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How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
I swear this kid refuses to say I'm sorry. We've tried over and over to teach her to say it to the dog when she pulls his tail, to me when she hits me and she flat out refuses to say it  She just yells No! when we tell her to say she is sorry, or ask if she is sorry.
Today she threw her sippy cup at me and made my lip bleed  So I put her in time out, explained why that was not nice and left her there for a few minutes while she screamed. Then I went back and explained again how you can't throw things and why she was in time out and then said "tell mommy your sorry for hurting her" and she said no. What is the deal? She says Bless you when someone sneezes, please, thank you.....but refuses to say I'm sorry!
She is 2.....am I asking for too much?
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
OUCH!
Christopher has been saying "I'm sorry" for a long time, but I can't remember if it was at Chelsea's age, or a little later..
I know Christopher says he is sorry when he can see I am mad, he apologizes A LOT actually.
I'm not sure if you can "teach it" or just keep reinforcing it you know? What about at school? Do they?
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| Posted 2/28/10 12:10 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
Posted by KateDevine
OUCH!
Christopher has been saying "I'm sorry" for a long time, but I can't remember if it was at Chelsea's age, or a little later..
I know Christopher says he is sorry when he can see I am mad, he apologizes A LOT actually.
I'm not sure if you can "teach it" or just keep reinforcing it you know? What about at school? Do they?
It hurt a lot! I actually started crying! That didn't seem to move her at all. She only got upset when she realized she was going into time out (which I hardly ever do).
I will have to ask at daycare on Monday. She is so mean sometimes!
ETA: I am listening to her play with her dolls right now and she it saying "Baby that's not nice!" and putting them in time out.
Message edited 2/28/2010 12:20:34 PM.
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| Posted 2/28/10 12:16 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
Posted by nicrae
Posted by KateDevine
OUCH!
Christopher has been saying "I'm sorry" for a long time, but I can't remember if it was at Chelsea's age, or a little later..
I know Christopher says he is sorry when he can see I am mad, he apologizes A LOT actually.
I'm not sure if you can "teach it" or just keep reinforcing it you know? What about at school? Do they?
It hurt a lot! I actually started crying! That didn't seem to move her at all. She only got upset when she realized she was going into time out (which I hardly ever do).
I will have to ask at daycare on Monday. She is so mean sometimes!
ETA: I am listening to her play with her dolls right now and she it saying "Baby that's not nice!" and putting them in time out.
Crying always gets a reaction out of C3, he gets immediate guilt. But I know he HATES getting in trouble...
They are all mean, its crazy!
Well, with the dolls, thats kinda a good thing b/c she must realize that something was bad at least.
I'm bad, b.c I get Chris involved. I am 99.99% of the time the bad guy (b/c I'm here more) but I will say "I am going to call Daddy" and he knows that is serious and he did something bad...
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| Posted 2/28/10 12:28 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
Chris has been saying I'm Sorry for awhile... But wont say it to DH....
When he does something if he wont say I'm sorry he goes into his crib after a few minutes I let him out and tell him if he wants to play he has to say I'm sorry to whoever and I make him say it to their face. If he wont, its back into the crib for another few minutes.
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| Posted 2/28/10 12:38 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
I think you need to just say "Say 'I'm sorry, Mommy'". Be very specific. Give her the exact words to say. Don't let her get up from time out without saying it. She'll get it eventually.
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| Posted 2/28/10 12:50 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
Posted by Kelly9904
When he does something if he wont say I'm sorry he goes into his crib after a few minutes I let him out and tell him if he wants to play he has to say I'm sorry to whoever and I make him say it to their face. If he wont, its back into the crib for another few minutes.
What if he flat out refuses to say it? How long do you keep him in his crib? Chelsea probably would have spent the rest of the day in timeout before she says it.
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
Posted by InShock
I think you need to just say "Say 'I'm sorry, Mommy'". Be very specific. Give her the exact words to say. Don't let her get up from time out without saying it. She'll get it eventually.
This is what we did and Kayla almost always says I'm sorry. She still has her stubborn two year old moments.
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| Posted 2/28/10 1:34 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
I do the same exact thing with Laila and she usually says it after the time out is over.
When I let her out I give her a hug and I tell her to say I'm sorry. And she does. I speak very softly to her and explain what she did wrong.
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| Posted 2/28/10 1:41 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
I think you just have to keep reinforcing "i'm sorry" when it is warranted. Also, use it with your DH, making sure she sees you using it. My DD is a parrot and most of the stuff she has learned it by seeing me do it. She loves copying mommy. Good Luck!! She'll get it.
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| Posted 2/28/10 1:52 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
We do not let her out of timeout until she says sorry. Sometimes she refuses and will sit there for 10 mins before she says it...sometimes she says it right away and gets to come out after 2 mins.
If she does something like hit/kick/hurt the cats and we ask her to say sorry and she doesn't then she goes into timeout and again cannot come out until she says it.
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| Posted 2/28/10 1:57 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
When DS was younger I would have to prompt him "that is not nice. Please say I'm sorry mommy".
Now he can and will say it on his own but still needs prompting sometiems if he is being stubborn.
He knows I'm really upset with him when I dont yell or get loud  One day he dumped a bottle of water on the floor and I just told him I am upset with him and sent him up to his room. Shortly after I heard him crying "I'm sory mommy, I'm sorry" 
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| Posted 2/28/10 1:59 PM |
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Re: How do you teach them to say "I'm sorry"?
DS has a speech delay, and I am not sure he can say I'm sorry even if he wanted to, but usually at the end of the timeout, he will cry and hug me. So I've taken that as his act of contrition and haven't pushed it.
I would say model it for her when it makes sense to do so. If you get mad and yell at her, maybe tell her you are sorry for yelling later, but also explain why you were mad. Don't know if you yell, and I'm not saying you do, it's just an example. Or if DH and you get upset with each other in front of her, say you are sorry. I think it takes time to really understand the meaning of the words though.
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