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ThePinkGoose
In Your Hands
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Name: Nunya
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Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
I am a stepmother of two but no children of my own yet with DH. So, do I classify as Childless? Just curious, no judgment either way.
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Posted 11/15/10 11:07 AM |
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Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
Name: Professional Aunts No Kids
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....
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Posted 11/15/10 11:25 AM |
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SusiBee
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Member since 3/09 8268 total posts
Name: S
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by Lisa
I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....
Ditto. There are children in your life that you parent.
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Posted 11/15/10 11:50 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
MBA at your service!
Member since 7/06 12020 total posts
Name: MJ
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by Lisa
I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....
Ditto.
You are a stepmom --- so by nature the word "mom" is attached to your name so I wouldn't say you are CF. Your SKs are still very much a part of your life, definitely doesn't seem CF to me.
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Posted 11/15/10 12:50 PM |
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MrsKelly
just hangin' around...
Member since 11/06 6305 total posts
Name: Krista
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
i agree with the others
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Posted 11/15/10 1:27 PM |
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PrincessVonTrockel
Trophy Wife in Training
Member since 11/09 2953 total posts
Name: Natalie
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by MrsKelly
i agree with the others
same
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Posted 11/15/10 1:46 PM |
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BsMomma2014
Fly high little one
Member since 6/10 2662 total posts
Name: nicole
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
I agree with the other girls
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Posted 11/15/10 3:01 PM |
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tourist
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
It makes you a childless parent. It depends if they live with you, but either way , there are certain things you would still have in common with those of us who are CF.
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Posted 11/15/10 4:43 PM |
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ThePinkGoose
In Your Hands
Member since 8/08 4706 total posts
Name: Nunya
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by tourist
It makes you a childless parent. It depends if they live with you, but either way , there are certain things you would still have in common with those of us who are CF.
haha This is what I was thinking. The "parent" but without all that glory lol I was just curious. I always considered myself "childless" but i've helped raise two great kids so .... It just made me curious what everyone else thought.
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Posted 11/15/10 8:11 PM |
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dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
You are a childless StepMother.
Notice how all the Childless women here said you are not childless? Ask someone with a bio kid. They will sneer at you.
Trust me. I go through this a lot.
It's a lonely place sometimes. Bio Moms say you are childless and women without kids say you are not childless.
HOWEVER my Stepkids say I am not childless and that is ALL that counts to me!!!!!!
Message edited 11/16/2010 1:36:12 PM.
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Posted 11/16/10 1:35 PM |
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greenfreak
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Member since 9/06 11483 total posts
Name: greenfreak
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by dfw343
They will sneer at you. Trust me. I go through this a lot.
That's terrible.
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Posted 11/16/10 3:31 PM |
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Kara
Now Zagat Rated!
Member since 3/07 13217 total posts
Name: They call me "Tater Salad"
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Nevermind, I can see we're talking on a deeper level here. Thought you were asking for purposes of this board...
Message edited 11/17/2010 12:02:51 PM.
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Posted 11/17/10 8:57 AM |
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jilliibabii
Mrs. O'Connor
Member since 6/10 12821 total posts
Name: Jillian
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
I hope you don't consider yourself childless. If I were a kid, I'd hope my stepmom would think of me as one of her own.
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Posted 11/17/10 10:53 AM |
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dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
They sneer because if you don't push it out, you are not the Mom. I get that. BUT biology is not what makes a Mother. I don;t have a good relationship with my MOm. However, I NEVER EVER over step my boundary with my S-kids' BM. Because of that, she accepts me and includes me. I am lucky.
It's OUTSIDERS that have more opinions.
Jill, it's nice to hear that you would think that. Unfortunately, 80% of stepkids hate their SMs. I am lucky to be in 20%. DAMN lucky. My s-kids are awesome!
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Posted 11/17/10 11:04 AM |
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Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
Name: Professional Aunts No Kids
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by dfw343
They sneer because if you don't push it out, you are not the Mom. I get that. BUT biology is not what makes a Mother.
WOW...I wonder how they treat adoptive parents??
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Posted 11/17/10 11:25 AM |
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dfw343
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
adoptive is different, There isn't another Mother...so to speak, You should see some of the SM boards I am on. The ones with bio kids are BRUTAL!
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Posted 11/17/10 11:37 AM |
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jilliibabii
Mrs. O'Connor
Member since 6/10 12821 total posts
Name: Jillian
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by dfw343
Jill, it's nice to hear that you would think that. Unfortunately, 80% of stepkids hate their SMs. I am lucky to be in 20%. DAMN lucky. My s-kids are awesome!
I have nothing but third party experience with it, but I've always felt like that's kids being kids- mostly. Most kids don't even like their biological parents until they are older. Or there's always a possibility of deeper issues- like kids hating their step parents because they feel like they are trying to take the place of their biological parents. But I still would hope the parent would consider the kid one of their own.
At least you're lucky enough to have a good relationship with you stepkids!
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Posted 11/17/10 1:30 PM |
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heathergirl
Cocktail Time!
Member since 10/08 4978 total posts
Name: American mouth
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Re: Hmmm define "CHILDLESS"
Posted by SusiBee
Posted by Lisa
I dont consider that Childless...but that is my opinion....
Ditto. There are children in your life that you parent.
I agree. Just because you didn't birth them doesn't mean you're not their parent, and to me, that is not childless.
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Posted 11/17/10 9:19 PM |
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