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Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

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ThePinkGoose
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Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

I am a stepmother of two but no children of my own yet with DH. So, do I classify as Childless? Just curious, no judgment either way. Chat Icon

Posted 11/15/10 11:07 AM
 

Lisa
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Professional Aunts No Kids

Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....

Posted 11/15/10 11:25 AM
 

SusiBee
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by Lisa

I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....



Ditto.
There are children in your life that you parent.

Posted 11/15/10 11:50 AM
 

MrsPJB2007
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by Lisa

I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....




Ditto.

You are a stepmom --- so by nature the word "mom" is attached to your name so I wouldn't say you are CF. Your SKs are still very much a part of your life, definitely doesn't seem CF to me. Chat Icon

Posted 11/15/10 12:50 PM
 

MrsKelly
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

i agree with the others

Posted 11/15/10 1:27 PM
 

PrincessVonTrockel
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by MrsKelly

i agree with the others





same

Posted 11/15/10 1:46 PM
 

BsMomma2014
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

I agree with the other girls

Posted 11/15/10 3:01 PM
 

tourist

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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

It makes you a childless parent. Chat Icon
It depends if they live with you, but either way , there are certain things you would still have in common with those of us who are CF.

Posted 11/15/10 4:43 PM
 

ThePinkGoose
In Your Hands

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Nunya

Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by tourist

It makes you a childless parent. Chat Icon
It depends if they live with you, but either way , there are certain things you would still have in common with those of us who are CF.



haha This is what I was thinking. The "parent" but without all that glory lol I was just curious. I always considered myself "childless" but i've helped raise two great kids so .... It just made me curious what everyone else thought.

Posted 11/15/10 8:11 PM
 

dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

You are a childless StepMother.

Notice how all the Childless women here said you are not childless?
Ask someone with a bio kid.
They will sneer at you.

Trust me.
I go through this a lot.


It's a lonely place sometimes.
Bio Moms say you are childless
and women without kids say you are not childless.

HOWEVER my Stepkids say I am not childless and that is ALL that counts to me!!!!!!

Message edited 11/16/2010 1:36:12 PM.

Posted 11/16/10 1:35 PM
 

greenfreak
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by dfw343

They will sneer at you.
Trust me.
I go through this a lot.




That's terrible. Chat Icon

Posted 11/16/10 3:31 PM
 

Kara
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Nevermind, I can see we're talking on a deeper level here. Thought you were asking for purposes of this board...

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Message edited 11/17/2010 12:02:51 PM.

Posted 11/17/10 8:57 AM
 

jilliibabii
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

I hope you don't consider yourself childless. If I were a kid, I'd hope my stepmom would think of me as one of her own. Chat Icon

Posted 11/17/10 10:53 AM
 

dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

They sneer because if you don't push it out, you are not the Mom. I get that. BUT biology is not what makes a Mother. I don;t have a good relationship with my MOm. However, I NEVER EVER over step my boundary with my S-kids' BM. Because of that, she accepts me and includes me. I am lucky.

It's OUTSIDERS that have more opinions.

Jill, it's nice to hear that you would think that. Unfortunately, 80% of stepkids hate their SMs. I am lucky to be in 20%. DAMN lucky. My s-kids are awesome!

Posted 11/17/10 11:04 AM
 

Lisa
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by dfw343

They sneer because if you don't push it out, you are not the Mom. I get that. BUT biology is not what makes a Mother.



WOW...I wonder how they treat adoptive parents??

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Posted 11/17/10 11:25 AM
 

dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

adoptive is different, There isn't another Mother...so to speak, You should see some of the SM boards I am on. The ones with bio kids are BRUTAL!

Posted 11/17/10 11:37 AM
 

jilliibabii
Mrs. O'Connor

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Jillian

Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by dfw343

Jill, it's nice to hear that you would think that. Unfortunately, 80% of stepkids hate their SMs. I am lucky to be in 20%. DAMN lucky. My s-kids are awesome!



I have nothing but third party experience with it, but I've always felt like that's kids being kids- mostly. Most kids don't even like their biological parents until they are older. Chat Icon Or there's always a possibility of deeper issues- like kids hating their step parents because they feel like they are trying to take the place of their biological parents. But I still would hope the parent would consider the kid one of their own.

At least you're lucky enough to have a good relationship with you stepkids!

Posted 11/17/10 1:30 PM
 

heathergirl
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"

Posted by SusiBee

Posted by Lisa

I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....



Ditto.
There are children in your life that you parent.



I agree. Just because you didn't birth them doesn't mean you're not their parent, and to me, that is not childless.

Posted 11/17/10 9:19 PM
 
 
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