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bikramaddict
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Help! What Would You Do?
I just started a new job and another offer came along. Originally, I passed it up but then I changed my mind and they accepted it. So I was prepared to tell my boss today that I need to start next week - this place is too good to pass up and I've only been here a week.
A few minutes ago, the other place tells me that they want my start date to be moved to May 7th instead of May 1 and a new offer letter will come on Monday. This job is about to send me on a biz trip and if possible, I'd like to avoid them making the expense when I have no intention of going.
All that said, would you tell the boss now (today) that I'm leaving as planned, or wait for the new offer letter on Monday and hope that the tickets for the trip don't get booked?
I already have an offer letter, they're just sending me a new one with the new start date and the CEO's signature. The reason for the new start date is b/c the head of the NY office will be traveling on the original start date of May 1.
TIA!
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Re: Help! What Would You Do?
get the new offer letter first. Call the other company and tell them exactly what you told us. Honesty is best here. Don't say a word to your current company until you get the other offer. If you have to go on the trip after all that, then go.
JMO..good luck!
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| Posted 4/25/08 10:43 AM |
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bikramaddict
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no matter what i do, i'm going to F over my boss and i'm trying to figure out then, if i wait it out until the new letter comes on monday, which will be less of an F u to him.
#1 - Go to the rehearsal on Monday. Monday night resign and then skip the event the next day. He'll be short a hand, but will have saved a few hundred by not having me on this trip.
#2 - Go to the event on Tuesday and help out. Resign that night. He will have booked the trip and lost $$$ on me. Then I risk that coming out of my paycheck.
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| Posted 4/25/08 11:47 AM |
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why would he lose money? Because the trip is booked as a non-refundable ticket?
can you offer to pay for the ticket at that point? If it's a few hundred, you might want to just eat it..isn't it already booked?
I think hanging around to help him would be the right thing to do.
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| Posted 4/25/08 1:51 PM |
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bikramaddict
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its not booked yet but apparently when they order tickets there is always a substantial penalty or whatever b/c they cancel frequently and i hear them complaining about it.
my friend had the idea of resigning monday night and then maybe offering to come help out at the event the next morning? i hate how the employees always try to do right by the employer but the employer has no problem f'ing over the employee if need be.
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| Posted 4/25/08 2:10 PM |
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you could do that but I bet they wouldn't take you up on it.
I'm just concerned about burning a bridge. You never know when you meet these people again. Always good to take the high road.
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| Posted 4/25/08 3:35 PM |
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Michi
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Re: Help! What Would You Do?
at the end of the day u hafta look out for urself not the company b/c u do not want to screw urself over.. i would wait until u get the 2nd letter in case g-d forbid something falls through....then i would tell the other job ur leaving....if they lose money well then im sorry to say too bad for them...its nice that u would offer to work as a favor to them if need be thats a great idea, im not sure if its necessary tho...
its not good to burn a bridge but u need to do what is good for u..at the end of the day a company would be looking out for themselves and not you, so u do what ya gotta do..
GOODLUCK!!
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| Posted 4/25/08 4:38 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Posted by Blu-ize
you could do that but I bet they wouldn't take you up on it.
I'm just concerned about burning a bridge. You never know when you meet these people again. Always good to take the high road.
i am concerned about that too. but i also know they would f me over in a second if they had to. I don't know how to get around NOT burning the bridge. what do you think of sending a message like this after i get the offer letter on monday? my dad suggested making it over the top about how amazing this opportunity is. Here it is:
Dear boss,
I was recently caught off guard when I was presented with the job opportunity of a lifetime. It is truly a dream come true for me, and was too good to pass up. I need to start immediately.
I feel terrible doing this to such a kind person as yourself, but this is everything I have ever hoped for and wanted. I wish you only the best, and hope that our paths will cross again.
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| Posted 4/25/08 5:16 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Posted by Blu-ize
why would he lose money? Because the trip is booked as a non-refundable ticket?
can you offer to pay for the ticket at that point? If it's a few hundred, you might want to just eat it..isn't it already booked?
I think hanging around to help him would be the right thing to do.
do you mean hang around until the new job starts or hang around until after the event on tuesday? i really don't want him to book that ticket for me if i can avoid it.
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| Posted 4/25/08 5:17 PM |
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nov04libride
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Posted by RandJ0806
my dad suggested making it over the top about how amazing this opportunity is. Here it is:
Dear boss,
I was recently caught off guard when I was presented with the job opportunity of a lifetime. It is truly a dream come true for me, and was too good to pass up. I need to start immediately.
I feel terrible doing this to such a kind person as yourself, but this is everything I have ever hoped for and wanted. I wish you only the best, and hope that our paths will cross again.
I think it's a little too over the top, and I think I'd let them know immediately and offer to stop working that day....I'd just be more matter-of-fact in the letter, but I would definitely have a face to face conversation first:
I would like to inform you that I am resigning from my position as xyz, effective xyz.
Thank you for the opportunity for professional development that you have provided me. At the time I accepted this position I had interviewed at other companies, and was just offered a position that more closely matches my professional goals.
I have enjoyed working for xyz and appreciate the support and training, and I do apologize for my short time here.
Sincerely,
Message edited 4/25/2008 9:03:26 PM.
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| Posted 4/25/08 9:00 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Posted by nov04libride
Posted by RandJ0806
my dad suggested making it over the top about how amazing this opportunity is. Here it is:
Dear boss,
I was recently caught off guard when I was presented with the job opportunity of a lifetime. It is truly a dream come true for me, and was too good to pass up. I need to start immediately.
I feel terrible doing this to such a kind person as yourself, but this is everything I have ever hoped for and wanted. I wish you only the best, and hope that our paths will cross again.
I think it's a little too over the top, and I think I'd let them know immediately and offer to stop working that day....I'd just be more matter-of-fact in the letter, but I would definitely have a face to face conversation first:
I would like to inform you that I am resigning from my position as xyz, effective xyz.
Thank you for the opportunity for professional development that you have provided me. At the time I accepted this position I had interviewed at other companies, and was just offered a position that more closely matches my professional goals.
I have enjoyed working for xyz and appreciate the support and training, and I do apologize for my short time here.
Sincerely,
that's good. i like it. i'm also a chicken. i really don't want to do this in person. i am so bad with confrontation....
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Help! What Would You Do?
I had something very similar happen to me!
I got 2 jobs at around the same time but only had an offer letter from 1 of them. the one that couldn't get me the offer letter is the job I really wanted (and have now). it was during the holidays and the SVP who had to approve it was out for a few weeks on vacation.
so - I had to actually start that first job and then I quit on my very 1st day there!! (I went home for lunch and finally had the offer from the 2nd job). it was awkward to say the least, but I had to do what was right for me and they totally understood.
good luck!
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Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I had something very similar happen to me!
I got 2 jobs at around the same time but only had an offer letter from 1 of them. the one that couldn't get me the offer letter is the job I really wanted (and have now). it was during the holidays and the SVP who had to approve it was out for a few weeks on vacation.
so - I had to actually start that first job and then I quit on my very 1st day there!! (I went home for lunch and finally had the offer from the 2nd job). it was awkward to say the least, but I had to do what was right for me and they totally understood.
good luck!
yeah, i imagine this will be awkward. FIL suggested that I say something about how the commute is a lot longer then I expected (true) and say that its taking a toll on my marriage, then offer to finish out the week and that's it.
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| Posted 4/26/08 7:11 PM |
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