was beyond depressed and just "knew" this was it for me - was really angry that others have no issues while I will never have a baby. I even took time off of work so collect myself.
Once I got over my meltdown I looked at what shld be our next steps and one of the most important things was deciding taking a break. we were out of IF treatments for 6 months. I am now 21weeks 
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hoping2013
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Congrats Starr!!! That is very inspiring to say the least!!!
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