How do you individualize your attention?

My girls are young-3.5 months but I can see they are already aware of each other and of who mommy is and who I am playing with. I love having twins but sometimes it's really hard to bond with one for any length of time because Im always being "shared". I read bedtime stories with one on each leg in the rocker, we do tummy time together, I put them down for naps/bed together.. Im even feeding both at the same time.

Im just curious, how do you ensure that you get one on one time with each baby?

On a seperate note, Im floored by how fast this time is going!!! They are changing/growing so much each day. If possible I love them more and more each day! I was not prepared for this!

Re: How do you individualize your attention?

This is our ongoing struggle here too. I did everything together at that age, it was just easier logistically. eating, napping, playing. We also had to have them on a schedule.

Right around the 1 year mark, I started to make a conscious effort for 1-on-1 time. Even if it just means coming to Target with mommy. They both get a kick out of riding in the cart, usually they are in their stroller TOGETHER. We have gone to gymboree alone, library, bday parties, etc. I also will take one upstairs and DH will stay down with the other and we have mommy/baby reading time. Sometimes we just cuddle in bed. They love it, and so do I

ETA: i think they also like to get away from each other every once in awhile bc they seem to miss each other and WANT to play nice when they are "reunited"

Message edited 12/29/2012 12:46:19 PM.

Re: How do you individualize your attention?

awww, love that! Yes, we try our best to keep them on a schedule so it makes it hard.. I think once the holidays are over, I might have to make an effort with DH so he can watch one while I take one to grandmas.. or vice versa.

How do you individualize your attention?

Mine don't nap at the same time so I always have at least 20 mins each alone per day but at night when it's bed time my DJ and I trade off different babies every night

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Omg I have such bad twin mommy guilt. I try to hold each for a bit after feeding but its usually cut short by the other needing to eat. Then ill put them in their crib with their toys and talk to them. They really aren't up too much between feedings and if they are they are cranky and get mad when I hold them.

Re: How do you individualize your attention?

Form the beginning we knew that if we divided them we could conquer. lol I take both of them places all the time, but I try to have a 1 on 1 outing at least once a week. If it is a trip to target or the super market they love the attention.
When they were very little I had serious mommy guilt. One of my girls is so much more needy then the other and has been since they were born.

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