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NS1976
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How do we feel about hugging?
How do you feel if you're somewhere and a child hugs your child. Not a friend..but a child at the park or something?
Or if you have a child that does this, would you tell them to stop?
I will explain after some opinions.
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Are the children the same age? or the child that went to hug your child is about how much older?
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| Posted 8/30/09 12:14 AM |
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NS1976
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Same age.
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| Posted 8/30/09 12:15 AM |
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karjules
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Just a hug? I don't see anything wrong with that...
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| Posted 8/30/09 12:21 AM |
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Children express their emotions more openly. If it's just a hug, I don't see anything wrong with that either.
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| Posted 8/30/09 12:23 AM |
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NS1976
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I feel like I am always walking such a fine line when it comes to other parents..its exhausting! 
We were in Barnes and Noble..and this little girl (a year younger than Megan) came over to us. I got up to look at some books and my dh was sitting with her. WHen I came back, Megan was hugging the little girl and saying "Your so cute." She acts like shes older than everyone else. LOL
Megan always hugs other little kids..I dont know why, but part of me thinks its just really sweet...but on the other hand, I am thinking other parents dont like it very much. The mother was gently pulling her daughter away from Megan and saying ok ok..my dh didnt try to stop Megan.
When we left, I told him that he cant let Megan just go around hugging kids that we dont know and he needs to try to distract her or something..but then he said, I dont see the big deal, shes just being sweet, would you rather her hit them? I kinda see his point but I am so torn!
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itsbabytime
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
When it's a stranger - I'll admit, it's happened with DS a few times and I'm not crazy about it. I do think its cute and sweet when friends do it but, for a number of reasons I'm not crazy about it when we are out and a child we don't know randomly starts trying to hug or kiss DS - but it's less of an issue now that he is older b/c he can get away 
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ABCiverson
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I don't see the big deal. I don't mind it at all! Kaitee has even played and walked around holding hands with kids around her age that she didn't know. I will worry when she gets a little older
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| Posted 8/30/09 12:42 AM |
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I don't see it as a big deal. I actually think its pretty cute. But there have been times when Ella has been uncomfortable when another child is trying to hug her...in that scenario, I would intervene like that mother did to "rescue" her.
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| Posted 8/30/09 8:59 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
i'm not a germophobe, but i'll admit, that makes me uncomfortable. i notice it happening more now when we are out - older, mobile kids come up to DS and want to touch and hug him. i am sorry, but i don't like it. i don't know their families, or who in their house is sick, etc.
yes, of course they are kids, and they mean well, but i just don't like it. sorry 
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| Posted 8/30/09 9:24 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I don't think it is a big deal at all. I don't think I would ever discourage Christopher from hugging another child.
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| Posted 8/30/09 9:25 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I don't think its a big deal.
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| Posted 8/30/09 9:27 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Posted by headoverheels
i'm not a germophobe, but i'll admit, that makes me uncomfortable. i notice it happening more now when we are out - older, mobile kids come up to DS and want to touch and hug him. i am sorry, but i don't like it. i don't know their families, or who in their house is sick, etc.
yes, of course they are kids, and they mean well, but i just don't like it. sorry
Oooh, Christopher is now going to give Luca a BIG HUG next time we see you 
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| Posted 8/30/09 9:29 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Posted by itsbabytime
When it's a stranger - I'll admit, it's happened with DS a few times and I'm not crazy about it. I do think its cute and sweet when friends do it but, for a number of reasons I'm not crazy about it when we are out and a child we don't know randomly starts trying to hug or kiss DS - but it's less of an issue now that he is older b/c he can get away
LOL well you probably won't want to send him out with my DD b.c she is everyones friend and hugs all the children and encourages them to play with her.
I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand - I love the fact that she is outgoing and wants to be friends with all the other kids older and younger, BUT I am not crazy about the fact that I don't know who she is hugging and what they might be sick with. I can tell you some parents don't like it and even other parents thought it was okay that my child was hit or shoved b.c she hugged another child and was told the hitting or shoving was acceptable b.c she was hugging them and they didn't want to be hugged. I have also been told by other parents that I need to have her stop hugging other children b.c it is very inappropriate esp b.c their child doesn't like to be touched at all.
I have tried to tell DD that she shouldn't hug strangers only family and friends - but she is only 2 and when we have these conversations she then gets very self conscious and clings to me - so I worry that if I push it - it will have a negative effect on her. For now I try to remind her but I'm always there to intervene if it looks as if the other child doesn't want to be hugged.
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:08 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
I have kids hug me alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the time. I guess I just seem huggable I wouldn't want my child hugging a stranger, but people she knows, I don't mind. Some kids really need a hug and don't get it enough at home, so I can't turn them down, although I do a sideways hug where I hug them with my hip to them. It just seems less familiar
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:09 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by headoverheels
i'm not a germophobe, but i'll admit, that makes me uncomfortable. i notice it happening more now when we are out - older, mobile kids come up to DS and want to touch and hug him. i am sorry, but i don't like it. i don't know their families, or who in their house is sick, etc.
yes, of course they are kids, and they mean well, but i just don't like it. sorry
Oooh, Christopher is now going to give Luca a BIG HUG next time we see you
oh no! how do i know where that child has been??? 
i will fully admit to being slightly anal retentive about certain things, contact from strangers included 
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BaroqueMama
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Oh wait, the KIDS hugging? I thought you meant a strange kid hugging YOU. That seriously happens to me too often
I don't care if Ava hugs another kid. They're kids, their emotions are what they are, no hidden agendas, ya know? It's how they show affection.
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browneyedgirl
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
i don't like it. i hate when other kids are hugging and kissing DS--mainly the kissing and i put a stop to it ASAP.
i know they're being sweet, but i'm not comfortable with it. if it's a friend's kid i don't mind though, but strangers, no way!
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:15 AM |
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babymakes3
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Posted by MrsFresca
Children express their emotions more openly. If it's just a hug, I don't see anything wrong with that either.
ITA.
If the other child was hanging on my DC or vice versa, I'd intervene. A simple hug or two, not a problem.
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:17 AM |
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saraH
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
IDK, I have mixed feelings on this as well.
DD will have kids hugs her at her little gym class and she kind of freezes up and doesn't know what to do.
Other times she is the huggie and the kids are like....ummm...ok...
But then she will give kisses at the drop of a hat so I am at a loss with this kid.
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:22 AM |
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Palebride
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Strange adults hugging my kid = weird and uncomfortable.
Strange kids hugging my kid = ADORABLE!
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:26 AM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
just a normal hug, I have no problem. an aggressive hug that can knock the kid over, I don't like that and would tell them to be careful
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:37 AM |
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mamasita27
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
my DD loves other kids and has hugged some she only just met a few times before. I don't tell her to stop unless she starts getting carried away! I apologize to the parents though because you never know how other people feel and if they seemed weirded out then I would make DD stop. I think it's so cute though when kids hug each other and I don't really see anything wrong with it!
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| Posted 8/30/09 10:42 AM |
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ckone
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
It happens and I don't get weirded out. Some kids are so affectionate and hug everyone. I think it's endearing. Kids are so pure , they don't know - unless they are much older , then that is strange.
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| Posted 8/30/09 11:17 AM |
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Alli06
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Re: How do we feel about hugging?
Well, my DS is kind of young but at his age I wouldn't want any strange kid coming up and hugging or kissing him. If it is family or friends, then I don't mind at all. This is more because of germs.
Now, when he is say two years old, I would still not like it, but not make that big of deal about it.
I do think alot of parents are either going to love it or hate it. So, you never know how the parent is going to react. I would say the same for the kids.
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